We all know that friendships can be tested in the most unexpected ways. But what happens when a friend’s insensitive remarks leave you feeling lower than ever? One woman found herself in this situation after confiding in her friend about her postpartum d********n (PPD) struggles. Instead of receiving support, she was met with anger and accusations of being an ungrateful mother. Now, a year later, her friend has apologized and wants to reconcile. But can this friendship be salvaged?
Opening Up About PPD

Seeking Support from a Friend

A Shocking Response

Accusations of Selfishness

Feeling Even Lower

Husband’s Support

A Year Later… ⏰

An Apology and Explanation

Seeking Reconciliation ️

Acceptance, but No Friendship

Bombarded with Messages

Husband Thinks She Should Give a Chance

Can a Friendship Be Saved After Such Hurtful Words?
After opening up about her PPD struggles, this woman was met with harsh words from her long-time friend. Now, a year later, the friend has apologized and wants to reconcile. She claims she was in a bad mental place and has since sought therapy. While our protagonist accepts the apology and wishes her well, she refuses to rekindle the friendship. Now, she’s being bombarded with messages from her ex-friend and her husband, urging her to give their friendship another chance. Even her own husband thinks she should reconsider. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Friend’s apology turns into blaming OP, NTA for ending friendship.

A touching story of infertility, PND and toxic friendship.

Forgiveness is a personal choice, not an obligation

Friend refuses to take responsibility for hurtful PPD remarks. NTA.

ESH. Both sides made misjudgments and were in a bad place mentally.

Supportive IVF comment sparks positive fertility discussion

Both parties made mistakes, but forgiveness does not equal reconciliation.

Commenter defends woman’s decision to not reconcile with friend.
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Cutting out toxic people is necessary for your mental health

NTA for setting boundaries. Friend was insensitive about PPD.

Both parties made mistakes and need to work on rebuilding.

Both parties made mistakes, but apology lacked sincerity and accountability ♀️

Friend calls out insensitivity towards infertility, both at fault. ♀️

Friend’s apology lacks sincerity, just wants sounding board back. NTA

Friend refuses to take responsibility for hurtful words. NTA.

Commenter acknowledges both sides and suggests moving on.

Choosing not to reconcile after insensitive comment, NTA.

Asking a friend’s opinion on PPD was a bad idea. Both parties are at fault.

NTA for ending the friendship, but initial misstep caused situation. Friend’s tirade was heartless

Commenter acknowledges both parties’ faults in insensitive conversation.

NTA. A true apology requires understanding, not just expectation.

Husband’s support for friend’s mental illness causing conflict.

Friend’s response to therapy is a red flag

Friend’s apology not genuine, NTA for not reconciling

Friend reaches out about PPD to grieving mother, ESH situation.

Commenter calls out OP for seeking support from wrong person

Validating a choice. Accepting an apology but setting boundaries

Choosing to end a toxic friendship is not selfish. NTA

Don’t let anyone pressure you into forgiving hurtful remarks

NTA, Forgiveness doesn’t mean everything has to go back to normal
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Friend refuses to take responsibility for heartless PPD remarks

Friend’s insincere apology leads to justified ‘NTA’ judgement

Friend refuses to respect boundaries after hurtful comments
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Supportive comment, husband needs to back off and block toxic friend.
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Cutting toxic people out of your life is self-care

Words can hurt. NTA for prioritizing your mental health

Mental illness doesn’t excuse hurtful remarks. NTA stands strong.

Don’t forgive just because of an apology

Consider your friend’s perspective before seeking advice.

Friend struggling with PPD deserves support despite hurtful remarks. ESH.

Setting boundaries after hurtful PPD remarks. NTA

You’re not obligated to reconcile with a heartless friend

NTA. Genuine remorse and understanding are necessary for reconciliation

NTA for not accepting twisted apology and prioritizing own health

Don’t let anyone bully you into being their friend

Friend’s insincere apology after PPD remarks leads to fallout. NTA.

Mental disorder is not an excuse to abuse people around you

Moving on from hurtful remarks doesn’t mean forgetting them

Sometimes losing a friend gives perspective on the relationship

Fake apology? Definitely NTA in this situation

Friendship or Accessory? NTA for not reconciling

Apologies should be offered with humility, not demanded to be accepted.

Friend blames mental illness for her heartless remarks. NTA’s response.

Friendship can’t be forced. NTA stands for Not The A**hole.
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Cutting ties with toxic friends is necessary for self-care

Empowering reminder to prioritize your own emotional well-being

Stand your ground! You deserve a real apology

Woman shares her experience with PPD and how her friend treated her. Not the a**hole for refusing to reconcile.
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Friend’s non-apology for PPD remarks deemed unacceptable. #NTA

Supportive comment validates OP’s decision to cut off toxic friend.

Mental health shouldn’t be used as a manipulation tool. NTA

Cutting off toxic friends? NTA, pursue legal action if harassed

Friend apologized, but irreparable damage done to vulnerable friendship. NTA

Last Updated on May 24, 2023 by Diply Social Team