Wife Refuses Husband’s Request to Father Another Child with Different Woman

Imagine being married to a loving man who already has a child with another woman, but then he wants to have another child with her! That’s the situation one woman found herself in, and she’s not sure if she’s in the wrong for refusing. Her husband, James, was a sperm donor to his friend Miranda and her wife Vivian, and they have a sweet little boy. James is an involved “uncle” and the wife has grown to accept this unique family dynamic. However, when Miranda approached James about being a donor again, the wife put her foot down.

The Unique Family Dynamic

Accepting the Situation

Trying for a Baby

Another Request

Wife’s Discomfort

Wife’s Stance

Husband’s Suggestion

Miranda and Vivian’s Refusal

Husband’s Final Decision

Confrontation

Wife’s Explanation

Restricted Access

Selfish Reasons?

Clarifications

More Details

Wife’s Dilemma: Selfish or Justified?

This wife is torn between her own feelings and the happiness of her husband and his friends. She’s accepted the unique family dynamic, but when asked to allow her husband to father another child with another woman, she couldn’t help but feel uncomfortable. James sided with his wife, but now Miranda and Vivian are restricting access to their son, causing heartache for James and his family. Is the wife’s stance selfish or justified? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Husband’s friends demand wife to be okay with surrogate, NTA

NTA. Vivian and Miranda are being incredibly unreasonable

Couple’s obsession with genetic link hurting their son and others

Commenter calls out using children as weapons ️

NTA for refusing husband’s request to father another child. Commenters agree.

NTA for not wanting husband to father another child with different woman, but ESH for the way they all handled the situation. Commenters have mixed opinions and suggest considering James’ previous intentions and the couple’s entitlement.

NTA has a right to be uncomfortable, but family should be gracious

NTA refuses husband’s request to father child with different woman

Husband’s involvement with donor child is complicated and problematic. NTA.

Complicated non-traditional family dynamics with weaponizing access to child

NTA for not wanting husband to father child with another woman

NTA. Miranda and Vivian are being AHs. Suggest adoption or another donor.

Husband wants to father child with another woman, commenters debate who sucks more. ESH ‍♀️

Suggests alternative to husband donating sperm for biologically related child. NTA.

Couple ignores husband’s ‘no’ to father child with another woman

NTA OP! Red flag behavior from others. Appalling use of child

Suggestion to offer James as donor for second child

Respectful response to husband’s request for another child with surrogate.

NTA comment defends nontraditional families and criticizes couple’s immaturity

Family involvement in grandchild causing conflict over fathering another child. NAH.

Commenter suggests husband’s desire to father a child with another woman is selfish. Replies argue against sharing sperm and defend wife’s decision.

Respectful communication and bodily autonomy prevail. NTA

NTA for refusing to father another child with different woman

Debate over husband’s request to father another child with different woman

NTA for refusing to father child with different woman

Debate over husband’s role in fathering another child with woman.

Miranda and Vivian aren’t entitled to James’ sperm

NTA OP’s wife wants another child with his sperm, but he disagrees.

Setting boundaries is okay, harassment is not. NAH

Commenter calls out selfishness in controversial family situation.

Commenter suggests couple may be limiting access due to husband’s discomfort

Debate on OP being TA for denying husband’s request.

Commenter calls out misleading title and jealousy, YTA confirmed

Commenter suggests alternate solutions to husband’s request for donor.

Husband’s broken promise causes tension between families. ESH

You have the right to ask for priority. NTA

Commenter defends husband’s choice, slams entitled request with expletive outrage

NTA for not wanting wife to have a child with friend. Harassment from Vivian and Miranda makes them TA

Defending OP’s decision to refuse husband’s request for sperm donation

Curious commenter seeks info on restricted access to family members

Commenter calls out Vivian and Miranda for being ‘garbage’. NTA.

NTA for refusing to father another child with different woman

Demanding someone else’s sperm? That’s a bit a**hole-ish.

Anonymous donor sperm may be the way to go