A 21-year-old woman shares her ongoing struggle with her mother, who insists she move back in with her parents. Despite having a rocky relationship with her mother, the young woman has managed to build a life for herself, complete with a loving boyfriend and a new dog. However, her mother’s controlling nature and the lure of financial support for her education have led to a tense standoff between the two.
Living Apart Since 16 ♀️

Financial Independence

Rocky Relationship with Mom

Meeting the Boyfriend

Mom’s Resentment

A Summer Attempt

Mom’s Unwavering Stance

Toxic Environment

New Beginnings

Mom’s Financial Offer

The Ultimatum

Another Argument

Proving Herself

Education Savings

Mom’s Disappointment

A Battle for Independence ️
This young woman’s fight for independence has been a constant struggle against her mother’s controlling nature. Despite having a successful life, complete with a loving boyfriend, a new dog, and a plan for her education, her mother continues to insist she moves back home. The lure of financial support for schooling has only intensified the conflict, as the young woman remains determined to prove her self-sufficiency. Will they ever find common ground? Share your thoughts and reactions.
Encouragement for a young woman standing up to a toxic parent.

NTA. Mother using $30k as leverage for control and manipulation. Don’t expect it.

Why did OP’s mom expect her to move back home?

Independence is key! Do what’s best for you.

Supportive comment encourages independence and offers advice.

Taking control of your life and setting boundaries with family

Enforcing boundaries is tough, but necessary. Keep standing strong!

Commenter asks to see dog, receives adorable reply ❤️

Stand your ground! You’re an adult, NTA.

Young woman stands up to toxic mother and refuses bribe

Standing up to controlling mother, NTA. Keep boundaries, stay strong

Fighting for independence from manipulative parents. NTA.
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Breaking free from a parent with BPD: NTA and stay strong

Breaking free from cultural norms: Young woman stands her ground

Standing up for independence and mental health. Keep it up!

Breaking free from a controlling parent. You’re NTA

Don’t take the bait. Move in with your BF and dog

Living with a toxic parent is a nightmare. Stay strong

Check if account is in your name to claim money
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Graduating soon and ready to move out, money comes fast

Setting boundaries with loved ones can be tough

Don’t let her control you. Stay independent

21-year-old refuses to move back with parents, NTA . Pet tax?

Choosing love and independence over parental control. NTA

Encouraging comment applauds young woman’s independence and financial responsibility

Empathetic reply suggests seeking support for dealing with controlling mother.

Supportive comment on dealing with BPD. Good luck!

Take the money and run or keep your independence?

Take control of the situation and don’t entertain her problem

Financial independence is key. NTA.

Sibling rivalry and financial woes amidst a battle for independence

Dad’s supportive, but daughter’s independence is causing a rift

Independence is priceless. Don’t take a penny from parents

Grandparent threatens to cut off relationship over money dispute

Don’t move back home! Stay independent and live your life

Don’t let them control you. Stand your ground.

Choosing independence over $30k: NTA wins the battle.

A young woman seeks advice on how to get her tuition paid without moving back in with her controlling mother. Commenters suggest asking her dad for help or letting go of the money and moving on with her life.

Standing up to a narcissistic parent and the cost of independence.

Young woman stands up to controlling parents. #IndependenceWins
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Young woman stands up for independence – NTA

Being independent is tough, but you’re killing it!
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Take control of your independence and stick to your guns


Independence over money: Support for young woman’s decision

Independence wins! NTA. Congrats on savings and scholarships

Empathetic response to young woman’s decision to move out.

21-year-old refuses manipulative mother’s money offer. NTA

Don’t let anyone control your independence

Empathetic support for a young woman’s independence and mental health.

Find support on r/raisedbynarcissists for independence battles

Breaking free from parental control.

Breaking free from parents: A justified rebellion

Impressive savings! Keep building your future and stay independent

Support for standing up to toxic family. NTA

21-year-old college grad refuses to move back home. NTA.

Empathetic commenter gives advice on standing firm against parents.

Confusing comment with no replies

Young woman stands up for independence, refuses to move back home

Standing up to favoritism : One woman’s fight for independence

Setting boundaries with parents and holding firm.

Standing up to toxic family for independence

Standing up to controlling parents for independence and sanity

Cheering for independence! Encouraging hope for reconciliation. ❤️

Financial independence advice: Talk to dad for a check

Stand your ground and assert your independence.

Standing up for independence: How to deal with overbearing parents

Choosing independence over comfort. NTA

Stand up for your independence and education!

Take control of your life! Don’t let money control you. #NTA

Encouraging support for OP’s battle against controlling mother.

Breaking free from controlling parents and finding independence

Young woman stands up for independence with NTA comment.

Taking control of your life : A powerful NTA response

Independence is priceless! You got this
