Woman upset after boyfirend asks they cook an elaborate meal together only to find out she wasn’t invited to eat it

What’s worse than cooking up a storm for hours with someone you like, only to find out you’re not invited to eat it? That’s what happened to this 23-year-old woman when she spent time with her 28-year-old date. After a rocky evening, the couple decided to cook together. But as they were buying ingredients, the man mentioned that he had friends coming over for dinner that she wasn’t invited to. She felt hurt and unimportant, while he felt she was being avoidant and making assumptions. Who was in the wrong? Read on to find out if she’s the a**hole for assuming she would be eating the dinner she cooked with the guy she’s dating.

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Cooking together but can’t eat together?

A simple cooking date turned into disappointment and hurt feelings for this woman after her boyfriend failed to mention that she wouldn’t be able to join in on the meal they were preparing together. Despite her excitement to spend quality time with him and indulge in their shared love for food, she was left feeling stupid and unimportant. While she acknowledges that she can be avoidant when upset, she feels that her boyfriend should have communicated better and been more considerate of her feelings. Did she assume too much, or was her reaction justified? Read on for the comments and reactions to this frustrating situation.

Validating the normal thread of logic

Dump his a** for asking you to cook and not share ️

Boyfriend invites girlfriend to cook but not eat, major a**hole

Don’t waste time on manipulative partners

Boyfriend’s elaborate meal set-up was classic gaslighting ‍

Commenter reveals past experience as a paid caterer

Cook together but not invited? NTA, BF’s gaslighting is unacceptable.

Don’t settle for being someone’s FWB chef

NTA. Don’t cook for a manipulative partner and his friends

Don’t waste your time on this AH! Cook for someone who deserves it ❤️

NTA and run away ‍♀️

Time to move on Don’t be a maid on call.

Get out of there! Boyfriend bait-and-switched cooking date

Don’t let him use you as free labor #NTA

Dump that a**hole, he has no couth whatsoever.

Stand up for yourself! You deserve better than this.

Boyfriend wants an elaborate meal but won’t even let her eat?
NTA

Partner’s strange request leads to humiliation and control. NTA.

Gaslighting and punishment? NTA, move on.

Commenter expresses shock and disbelief, declares NTA.

When ‘guy you’re dating’ is still the label after a year

Cooking for one? NTA, lose the audacious boyfriend

Don’t be his personal chef, you’re NTA ‍♀️

Stand up for yourself! Dump him and his free labor

Escape while you can! ‍♀️

Dump him! NTA

Commenter calls out childish behavior in relationship disagreement

Cooking an elaborate meal as an apology: thoughtful or ridiculous? NTA.

Don’t walk, run! You’re not the a**hole

Boyfriend excluded her from dinner they cooked together

Communication is key in any relationship NTA

Dump him Sounds like he’s not worth the effort. ✌️

Ditch the jerk who disrespects you like that.

Stand up for yourself, you deserve better!

Cooking together but not eating together? Definitely NTA.

Dump him! You deserve better than a selfish jerk.

NTA. Boyfriend used you for free labor and disrespected you. Move on.

Dump the jerk

Boyfriend invited her to cook, but not to eat? NTA.

NTA! Boyfriend’s cooking plan backfires, earns him AH label.

Dump his a** like a hot, overcooked meal

NTA, dump him sis

Cooked an elaborate meal for boyfriend, wasn’t even invited. NTA.

Don’t be a doormat. Stand up for yourself. #NTA

Dump him like bad food ️ NTA comment section

Escape while you can! ‍♀️ NTA comment and no replies.

Cooking for someone who doesn’t even invite you to eat? #NTA

Don’t be someone’s personal chef on a date

Cooking elaborate meal for ex and friends without inviting you? NTA

Cooked an elaborate meal, but didn’t invite girlfriend. NTA ‍ ‍❤️‍

Don’t let anyone manipulate you. You deserve better!

Don’t be a doormat! Stand up for yourself

Cooking an elaborate meal together but not invited to eat? Dump him ‍

Partner invites to cook and not eat? Drop him ‍♀️

Dump him! You deserve someone who appreciates your effort.

Commenter doubts authenticity of story, finds it absurd

Dump him! Simple solution to a disrespectful partner.

Boyfriend invites for date but excludes her, NTA obviously

Cooking together doesn’t mean cooking for his friends. NTA.

Boyfriend’s cooking request backfires, commenter advises breaking up

Supportive comment, advises to move on and find better partner

Don’t waste time on someone who uses you NTA

Dump him! Not the a**hole for sure. ‍♀️

NTA. Boyfriend asks her to cook and not share the meal.

Life is too short for control games ‍♀️ NTA

Don’t cook for someone who won’t even invite you!

Cooking skills are valuable ‍ but not free

Cooking as a couple or cheap labor?

Dump him and donate

Suspicious behavior from the boyfriend’s ‘friend’ sparks concern.

Boyfriend lacks tact, NTA says it all ‍♀️

Setting boundaries is important, don’t let him gaslight you

Don’t ignore the red flags , time to GTFO! NTA

Short and sweet: NTA, find a new date

Don’t keep him around , NTA

Dump him! You deserve better. NTA.

Believe him and move on. ‍♀️

Don’t spend hours cooking just to be kicked out ‍ NTA

Cooking together turned into a secret dinner party? NTA.