Moving in with a significant other can be a big step, but it can be even more complicated when other people start to move in. A woman who agreed to pay half of the rent and utilities for her and her boyfriend’s apartment found herself in a tough spot when his brother unexpectedly moved in. Despite only agreeing to a one week stay, the brother ended up staying longer, causing tension and disrupting the living arrangements. When it came time to pay the bills, the woman refused to pay the full amount, feeling that the addition of the brother was unfair and not something she agreed to. This caused an argument with her boyfriend, who felt she was being petty and trying to hurt him financially. Now, she’s questioning whether or not she’s in the wrong for not paying the full amount. Read on to see what others think about the situation.
Sharing a 2 bedroom apartment with a twist

Unexpected guest overstays welcome, leads to rent dispute ️

Friend refuses to let lazy j**k boyfriend’s brother move in

Squeezed out of the bedroom: Woman’s BF moves her things for brother

Woman lowers rent payment after unexpected brother-in-law move-in.

Sharing apartment with boyfriend’s brother, who pays rent and utilities?

Couples quarrel over rent after third person moves in

Couple fights over rent and groceries after boyfriend’s brother moves in

Should she pay for her boyfriend’s brother’s living expenses?

Struggling with rent split after new roommate. AITA?

Update on the situation

Unexpected roommate leads to rent dispute

She shouldn’t have to pay for someone else’s burden ♀️

Update on the situation

Compromising on rent with BF after brother moves in

What’s the latest development? Stay tuned to find out!

Tenant leaves after boyfriend’s brother moves out

Boyfriend wants girlfriend on lease, she requests rent reduction

Setting boundaries and compromising in a shared living situation

Boyfriend’s brother moves in: Woman refuses to pay full rent

Trust issues lead to breakup over unwanted houseguest

Tenant threatens to move out if boyfriend’s brother stays longer

Boyfriend threatens to kick out girlfriend for rejecting roommate

Is she being petty or standing up for herself?
Moving in with your significant other can be a big step, but what happens when a surprise guest moves in without your consent? That’s what happened to one woman who found her boyfriend’s brother crashing on their couch. Despite her discomfort, she agreed to let him stay for a few months while her boyfriend found him another place to live. However, when the time came to split the rent and utilities, tensions rose as she refused to pay her half for the third person living there. While her boyfriend insists that she’s being petty and trying to hurt him financially, the woman argues that she didn’t agree to financially support his brother and that living with two other people should cost less than living with one. As the disagreement continues, the woman begins to doubt her own judgment and questions if she’s being unreasonable. Read on for the update on how the situation resolved and what it means for her relationship with her boyfriend.
Stand your ground! ♀️ Communication is key in relationships.

Don’t be a sucker. Stand up for yourself! ♀️

Fair ultimatum ignored, reasonable payment refused, stand your ground ♀️

Communication is key in relationships ️ ESH in this situation.

Communication is key! ️ Both should’ve discussed finances beforehand. ESH.

Boyfriend’s freeloading brother causes rent dispute. NTA wins.

Communication is key! ️ Be upfront about rent adjustments.
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Commenter advises OP to prioritize love and communication over finances ❤️

Not the a**hole for refusing to pay full rent

Boyfriend’s brother moves in without discussion, NTA for withholding rent

When roommates become lovers, things can get complicated

Boyfriend’s brother moves in, rent deal broken. NTA.

ESH for letting boyfriend’s brother stay and not paying full rent.

Woman with a reduced living space refuses to pay full rent

Communication is key in relationships. ESH in rent dispute ️

Don’t back down! You’re NTA and have the power.

Commenter predicts a doomed relationship with a laughing emoji.

Insightful comment about relationship and shared living arrangements.

Stand your ground! NTA

Communication is key in relationships ESH for not discussing finances earlier

Relationship red flags raised in NTA comment
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Woman’s boyfriend’s brother moves in and she refuses to pay rent

NTA for refusing to pay full rent when boyfriend’s brother moved in

Don’t let a freeloader make you pay more rent

Commenter not at fault for refusing to pay full rent.

Setting boundaries and being a hero ♀️

Fair rent but drastic move, NTA suggests moving out

Give ultimatum – brother pays share or leaves

Don’t move in with men before marriage ♀️

Don’t harm your BF financially, simmer down and set limits

Protect yourself from financial exploitation by entitled boyfriend and brother

Taking a stand for your space and finances

Communication is key in a relationship

Fair compromise suggested by commenter to avoid conflict

NTA and a boyfriend upgrade might be in order

Standing up for yourself is important. Don’t let anyone take advantage

Changing rent deal last minute? YTA.

Communication is key in any relationship

Advice given on roommate situation, potential for conflict

Good for you! Stand your ground, NTA.
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Fair rent split in small space leads to BF manipulation
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Lazy brother causes financial dispute, ESH.

Encouraging advice to move on with a NTA judgement

Unexpectedly lowering rent for bf’s brother is not cool

Boyfriend and girlfriend both at fault for rent dispute

Woman stands up for herself and splits rent fairly.

Escape while you can! ♀️ Don’t be a p**n.
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Communication is key in relationships, even with financial commitments

Fair split of rent with boyfriend’s brother as third roommate. NTA.
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You’re not the a****e for adjusting rent due to roommate change

Fair to withhold full rent due to unexpected roommate

Freeloading brother causing rent dispute. NTA for standing up!

NTA, time to pack up and move out

Commenter calls out OP’s behavior and suggests moving out

Is the freeloading brother causing rent drama?

NTA! Refusing to pay full rent for unhelpful brother-in-law ♀️

Splitting rent with boyfriend’s brother? ESH for not communicating.

Fair split of bills means fair say in household decisions.

Fair accounting, but lack of notice dinged ESH judgment

Supportive comment encourages forgiveness and compassion ❤️

NTA. Supporting BF’s brother, but set boundaries and prioritize communication.

NTA, but boyfriend blames you for brother’s financial loss

Get out of that immature b.s. situation
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Leave him! Don’t let his family cost you

Agree. Better to move on than deal with more issues.

Boyfriend’s brother moves in, rent conflict. NTA asks questions.

Communication is key NAH admits fault in rent dispute

Standing up for yourself is not being an a**hole

Communication is key in cohabitation

Poor communication skills cause chaos in roommate situation.

Partner’s freeloading brother? NTA, don’t support him forever!
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Communication is key . NTA for standing up for yourself
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You’re NTA for refusing to pay rent for BF’s brother

Take the high road ♀️, leave the brother drama behind

Sharing rent with a couple and a single person? Split wisely!

Find someone better NTA for moving out.

Roommate’s brother overstays, takes office, and avoids rent. NTA.

Breaking up or communicating like adults would be better, ESH

Supportive comment encourages leaving toxic relationship

Not the a**hole, but is the boyfriend’s brother staying forever?

Agree, time to move out and leave the j**k behind ♀️

Discussion on financial planning when living with others.

BF’s brother overstays, NTA loans rent with promissory note.

Stand your ground and set conditions to avoid freeloading situation

Unemployed brother moves in, NTA refuses to pay full rent

Consider potential consequences, NTA but pay & establish repayment plan

Boyfriend’s brother is a leech, girlfriend not paying full rent.

Stand your ground and save your money #NTA

Last Updated on April 14, 2023 by Diply Social Team