A woman has asked for advice after she demanded compensation from her ex-boyfriend for ending a decade-long relationship which made her lose out on her ‘childbearing years’.
She wrote asking for help
The 34-year-old woman wrote to The Telegraph’s Moral Money column asking for advice about her situation.
She explained that she was ‘ready for the marriage and parenthood stage of life’ but is now ‘unexpectedly single and emotionally devastated’.
She had been dating her ex for a decade
The anonymous woman said, “I have been in a relationship for just over 10 years with a guy I had hoped to marry. He called it off a few months ago.”
“I am moving from heartbroken and incapable of functioning to trying to work out how to put my life back together.”
She shared his reasoning
Sharing her ex’s reasoning, the woman said, “He tells me he feels, at 38, as though he still has a decade of enjoying his lifestyle and powering through with his career and is not ready for marriage and children, but he knows it has become a priority for me – so he is off!”
But she feels that he ‘owes her big time’
The woman went on to say that she wants her ex to pay as he ‘owes her big time’.
Although she’s not yet ready to get back into dating after the break-up, she feels that ‘time is running out’ for her.
She wants to be a mother
Despite losing her relationship, she’s still desperate to start a family, so she now wants to do IVF to increase her chances of becoming a mother.
But since IVF can cost a pretty penny, she wants her ex to pay the bill, which he refused.
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He told her it’s not his duty
“He does not agree that he has any obligation to help with the financial burden of extending my childbearing capabilities even though he has always known how important it is to me to have children,” she wrote.
“He even cited the fact that he knows time is running out as the reason he ended the relationship.”
She asked if she was in the right about it
“I feel like he stole my childbearing years,” the woman concluded her letter.
“Surely he should have some responsibility for helping me mitigate the damage to our plans caused by his change of heart and broken promises?” she asked.
The columnist explained the financial situation to her
Replying to the woman’s letter, The Telegraph columnist, Sam Secomb, told her that because they weren’t married, she has ‘no rights to financial redress for the years of emotional or practical support you gave in service of your shared plans.’
The columnist advised she be more careful
“That does not mean you are powerless,” Secombed reassured the woman.
She told her to ‘make sure the financial disentanglement of the flat is managed carefully’ as she had also mentioned that she and her ex own an apartment together.
