A man has taken to the popular Reddit online community ‘Am I The A******?’ (AITAH) to ask if he was wrong for not wanting to see his ex-girlfriend even though it’s her dying wish.
He came to the forum with his problem
Users go to AITAH to seek advice on situations where they’re not sure if they’ve made the right decision, and that’s exactly why this man took to the platform.
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In his post, he shared that he dated this woman ‘six years ago for two months’.
Their relationship ended quickly
The poster explained that he was the one to end his relationship with the woman after two months when he found out that she cheated on him with her ex.
“So I broke up with her, and [that’s] the end of the story,” he wrote.
He moved on with his life
The man also noted that he ultimately moved on from the relationship. He moved to a new country, met his now wife, and is currently the father of a 3-year-old child.
But he was recently contacted by the ex’s parents.
They called and texted him
The man said that he’s been receiving calls and texts from his ex’s parents as of lately, where they told him that she was diagnosed with terminal cancer and would like to see him ‘one last time’.
They also told him that she said cheating on him was ‘the biggest mistake of her life’.
He doesn’t want to see her
The poster explained that he discussed this with his wife, who ultimately told him she will support ‘whatever I decide to do’.
But the problem is he doesn’t want to see his ex-girlfriend. He admitted, “Honestly, I don’t care about my ex.”
He doesn’t want to reopen that chapter
The man said that he doesn’t have any intention of reopening that ‘chapter’ of his life. He told his ex’s parents that he didn’t feel comfortable seeing her.
He also requested that they ‘do not contact’ him again, and they responded by accusing him of being ‘cruel’ and ‘heartless’.
He’s wondering if he did the right thing
“Even some of my friends are saying that just going to see her wouldn’t hurt me, but like I said, it’s an old story I honestly forgot [about],” he wrote, adding, “I have my family, my wife, my daughter and my life here [in this country].”
So he asked if he was in the wrong for how he handled the situation.
People backed him up in the comments
In the comment section, a lot of users backed the poster up on his decision.
One person wrote, “NTA [not the a******]. Two months? That’s not a girlfriend, that’s a hookup. And six years ago — move forward and don’t look back.”
Another said he doesn’t owe it to the ex
“Her parents are obviously distraught, but asking you to visit your ex in another country is beyond the pale,” another person wrote.
“You have a family now and visiting your ex would be taking money, energy and time from them. You do not owe [the] ex or her family anything beyond basic human respect. Taking their call fulfilled that. NTA.”
