Woman Splurges on Cousins’ Gifts, Leaves ADHD Brother Empty-Handed

A woman (27F) recently celebrated her twin cousins’ (14M&F) 14th birthday by gifting them gaming computers and drawing tablets. While her cousins were thrilled, her mother and ADHD brother (14) were furious. The brother has been struggling during quarantine with no gadgets to keep him occupied, and the mother had repeatedly asked the sister for help. However, the sister dismissed their requests, claiming she didn’t have money to waste on her brother.

Cousins’ Birthday Bonanza

Overjoyed Cousins

Angry Mom and Brother

Brother’s Struggles

No Gadgets for Brother

Brother’s Meltdown

Sister’s Harsh Response

Sister’s Priorities Questioned

The sister’s decision to shower her cousins with expensive gifts while leaving her own ADHD brother empty-handed has sparked a family conflict. Her mother and brother are understandably upset, as the brother has been struggling during quarantine without any gadgets to occupy his time. Despite her mother’s pleas, the sister insists that spending money on her brother would be a waste. What do you think? Let’s dive into some of the internet’s top responses…

ADHD and anger issues aren’t an excuse for destroying electronics

NTA with ADHD agrees, hold him to higher standards

ADHD is not an excuse for bad behavior . Stick to your guns.

Sibling struggles with ADHD brother’s destructive behavior. NTA.

Enabling brother’s tantrums? NTA stands her ground

Sibling jealousy and ADHD management. NTA for setting boundaries.

Support for not being the a**hole in gift-giving debacle

Commenter agrees with OP’s actions, shocked by timeline

Sibling with ADHD left empty-handed, commenter suggests coping strategies.

Brother off meds, destroys gifts, mother enables. NTA, hold fast.

Teaching brother actions have consequences, not financial responsibility.

Siblings’ gift dilemma solved with savage yet practical advice

Commenter defends not giving ADHD brother a gift, sparks debate

Standing up for oneself and family.

NTA for not giving ADHD brother gifts, enabling behavior.

Managing ADHD during pandemic: Exercise, sports and diet considerations

ADHD doesn’t justify destroying gifts. NTA’s tech still works after years

Commenter justifies not buying ADHD brother expensive electronics.

A questionable suggestion for a neglected brother’s gift

Suggests teaching brother to be functional human, not entitled.

Setting boundaries for ADHD brother, NTA according to commenter.

NTA for not wanting to waste money on brother’s rage issues

Brother not obligated to buy gifts for ADHD sibling. Clay therapy?

Don’t blame OP for brother’s entitlement and destructive behavior.

NTA for not buying ADHD brother a gift. Other kids deserved it

Sibling conflict over gifts for cousins, excluding ADHD brother.

Commenter with ADHD sympathizes but never broke anything in anger

Curious about the link between ADHD and anger issues

Cutting off toxic family? NTA takes a stand.

Stick to your guns , you’re not the a**hole

A 14-year-old shares how he learned to control his rage.

Setting boundaries with family gifts, but is it fair?

NTA! Your money, your choice. ADHD doesn’t excuse bad behavior.

ADHD commenter calls out bratty behavior, advises mother to stop enabling.

Encouraging reading for an ADHD sibling, NTA wins support

Understanding ADHD and how it affects individuals differently

Parenting ADHD and Autistic children with discipline and accountability

Commenter suggests ADHD evaluation, brother refuses medication

Enabling ADHD behavior? NTA commenter sparks debate

ADHD is no excuse for destructive behavior. NTA

Supportive comment defends brother, criticizes bad parenting

Setting healthy boundaries is tough, but necessary.

ADHD is not an excuse to act like a brat

ADHD not an excuse for bad behavior, NTA for gifting fairly

Commenter defends mother’s decision to not give gift to brother.

Suggests alternative gifts for ADHD brother, advises to distance from family

NTA suggests getting a book for ADHD brother

Controlling rage is key. NTA for not giving in.

Creative solution for including brother in gift giving.

Advice on supporting ADHD brother’s frustration with gift disparity

Offer to attend family therapy with your brother to address dynamics

NTA. Brother needs to learn actions have consequences, despite ADHD.

ADHD brother left empty-handed, NTA defends against mom’s anger

Generous gift-giver faces consequences for reckless spending

Commenter defends not giving gifts to brother with history of breaking things.

Dealing with difficult family members

Encouraging therapy for brother with ADHD to manage anger

NTA defends not buying gifts for brother with ADHD

Generous gifts, but brother’s destructive behavior leaves him empty-handed. NTA.

Concerned commenter suggests CPS involvement for brother’s well-being.

Buyer’s choice, NTA. But maybe get brother a stress ball?

ADHD comment sparks discussion

Enabling a brother with ADHD? NTA but no paddle ball.

Setting boundaries for brother’s unacceptable behavior is important.

Suggests giving ADHD brother old system with conditions for upgrade

Suggesting therapy for anger management

Commenter defends OP, throws shade at ADHD brother

ADHD commenter defends not destroying things, NTA judgement supported.