Miscarriages can be a sensitive topic, and everyone handles them differently. But when one woman found herself in an awkward situation with her sister-in-law, things took a dramatic turn. Our protagonist had a miscarriage last month but wasn’t too upset about it, as she already has three kids and didn’t even know she was pregnant. However, her SIL, who had a traumatic miscarriage experience a few years ago, couldn’t accept this and kept pushing her to talk about it.
SIL’s Traumatic Miscarriage

Our Protagonist’s Miscarriage

Holiday Gathering Drama

Unwanted Support Group

Standing Her Ground

The Truth Comes Out

SIL’s Angry Reaction

Family Sides with Protagonist

BIL’s Ultimatum

To Apologize or Not?

Clarification on SIL’s Experience

SIL’s Current Family

Time Since SIL’s Miscarriage

SIL’s Bitter Comment

Family Torn Apart Over Miscarriage Reaction
So, our protagonist’s miscarriage experience wasn’t as traumatic as her SIL’s, and she tried to make it clear that she didn’t need any support. But her SIL couldn’t accept this and got angry, accusing her of dismissing other people’s pain. Now, the family is divided, with some insisting she should apologize to keep the peace. But our protagonist doesn’t want to apologize for how she feels about her own experience. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. Commenters agree sister-in-law owes an apology for projecting trauma.

NTA for not being upset about a surprise pregnancy loss

SIL’s intrusive behavior causes family to enable poor behavior. NTA

NTA for not feeling as upset about SIL’s miscarriage. Emotions differ

NTA. Commenter empathizes with OP and suggests SIL needs counseling.

Don’t apologize for standing up to emotional manipulation

NTA commenter explains how SIL mishandled conversation about miscarriage
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/31834c77-4f82-45ac-91cd-70e25da3234a.png)
Insensitive SIL belittles adoption, dismisses OP’s parental status

NTA. SIL’s behavior towards adopted kids is unacceptable

Honesty isn’t always easy, but it’s still the best policy

Standing up for oneself in the face of unjust blame

Respectful NTA response to SIL’s miscarriage and family drama

Valid emotions, not your fault. She made your loss about her. #NTA

Respectful NTA stands up for her grieving process

Grieving SIL crosses a boundary by attacking OP’s kids. AH confirmed.

Supportive comment on SIL’s miscarriage, but pushy behavior not okay

Supporting personal choice and boundaries in the face of tragedy

Pushy SIL gets put in her place. NTA wins.

Setting boundaries is important. NTA for standing up for yourself

Setting boundaries with SIL after miscarriage, NTA

Compassionate comment defends against insensitive behavior

Setting boundaries is important. NTA for saying no.

Pushy SIL tries to force grief on grieving woman

Family drama: BIL demands apology from SIL’s in-law.
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/63585eaa-841f-4bac-9e73-2fb1b0c3d9f6.png)
Validating SIL’s feelings doesn’t mean you’re wrong.

Respectful handling of a sensitive topic. Mutual empathy is key.

Supportive response to a disrespectful SIL. NTA

Don’t apologize for your reaction, but reach out with empathy

Compassionate response to SIL’s miscarriage trauma

Stand your ground! You’re not the a**hole

Supportive comment on SIL’s miscarriage and advice on standing up for oneself.

Setting boundaries with insensitive SIL after miscarriage

SIL’s miscarriage and projection: NTA or NAH?

Politeness isn’t a reason to apologize. NTA
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/514aa979-92a3-4de3-b844-4db8e0171f46.png)
Encouraging response to a delicate situation.

Supporting SIL without compromising your own grief and mental health

Navigating fertility issues can be tough. NTA for setting boundaries
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/81ae31af-d2dd-4fbd-8e1c-b6824478c0d7.png)
Supporting NTA’s response to SIL’s insensitive behavior

SIL shares miscarriage, OP not sympathetic. NTA or ESH?

Validating one’s feelings without pushing them on others

Empathy is key. Understanding different coping mechanisms is important.

Standing up for oneself: NTA only after SIL pushed you

SIL projected her own feelings onto OP, who is NTA

Setting boundaries with empathy. NTA

Respectful handling of differing grief processes. NTA

Navigating family dynamics during a difficult time ❤

Different reactions to miscarriage are valid. NTA for setting boundaries
![Image credit: [deleted] | [deleted]](https://static.diply.com/01dd23d9-6e6b-4832-9627-1c19420e7682.png)
Supportive commenter calls out SIL’s inappropriate behavior.

SIL upset after pestering OP about sensitive topic. NTA reaction.

Navigating grief after miscarriage with SIL’s support, NTA.

Set boundaries and prioritize your own mental health.

Stand your ground! Don’t apologize to her

Empathetic response shuts down invalidation of pregnancy and miscarriage.

Commenter suggests apologizing to SIL for peace, but not after questioning legitimacy of living children. NTA

NTA suggests therapy for SIL’s behavior, no need for apology

Not required to grieve? NTA comment sparks debate

NTA, commenter empathizes with SIL’s loss but defends her own experience.

Adopted kids? NTA. Curious if she said it out of anger.

Pushy and inappropriate behavior, NTA owes apology to you

Don’t apologize for speaking up. NTA

Respectful NTA stands up for their grieving process and boundaries

Don’t apologize for her insanities. NTA

Don’t apologize, you did nothing wrong. People react differently

Insensitive sister brings up adoption, owes apology.

Don’t apologize. You’re NTA. She needs therapy

Adopted kids are real kids. SIL’s reaction is unacceptable

Validating NTA’s feelings and calling out SIL’s behavior

Support group not helping, NTA for not letting her project.

Stand your ground and demand an apology from her

Last Updated on May 10, 2023 by Diply Social Team