Meet our 41-year-old heroine, who’s been living with her boyfriend Matt for two years and dating him for four. Matt has a 7-year-old daughter, Phoebe, who lives with her mom just around the corner. Now, with Phoebe’s mom moving to a bigger house, she’ll be spending nights at our protagonist’s place. The dilemma? Matt wants our heroine to give up her study for Phoebe’s bedroom. But is she ready to do that? Let’s dive into the story!
Living Situation

Phoebe’s New Arrangement

The Study Dilemma

Possible Solutions

Financial Situation

Accusations of Selfishness

Update: Matt’s Side

Revisiting the Situation

Finding a Solution

Moving Forward

Is Our Heroine Really Selfish?
So, our protagonist and Matt sat down to discuss the situation. Turns out, Matt was panicking about Phoebe moving away and the impact on their relationship. He also didn’t realize how much money our heroine’s business was bringing in. After going over their finances, they found a possible solution: converting the attic into a bedroom without taking on debt. They’re now looking into quotes for the project. As for people saying Phoebe isn’t her stepdaughter, our heroine says she is in every way that counts. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. OP is willing to move or improve the house, but the boyfriend is unwilling. He needs to address his debt trauma and get a bigger home.

Stepdad mooching off woman, but won’t let her study. NTA
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Stand your ground! Your home, your rules
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Renovation would increase house value, and boyfriend needs anxiety treatment.
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OP’s boyfriend demands she give up office for stepdaughter’s room. NTA

Woman refuses to give up office for stepdaughter’s bedroom. NTA

Stepdaughter’s bedroom vs. education – NTA wins with compromise

Attic study is reasonable, stepdaughter’s room not his entitlement

NTA. Sell the house, dump the boyfriend, and move on.

Defending her space, NTA refuses to share study with stepdaughter

Get a loan and renovate the attic as an office

Defending her right to work from home, NTA

Secure your asset! NTA gets clever with homeowner’s rights

Woman rightfully keeps office, suggests charging stepdaughter’s father rent.

Financially responsible NTA refuses to give up study for stepdaughter’s room

Support for OP’s reasonable solutions, criticism of partner’s entitlement

Convert attic to workspace for tax write offs and financial benefit. NTA

Partner’s aversion to marriage causes relationship concerns.

Offered solutions, but he wants more? NTA, find elsewhere

Woman stands her ground on study space, offers solutions. NTA

Woman defends stepson from commenters suggesting he pay rent.

Attic conversion may not be ideal for a 7-year-old. ♀️

Remodeling the attic is a reasonable solution

Boyfriend vs OP’s study for stepdaughter’s room. NTA wins!

Commenter supports woman’s decision and insults stepdaughter’s father

Attic as an office? Practical solution or cramped workspace?

NAH. Woman has right to remodel her house, but financial arrangements unclear

Sensible attic conversion suggestion for stepdaughter’s bedroom dilemma

Commenter supports OP but warns against being taken advantage of.

NTA. You offered solutions and kindness. Protect your assets

BF hypocritical about money in blended family situation
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WFH, need space, he lives rent-free, reevaluate relationship. NTA

Roommate mooching off NTA, refuses to move for stepdaughter’s bedroom

Commenters’ harshness contrasts with update about nice Matt ♀️

Legal advice warns unmarried couples about property rights. Be careful

Reasonable alternatives suggested, NTA wins this bedroom battle

Stepmom prioritizes stepdaughter’s space, offers solutions. Partner causing issue.

Unmarried couple living together, he’s not paying rent, and controlling.

Compromise and options offered, NTA wins stepfamily conflict

No house, no demands! NTA stands up for herself

Don’t compromise your education or legal rights for a bedroom

Keep your office, renovate the attic or divide a room!

Fair to expect him to pay for loft conversion. NTA

Defending her work space, a woman offers options for stepdaughter.

Woman prioritizes job over stepdaughter’s bedroom, boyfriend’s debt phobia. NTA.

Encouraging response to stepfamily financial conflict. NTA

Woman refuses to give up study for stepdaughter’s room. NTA.

Commenter acknowledges missing context, glad for OP’s progress ❤️

Attic > Office. NTA for prioritizing your education over stepdaughter’s room.

Stand your ground! It’s your house, your rules. NTA

Working from home requires a dedicated office space. NTA.

Stepdad living rent-free but calls stepmom selfish? NTA wins

Unfair financial burden on woman, stepdaughter’s needs prioritized

Protect your home and dreams, don’t give in to pressure

Stepdad not paying rent, but wants stepdaughter’s room?

NTA. Stand firm and don’t let your boyfriend dictate your choices

Sharing study temporarily could prevent future legal battles
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Working from home and giving up home office for stepdaughter’s room? NTA

Compromises offered, converting attic into bedroom seems like best solution

Attic room for stepdaughter? NTA, says internet

Last Updated on May 22, 2023 by Diply Social Team