Imagine being in a relationship where you both agree not to have kids, only for your partner to discover you were once a surrogate for your sister. That’s what happened to a 28-year-old woman who has been dating her 29-year-old boyfriend for over two and a half years. She never thought it was necessary to disclose her past surrogacy, but a family visit and some old photos brought the truth to light. Now, her boyfriend feels betrayed and wonders why she won’t consider having a child with him. Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster.
The No-Kids Agreement
He Wanted Kids, But… ♂️
Old Photos Reveal a Secret
Surrogate for Sister
Niece, Not Daughter
Not His Business?
Not Fair?
Carrying vs. Raising
Apology and Reminder
Still Upset
Surrogacy Rules
Case-by-Case Exceptions
Trusting a Family Member
Surrogate Rights
A Trusted Surrogate
A Surrogate Past and a Bitter Boyfriend
This woman thought she was doing the right thing by being a surrogate for her sister, but her boyfriend feels hurt and betrayed by her secret. She never thought it was necessary to disclose her past surrogacy, as it happened before they were together. However, her boyfriend can’t help but feel it’s unfair that she was willing to carry a child for her sister but won’t consider having one with him. Is she in the wrong for not telling him, or is he overreacting? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA for being a surrogate, boyfriend is TA for reaction
NTA. BF wants kids, find someone who doesn’t.
Debate over boyfriend’s intentions on having kids.
Confusion over surrogacy laws sparks debate among commenters
ESH situation, but keeping a surrogacy secret for 2.5 yrs? ♀️
Woman’s selfless act for sister leads to relationship fallout
Woman criticized for not telling SO she was a surrogate
Woman clarifies surrogate process to boyfriend, NTA
Hiding surrogate secret for 2.5 years is a dealbreaker. YTA ♀️
NTA and ESH at the same time. Lack of communication.
Boyfriend overreacts to surrogate secret, but communication is key
Hiding being a surrogate from your partner for 2.5 years? YTA
Partner lied about wanting kids, NTA for not having them
Body autonomy and false equivalence addressed in supportive NTA comment
BF made a concession but was shocked and reacted emotionally
Hiding surrogacy past for 2.5 years? YTA according to comment
Not disclosing surrogacy to long-term partner makes YTA
Partner’s desire for kids is a red flag
ESH: She should have shared it earlier, he overreacted.
End it. He resents your choice not to have kids.
Clear communication and honesty in relationships is crucial ❤
Stick to your guns, NTA.
Past is past. NTA for keeping it to yourself
NTA, but revealing the truth would have been better
Surrogate stands up for herself and shuts down boyfriend
Debate over communication and disclosure in relationship YTA
Woman stands up for herself in surrogate decision. NTA
Partner of 2 years shocked by surrogate secret. YTA
Be upfront about deal breakers to avoid future heartbreaks.
ESH verdict due to lack of communication, but he’s mostly TA
Accusation of fake story sparks no response from commenters.
Trust issues arise after surrogate conceals child from boyfriend
Surrogacy doesn’t make you a parent. NTA
Couple disagrees on kids, but OP’s surrogate past is secret ♀️
Hiding surrogacy from partner? YTA and relationship doomed ♀️
Boyfriend’s mistake leads to shocking surrogate secret
Debate over ESH vs NTA for surrogate secret, sperm donors
Surrogate secret causes relationship rift. ESH for communication breakdown.
Double standards in sperm donation – N.T.A. vote surprising
Surrogate mom not at fault, but relationship may be doomed
Surrogacy education needed! Boyfriend confused about parenting roles. NTA.
Relationship doomed as both partners resent each other.
Surrogate secret causes conflict, OP is YTA for not telling.
Her boyfriend deserves a heads up before seeing pregnancy pics
Clear judgement, no a****e here.
Surrogacy rules vary by country, but exceptions exist
Boyfriend not on board with no child plan
Relationship advice: Be honest about major life decisions
Consider ending relationship if you have different views on kids
Communication is key! ESH should have been upfront
Partner kept surrogacy a secret for 2 years, YTA verdict
Partner wants kids, but not the a**hole for past surrogacy.
Miscommunication or deception? YTA for not being clear
Surrogate reveals secret to boyfriend, both adjusting to new information
Partner’s lie about wanting kids can ruin relationships
NTA for being a surrogate, but relationship may be in trouble
Break up with him, you’re not just an incubator
Time to say goodbye? NTA for not wanting children
Surrogate bombshell shocks boyfriend, but NTA for keeping secret
User shares personal experience and warns of potential red flags
Surrogate’s actions justified, like donating blood or a kidney.
Surrogate secret shocks boyfriend, but commenter supports OP. NTA
Surrogate secret leads to ESH judgement and relationship struggles ♀️
Surrogate’s secrecy backfires, commenters question her foresight
Last Updated on June 1, 2023 by Diply Social Team