Woman Faces Dilemma: Adopt Niece & Nephews or Let Foster Family Keep Them?

A 27-year-old woman finds herself in a difficult situation when her estranged cousin reaches out, asking her to adopt her three children. The cousin, who had a history of drug abuse and partying, had her children taken away by Child Protective Services (CPS) three years ago. The woman, who had been close to her cousin in the past, is torn between adopting the children and letting them stay with their loving foster family. As she weighs her options, she must consider the emotional impact on the children and the potential drama with her troubled cousin.

Cousin’s Troubled Past

First Nephew and CPS Involvement

Cousin Cuts Off Family

Years Later, A Sudden Reconnection

Cousin’s Plea for Adoption

Meeting the Foster Family ‍ ‍ ‍

Surprise: A Fourth Child

The Kids Love Their Foster Family ❤️

A Difficult Decision

Reasons for Not Adopting

Cousin’s Furious Reaction

Foster Family’s Adoption Plans

Another Baby on the Way

Choosing the Best Future for the Children

Faced with the difficult decision of adopting her niece and nephews or letting them stay with their foster family, the woman ultimately chooses not to adopt. She believes the children are better off with the foster family, who they have formed strong bonds with. Despite her cousin’s anger, the woman remains involved in the children’s lives as an aunt figure. As the foster family plans to adopt all the children, including the cousin’s unborn child, the woman hopes she has made the best choice for their future. Share your thoughts and reactions below.

NTA – Foster family is a good place for the kids

Loving foster home is best for kids’ stability and happiness

NTA. A loving family keeping siblings together is a dream scenario

Commenter defends OP’s decision to not adopt drug-addicted cousin’s kids.

Supportive aunt navigates complex family dynamics to protect her niece and nephews

NTA. Cousin has no say. Adopting kids is her workaround

Putting the children first. NTA made the right decision

Choosing to stay involved as an aunt figure was the best decision

NTA, cousin tried to get around CPS and rip kids from stable home. You made the right choice.

Support for keeping the kids with their chosen family.

Commenter believes addict shouldn’t adopt kids, foster family better

Choosing between family and foster parents, NTA prioritizes children

Supportive comment encourages aunt to prioritize stability for niblings.

Family ties vs past mistakes. Engaging debate on family values.

Commenter defends decision not to adopt niece and nephews.

Don’t let guilt dictate your choices. Prioritize the kids’ happiness

Commenter suggests forced sterilization, others propose Norplant as solution.

Drug-addicted cousin wants kids back, but foster family is better.

Adopting family’s kids? Watch out for manipulative relatives.

Adopting three children at once is a huge responsibility

Aunt’s dilemma: adopt or let foster family keep them? NTA.

Choosing not to adopt for the children’s well-being. NTA

Being a supportive birth family member is crucial

Putting kids first, not ego. Cousin needs birth control.

Foster family provides stability and resources, NTA for not adopting.

Supportive comment encourages treatment and boundaries for family member.

Putting the kids first.

Former CPS worker advises to prioritize stability over DNA.

Adopting 5 kids at 27 is a huge lifestyle change

Stand your ground and protect those kids!

Foster mom wants you to adopt for her convenience. NTA.

Being an awesome aunt is doing right by these kids

Aunt chooses to keep sibling group together, NTA

Commenter suggests sterilization, deems OP not the a-hole.

Curious if foster family wants to adopt the kids?

Choosing to adopt or not? NTA advises to prioritize kids’ stability

Don’t let guilt force you into adopting 3(4?) kids. #NTA

Choosing family over foster care – heartwarming decision

NTA who hit the jackpot with 5 kids in a loving home!

Not the a**hole, but what’s the backstory?

Loving foster family + caring aunt = happy kids

Choosing the best for the kids

Commenter supports decision, no a**holes here

Let the children decide, NTA. Foster family is their home

Foster family wants to adopt, kids are happy. NTA.

Putting the kids’ welfare first , not their birth mother’s mistakes.

Choosing family vs stable home for niblings, NTA wins

Former foster worker advises aunt to stay involved, but let family keep kids

Adopting family members’ children is tough but worth it

Adoption isn’t always the best option. NTA for considering alternatives.

Heartbreaking reality of children in foster care system

Heartwarming: Foster family praised for adopting 3 siblings already ❤️

Aunt faces tough decision, but NTA for considering foster family.

Commenter’s shock at cousin’s pregnancy sparks concern and confusion.

Aunt’s noble dilemma: Adopt or let foster family keep them?

Heartwarming NTA comment brings hope to a difficult situation ❤

Choosing the kids’ well-being over family drama

Choosing between family and foster care. NTA made the right call

Commenter suggests extreme solution to family dilemma.

Choosing to let the foster family keep the children. NTA

Choosing family over blood, NTA receives love for fostering children

Drug-addicted cousin’s actions make children suffer. NTA for decision.

Commenter sympathizes with woman’s dilemma and criticizes cousin’s parenting.

NTA. Cousin wants control, not what’s best for kids. You’re right.

Adopting niece and nephews? NTA prioritizes children’s well-being

Addiction takes a toll on families. Heartbreaking situation.

Choosing the foster family may be best for the kids

Choosing love over blood ties. NTA for giving them a chance

Aunt chooses foster family over addict cousin. NTA