Missing an important appointment due to negligence is sure to drive a woman crazy, and it becomes worse when you live with someone who could’ve reminded you. It’s tricky to blame others for one’s misfortunes, as you need to walk the fine line between taking responsibility and knowing you weren’t wrong.
A middle-aged same-sex (all female) couple had one of those moments where one person broke routine and caused the other to miss an important appointment. It caused a stir on Reddit ‘s Am I The A-Hole thread because users couldn’t decide who was wrong.
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The couple established a routine where the 32-year-old Redditor woke her 35-year-old girlfriend up daily to ensure she met appointments. However, the routine wore her out as the girlfriend was a heavy sleeper and a grumpy morning person.
After dancing around their toxic routine for a while, things came to a head when the girlfriend said hurtful things to the poster causing the latter to give up and allow her to sleep. Consequently, “miss heavy-sleeper” missed her appointment, causing her to lash out at the poster.
They’ve kept malice for some days as the poster insists on abolishing the routine.
She asked if she was a jerk for making the girlfriend miss her appointment, but a fellow Redditor replied in the negative.
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It’s Careless To Not Find A Solution To That Nasty Behavior At 35
Hypersomnia Is More Common Than You Think
Having Someone To Help Is A Privilege
The OP Isn’t A Jerk
The Girlfriend Needs Therapy
Toxic relationships are discouraged for a reason; this scenario is a classic example. It often leaves one party drained while trying to keep the other person happy. Their relationship was a boiling pot; it was only a matter of time before it bubbled over.
Being a heavy sleeper wasn’t the problem but becoming aggressive and insulting towards the person helping you (who’s supposed to be your romantic lover) was wrong. Several Redditors wondered how the girlfriend reached 35 without solving that problem as she’s had to navigate life in school and other aspects.
It appears she loved tearing into her girlfriend because she could’ve bought an alarm clock or set one up on her smartphone (everyone uses one these days). Stories from fellow users revealed that heavy sleeping is a bigger phenomenon than you can imagine, and people get others to go the extra mile to wake them up.
It’s a problem for a sleep therapist, not her girlfriend, who only wanted to help. The poster did well by putting a foot down; if she’s smart, she’ll run from that relationship!
