If you’re wondering about the parentage of Mindy Kaling’s daughter, Katherine, you’re not alone.
Speculation ran rampant when Kaling announced her pregnancy without indicating who the father was, and didn’t let up even after Katherine was born.
However, according to Mindy, it’s not our business. And she’s right.
Motherhood wasn’t exactly in the cards for Mindy.
Despite The Mindy Project centering around Kaling’s obstetrician/gynecologist character (also named Mindy) and her own eventual motherhood, she didn’t see it for her real-life self.
She told The New York Times , “I did not think I had a big maternal instinct.”
She didn’t think she had the temperament for it.
Like many mothers, her concern stemmed from changing her entire attitude and way of living.
“I’m very impatient, and having a baby requires an amount of patience that I was worried about. “
But she discovered something crucial.
“But they don’t tell you that the thing will look so much like you, and do things that are so sweet and adorable, that you’ll naturally not have the same impatience that you would have with a stranger or someone who works for you.”
They really don’t tell you that!
She also said her experience with motherhood has been singular.
Essentially, she did all of it completely alone.
“The three months after giving birth, especially since I did it by myself, were very funny, and at times very gruesome.”
I have nothing but respect for a single mom.
And that her daughter’s priorities are wildly different from what she’s used to.
“The qualities in my life that I’m really proud of, like being a funny writer or a good dresser or a great boss or a good listener—I don’t know that my daughter loves me for any of those reasons.
To her, my value is something completely different.”
After the birth of Katherine, her mindset towards work changed.
Mindy has been running her own shows for years now. From writing, to producing, to showrunning, to acting, she’s something of a woman-woman show.
After Katherine came along, all of that shifted.
Her work-life balance had to even out.
She shifted the way she works, and for how long.
She said, “I am someone who loves work. That will never change. But the kind of work that I do has changed.”
For example, she went hard while doing “The Mindy Project.”
“When I did the first season of The Mindy Project at Hulu, they were like, ‘You could do as many episodes in a season as you want.’
And I was like, “Can we do the maximum?””
That sort of thing won’t work for her now.
“But waking up at 5 o’clock in the morning to do 26 episodes of TV is not something that I’m going to do again.
Right now I’m surprised at how much I enjoy being a mom.”
PS, you should watch The Mindy Project . Thanks.
As open as she is, her baby’s father is something she keeps private.
She notoriously shares a great deal, and she’s aware of it.
“I think people are often surprised that for someone who seems as open as I am on social media, and who writes things that seem drawn from my life, I find that stuff really private.”
That information isn’t for us to know.
Mindy was very frank on the of Katherine’s father.
“My feeling is that until I speak to my daughter about that, I’m not going to talk to anyone else about it.”
That also plays a role in her hiding Katherine’s face.
Ever since Katherine’s birth, Mindy has been incredibly careful to keep any view of her baby obscured.
That includes the paparazzi, and, of course, social media. Katherine’s face is never shown in pictures.
She also can’t see herself writing about her experience as a mother.
It would be a little too meta for her.
“I could write stories about mothers, about my relationship with my daughter—but I don’t know. It gets so Postcards From the Edge .”
She’s currently working on a Netflix series.
Her character on that show mirrors Mindy’s own self-described “hot headed-ness,” and it’s for a damn good reason.
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“One of the things I wanted was for her to be a hothead because it is so unacceptable in society to be an angry Asian woman.
You’re supposed to be demure and agreeable.”
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She’s out to represent another side of Asian women.
“I always had so much impatience and ambition — these things that if you had them, you were supposed to have them secretly.”
Her character won’t have to hide that side of herself.
