A woman has turned to the internet to ask if she is in the wrong for being upset with her husband for using her bonus on himself. The couple has been married for four years and the husband has yet to find his passion in life. Meanwhile, the wife has been working full time and recently received a small bonus as well as a pay raise. When she told her husband about the bonus, he seemed more excited than she was and proceeded to use the money to buy new gaming equipment for himself. When the wife expressed her hurt and disappointment, he called her selfish and accused her of not being supportive. Now, she is left wondering if she overreacted and is feeling the brunt of criticism from her husband’s friends and family. Read on to find out if she is the a**hole in this situation.
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Husband uses wife’s bonus for game system, calls her selfish
A woman shares her frustration after her husband used her bonus and pay raise to buy himself a new game system without her permission. When she expressed her upset, he called her selfish and unsupportive. Despite the fact that she has been working full time and supporting them both during the pandemic, his friends and family have sided with him, leaving her feeling alone and questioning if she overreacted. The woman is now seeking advice on whether she was wrong to be upset and how to move forward with her husband. Read on for the full story and to see how others have responded to her situation.
Commenter advises OP to leave husband and seek legal help

Protect your finances before it’s too late
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Partner spent wife’s bonus on game system, NTA and gaslighting.

NTA’s bonus spent on game system; spouse being unsupportive. ️

Wife’s husband spends her bonus on game system, not cool. Replies reveal one-sided household chores.

Redditors speculate that the husband in question may be the same as a previous AITA post

Husband spends wife’s bonus on game system, commenter calls out entitlement.

Take control and demand respect

Red bottoms vs gaming system: a tale of priorities

Commenter defends NTA verdict, replies agree with analogy

NTA, but major red flag. Evaluating relationship or counseling advised.

Partner using bonus for gaming, NTA suggests splitting finances.

Spouse spends bonus on game, storms out. Sell equipment?

Husband makes major purchases without consultation, and is not useful.

Husband spends wife’s bonus on game system. Wife is NTA.

Taking control of finances can lead to conflicts. NTA.

Set some ground rules and show him who’s boss

Wife denied purse repair while husband splurges on game system

Spouse spends bonus on game system, commenters call entitlement.

Return the gaming system and spend the bonus on yourself!

Encouragement for a supportive comment on job expectations.

Commenter supports wife’s decision to leave lazy, selfish husband.

OP grateful for advice and plans to separate finances and seek therapy

Why is she still with him? Red flags everywhere

Husband spends wife’s bonus on game system. Commenters agree: NTA.

Husband spends wife’s bonus on game system, but NTA according to commenters

Gamer husband steals wife’s hard-earned bonus. NTA stands up.

Husband’s selfishness leads to wife’s disappointment and regret

Husband steals wife’s bonus for toys, runs to mommy when confronted

Taking someone’s money has consequences.

Partner spent all of my paycheck. Relationship ended

Spouse spends wife’s bonus on game system, commenters call out entitlement

Protect your hard-earned money and seek legal separation.

Don’t let him play the victim, your bonus your rules

Secrets are sometimes necessary for a peaceful relationship. NTA.
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Commenter calls out lazy husband and supports OP’s actions.

Re-evaluating relationships after financial disagreements

Empower yourself and don’t let anyone control your finances. NTA

Redditor discovers husband’s post in AITA subreddit about gaming computer.

OP’s spouse is a leech, not a spouse.

Red flag alert! Selfish and thoughtless partner ♀️

Fiery comment sparks divorce talk

NTA commenter shares budgeting tips to avoid frivolous expenses

Husband using wife’s bonus for game system, NTA suggests divorce

Couple argues over bonus spending; both at fault. ♂️

Fiancé steals bonus for game system. NTA for being upset.

Empowering response to controlling partner.

Husband spends wife’s bonus on game system; commenter advises divorce

Supportive comment defends against criticism and suggests drastic action.

Commenter defends wife, calling out husband’s gaslighting. NTA

Spending bonus on gaming system without agreement – NTA. Hide bonus.

Supportive to a fault? Time for a divorce?

Demanding accountability and a change in priorities.

Not the a-hole and proud of it!
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Husband spends wife’s bonus on gaming system, wife isn’t happy

NTA! Husband spends wife’s bonus on game system and calls her selfish.

Partner should respect your input on bonus money. Consider leaving.

Husband using wife’s bonus on game system, NTA but husband is

Commenter sympathizes with wife and warns OP of husband’s behavior.

Communication is key in a partnership

Husband spends wife’s bonus on game system, refuses to let her use her next bonus for her needs. ♂️

Redditor supports wife in relationship advice thread.

OP’s husband spends wife’s bonus on gaming system NTA
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