Imagine being kicked out of your home at 16, and then years later, the person responsible for your misery needs your help. That’s exactly what happened to a 34-year-old woman who had a tumultuous relationship with her dad’s wife, B. After losing her mother at a young age, her father remarried, and B made her life a living h**l. Now, B is sick and needs a bone marrow match, and her father has reached out to his estranged daughter for help. But will she put aside her resentment and get tested? Let’s dive into this rollercoaster of a story.
A Childhood Filled with Pain

Allergic to Love?

Left Behind and Unprotected

A Heartbreaking 16th Birthday

Couch Surfing and College ️

A Shocking Request

Resentment Returns with a Vengeance

To Test or Not to Test?

Therapy Continues ️

A Daughter’s Dilemma: Help or Hold a Grudge?
After a childhood filled with pain and neglect, this woman is faced with a difficult decision. Her father’s wife, B, who made her life a living nightmare, is now sick and in need of a bone marrow match. Her father reaches out, asking her to get tested, but the resentment and anger she feels towards B and her father are overwhelming. She’s torn between being the bigger person and helping or holding onto her grudge. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this heart-wrenching situation…
NTA. Commenters suggest getting tested and sending back a ‘nope’.

NTA. Commenters agree OP is not at fault for refusing.

NTA. Consider writing a letter with therapist’s help to cut ties.

NTA for refusing bone marrow test for abusive stepmom. Father failed OP.
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Don’t be used! NTA gets support and petty revenge ideas

Supportive replies to a comment about cutting off abusive family members.

Choosing not to respond to toxic family is the high road

Commenters suggest getting tested but not donating if a match.

Bone marrow donation is invasive and a personal choice. NTA.

Refusing bone marrow test for dad’s wife, NTA. Odds of match low

NTA for cutting contact. Mental health is more important

Refusing bone marrow test for estranged stepmom – NTA.
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Commenter regrets not seeking help during a difficult time. Replies highlight the challenges of seeking assistance in poverty.

Commenter stands up for OP against abusive family.

Unbelievable story with holes, but allergy exposure is possible

Commenter refuses bone marrow test, calls out family’s audacity.
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Don’t test for bone marrow if it’s just for revenge

NTA commenter receives support for standing up to family drama
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16 and homeless, NTA for refusing bone marrow test

Savage response to bone marrow test refusal

Joining the bone marrow registry is easy and can save lives

No obligation to abusive stepmom, NTA

Woman cuts ties with father after eviction, NTA

Commenter doubts veracity of story with humorous response.

Commenter asserts bodily autonomy and justifies refusal of test.

Overcoming hardship and standing up for yourself.

Commenter called out for wasting time, YTA verdict given.

No obligation to help after 18 years of mistreatment. NTA

Clear NTA judgement with no room for debate

NTA suggests petty revenge on abusive stepmom, sparks laughter and agreement.

Cutting toxicity out of your life was the best decision

Cutting toxic family ties, NTA chooses self-care

Supportive comment applauds not giving ammunition to family drama

Donate bone marrow to a stranger and stick it to them!
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Victim of abuse and attempted poisoning stands up for herself. #NTA

Get the test, send results, and tell them off. NTA

Donating stem cells is daunting, NTA for refusing test.

Body autonomy defended in NTA comment

Daughter refuses bone marrow test for stepmom. NTA, and here’s why.

Don’t give them a d**n thing Family drama at its finest

Daughter not at fault, find out why in comments ♀️
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Daughter refuses bone marrow test for stepmom. NTA, but why?

NTA considers getting tested to dangle in front of family.

Last Updated on May 29, 2023 by Diply Social Team