A woman has posted to an online community on Reddit asking for advice after admitting that she planned to leave her husband of 10 years once she got her inheritance.
She explained the situation in the post
The poster wrote that she has been emotionally checked out of her 10-year marriage for the past eight years. “Ideally I would love to stay with my husband and enjoy our lives and grow old together,” she wrote.
“But honestly the only reason I’ve stayed for the past 8 years is because of our kids and I really can’t afford to leave.”
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They’re always struggling with money
The poster said that although she and her husband both work full-time and earn nearly the same salary, they ‘pretty much never have money’.
She also explained that she’s been handling almost all the household and parenting responsibilities.
She shared her daily routine
In her post, she detailed her overwhelming daily routine, writing, “I take care of the kids 90% of the time. I am 100% responsible for all cooking (I cook a homemade dinner EVERY NIGHT) and big breakfast every weekend.”
The woman’s days always start early and end late, and have completely exhausted her.
The couple lack emotional connection
The poster also said that she and her husband no longer share an emotional connection, admitting, “We have zero to do with each other.”
“Haven’t been on a date in years, don’t cuddle, don’t hold hands, don’t really even talk, rarely ride together or go anywhere together… like ever!”
The poster is also frustrated with the husband’s habits
She further expressed her frustration with her husband’s habits, sharing that he continued to smoke both cigarettes and marijuana even though he promised to quit after they had children.
His failure to follow through with this had become another point of resentment for her.
He was a good dad but not the best partner
She noted that her husband was ‘a great dad for the most part’, as he contributed with things like mowing the grass and helping her father on their property.
But they lacked a connection as partners. “I’ve begged him to be a partner and try to be a loving husband for years but nothing changes,” she said.
She’s fed up with this issue
“Like I said I would love nothing more than to live out our lives together traveling and enjoying life, but I’m NOT going to be his slave forever and I’d prefer to be with a man who loves me or no one at all,” the woman wrote.
She would soon be getting inheritance
The poster expressed that learning she would soon be receiving a significant inheritance was a turning point for her.
She said, “I’ve always known I would have a significant inheritance but we’ve put things in motion for that to happen before my parents pass.”
She’ll be able to afford leaving
“So basically I’ll be getting enough money (much more and vacation home and small self run businesses) that I can afford to leave,” she wrote.
According to her, her husband knows this, but she was still conflicted on whether it was wrong to plan on leaving around the inheritance.
People in the comments sided with her
She received overwhelming support from people under her post, with one person writing, “NTA, but get that divorce done first.”
“That way he can’t challenge for ANY part of your pre-inheritance. You deserve a life that you love! And you work and make as much as he does, so you can afford to get rid of the roommate.”
