A man wonders if he’s in the wrong for not getting his girlfriend a birthday present after receiving half-gifts for three years. He’s tried talking to her about it, but she always has an excuse. After she dropped hints about what she wanted for her birthday, he decided not to buy it. When she asked about her gift, he told her he didn’t get her anything. She called him a passive-aggressive a**hole and accused him of ruining her birthday. Was he justified in not getting her a present or did he take it too far? Read on to find out what others had to say.
Gift-giving woes in relationships: when to call it quits?
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Girlfriend’s birthday gift backfired, now he’s not giving her one
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Man goes all out for girlfriend’s birthday despite past disappointments
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When gift-giving goes wrong
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Man stops giving gifts to ungrateful girlfriend after last straw
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Birthday disappointment: girlfriend fails to give gifts, receives none back.
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Gift-less relationship: Man’s girlfriend fails to give gifts
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When gift-giving becomes a game of t*t-for-tat
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When gifts stop, so do I. Can’t be bothered anymore ♂️
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A birthday gift gone wrong…but why did she keep mentioning it?
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Man doesn’t give girlfriend birthday gift after she forgets his multiple times
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When gift giving becomes one-sided and love fades away
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When gift giving becomes one way, is it still love? ❤️
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Girlfriend upset after not receiving gift from boyfriend on birthday.
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Giftless birthday: AITA for not getting my girlfriend a gift?
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When gift-giving becomes one-sided
Gift-giving can be a sensitive topic in any relationship, especially when one person seems to be putting in all the effort. In this post, a man shares his frustration with his girlfriend who repeatedly fails to give him gifts. Despite his efforts to communicate with her, her excuses and forgetfulness have left him feeling unappreciated. When her birthday rolls around and he decides not to give her a gift, things take a turn for the worse. Was he in the wrong for not getting her a present, or is it time for his girlfriend to step up her gift-giving game? Read on to find out what the comments have to say.
NTA. Girlfriend disregards OP, only cares about receiving, and manipulates emotionally.

Girlfriend lacks interest in giving and only cares about receiving

Boyfriend calls out girlfriend for failing to give gifts

Commenter called out for waiting too long to skip gift

A heartfelt response reminds OP they deserve better

One-sided relationship, break up and move on

NTA. Partner doesn’t value relationship without gifts.

NTA’s girlfriend is a narcissist who loves being worshipped
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Not the a****e for not tolerating an entitled partner.

Gift-giving is a two-way street

NTA, but is it just one issue or a bigger problem?

Is she selfish or does she take you for granted?

NTA. Commenter feels girlfriend’s Valentines comment was petty.

Red flag alert! NTA. Ditch the giftless girlfriend.

Deserve love and effort in a relationship, not just gifts

NTA for not gifting a nightmare girlfriend

Redditors doubt the outrageousness of OP’s story
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Reciprocating energy is fair, NTA for not giving gift

NTA, but the real gift might be finding a better girlfriend

Girlfriend expects gifts but never gives any. NTA, selfish behavior

T*t for tat: NTA for not gifting on her birthday
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Time to move on This relationship is one-sided.

NTA, you deserve better. She sounds like a gold digger

Partner repeatedly forgets gifts, so he skipped hers. NTA.

NTA for not giving gift to girlfriend who only cares about receiving

NTA’s girlfriend is insufferable

Don’t tolerate ungratefulness and neglect in relationships.

Selfish girlfriend doesn’t deserve a gift on her birthday. #NTA ❌
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Man gets back at stingy girlfriend with ice cube trays

Gift giving isn’t for everyone. NTA did the right thing

Dump the sugar baby? NTA has spoken.

Questioning the relationship: Is it worth it?

OP rightfully called out his girlfriend’s gift-giving double standard

Giving and receiving in a relationship, NTA for standing up.

Return the energy , find someone who puts in effort.
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Is he dating the wrong person?

Don’t let her take advantage of your generosity

Prioritizing gifts in a relationship, NTA, and a happy ending

Gifts for me but not for thee? NTA strikes back
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NTA considers breaking up due to girlfriend’s lack of effort
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Don’t let anyone take advantage of your kindness.

Relationships are two-way streets. NTA for moving on

Girlfriend repeatedly fails to give gifts, so he doesn’t give her one on her birthday. Commenters suggest he should run!

Single life wins: NTA, enjoy it!

Dating a narcissist? Break free and find someone who cares!

Partner shows blatant disrespect, time to move on

Ouch! This commenter advises the OP to move on.

Fair game ♂️

When it comes to gift-giving, it’s the thought that counts…right?

Communicate early on about gift-giving expectations.

Don’t be with someone who can’t appreciate you. NTA

Receiving without giving? NTA for not tolerating it

NTA for not giving a gift to a selfish girlfriend
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Gift-giving goes both ways. NTA for setting boundaries.

Is your partner taking you for granted?

Relationships are about give and take, not just gifts #NTA
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NTA for not giving gift, she should have done something

Not the a**hole and time for an upgrade

Thoughtlessness breeds thoughtlessness. NTA for not gifting back.

Partner won’t give gifts but demands specific ones? NTA.

Selfish girlfriend fails to reciprocate gifts, calls NTA passive-aggressive
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Man justifies not giving gift on girlfriend’s birthday, NTA
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Partner fails to give gifts; commenters advise to stop giving too.

Don’t want to give gifts to ungrateful partner? NTA ♀️

Time to move on? Commenters suggest finding a new girlfriend

Lazy girlfriend doesn’t appreciate him, he deserves better

Dump her, she doesn’t deserve you

Gifts are a symbol of love. Is she showing enough love?

Last Updated on April 18, 2023 by Diply Social Team