Love can be complicated, especially when ex-spouses are involved. Our story today revolves around a woman (34/f) who found love with Stephen (49/m), a kind and charming man. They’ve been happily married for a year, but Stephen’s past with his ex-wife Tiffany (49/f) is causing some drama. Tiffany has three kids from three different relationships and now wants Stephen to co-sign a mortgage for her. The wife is not on board with this idea and believes Tiffany should get a job and support herself. Let’s dive into their story and see if the wife is being too harsh or if she’s making a valid point.
A Love Story Begins
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The Ex-Wife’s History
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Tiffany’s Relationship Rollercoaster
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The Mortgage Dilemma
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A Guilt Trip
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Wife’s Strong Stance
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Stephen’s Perspective
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Wife’s Past Experience ️
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The Big Question ❓
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Update: A Heart-to-Heart
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Reaching a Decision
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Stephen’s Concerns
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Apologies and Honesty
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The Final Verdict
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Tiffany’s Response
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Wife Puts Her Foot Down
After a heart-to-heart discussion, the couple agrees that co-signing on Tiffany’s mortgage would strain their relationship. Stephen admits he was worried Tiffany might use his refusal to alienate their son, but he knows Taylor can come to him directly if needed. They validate each other’s feelings and decide that co-signing is not the right move. Stephen informs Tiffany of their decision, and she leaves him on read. Sometimes, tough love is necessary to protect your own peace of mind. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA commenters warn against co-signing ex’s house, ticking time bomb

Husband’s ex wants him to co-sign mortgage, wife says no. Drama ensues. NTA.

NTA! Co-signing with ex-wife is a terrible idea

Husband wants to co-sign ex’s house, wife says no. NTA.

Commenter seeks legal advice on ex’s house co-signing dilemma

NTA. Suggesting a legal contract to protect husband’s investment

NTA. Co-signing puts husband on hook for mortgage and maintenance. Child support ends at 18.

NTA for not co-signing. Financial planner needed to avoid trouble

Suggests alternative solution for ex’s housing dilemma

Banking insider confirms NTA’s stance against co-signing, legal advice recommended

Co-signing loans is risky business , better safe than sorry

Co-signing means equal responsibility. What if she doesn’t pay?

Commenter shows empathy and support for OP amidst criticism

Dumpster fire alert! NTA comment and a sassy reply.

Ex’s mortgage: NTA husband refuses to co-sign. Drama ensues!

NTA refuses to co-sign ex’s house. Commenters speculate on ex’s plans ♀️
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Husband not responsible for ex’s lifestyle and parenting choices
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Co-signing a mortgage is risky and not necessary in this situation.

Husband’s ex’s house co-signing = divorce? NTA comment section drama

Protect your credit rating, NTA.

Protecting credit score: NTA for refusing to co-sign ex’s house

Commenter advises against co-signing ex’s house, suggests getting a job
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Avoiding financial disaster: why co-signing is a terrible idea

Don’t mix finances with exes, NTA. Stick to your guns.

Husband’s ex relies on child support, refuses to work. NTA for refusing co-signing.

Commenter hilariously calls out husband’s terrible decision-making skills.

Protect your finances, don’t co-sign for your ex!

NTA stands their ground against ex’s housing request

Commenter thinks husband is not the a**hole for co-signing ex’s house

NTA for refusing co-sign. Concerns about age gap and ex.

NTA. Harsh, but real. Ex needs to figure it out

Trust issues after cheating: NTA won’t co-sign ex’s house

NTA warns against co-signing

Ingenious solution to co-signing drama

Protecting your spouse’s financial future

Consulting a lawyer is crucial to avoid legal ramifications

NTA wants to protect their assets. Wise move considering past betrayal

Commenter and reply agree NTA, criticize ex’s financial planning

Protecting assets in marriage

Cosigning disaster story warns against husband’s risky decision

Ex’s house? No way! NTA stands firm, warns husband

Commenter suggests ex-wife needs a job to afford house

NTA warns OP about ex’s manipulative behavior and advises caution

Ex-fiancee co-purchased house for ex-wife, now my ex-fiancee. NTA

Commenter questions ex’s future plans, calls out guilt-tripping behavior. NTA

NTA. Commenter calls out ex’s motives and husband’s foolishness.

Stand your ground! Putting your child’s best interest first.

NTA husband’s ex cheated, why co-sign? Buy cheaper house

Ex-wife’s entitlement causing rift in husband’s new marriage

Protecting finances or overreacting? NTA sparks debate.

NTA! Naive man gets reality check from commenters.

Financial decisions should be made together. NTA.
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Wife advises to consult a lawyer before co-signing ex’s house

Ex-wife wants co-signer, but NTA husband draws the line

Husband’s ex is manipulating him into co-signing her house

NTA thinks ex-wife’s request for co-signing is a bad idea

Ex cheated, he wants to co-sign her house? NTA

Protecting your financial future. Talking to a lawyer is crucial.

Protect yourself with a postnuptial or divorce agreement
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