A 15-year-old boy finds himself in a tense situation after his dad gets him a birthday cake he’s allergic to. The teen’s relationship with his father has been rocky, as they only started spending time together when he was 8. Over the years, he’s noticed that his dad’s choices for activities and gifts seem to be more about his dad’s preferences than his own. The situation comes to a head when his dad gets him a strawberry vanilla cake, despite knowing about his severe allergy.
A Late Start to Fatherhood

Trying to Bond with Dad

Dad’s Choices Dominate

Christmas Gift Gone Wrong

Birthday Cake Disaster

Allergic Reaction

Dad’s Shocking Response

Dad’s Anger Erupts

A Painful Truth Spoken ️

Dad’s Accusations Fly

Tension Fills the Air ⚡

Feeling Guilty

A Family Torn Apart by Cake
After receiving a cake he’s deathly allergic to, the teen confronts his dad, leading to a heated argument. The situation escalates when the boy suggests his dad would’ve remembered his allergy if he cared. Now, with both parents upset and the family in turmoil, the teen wonders if he should’ve kept quiet. What do you think? Share your thoughts and reactions.
Father forgets son’s allergy and gets him a cake, gets mad when called out. Commenters agree dad needs to do better.

Teen feels unheard and unimportant to his dad.
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Dad gets allergic son a cake: NTA for speaking up

Father forgets son’s allergy and blames him for speaking up. NTA

Negligent dad buys allergic son cake, demands apology. NTA.

Dad gives allergic son a strawberry cake, gets mad when called out

Teen’s dad gets him a cake he’s allergic to : NTA for speaking up

Parent forgets child’s deadly allergy, NTA for speaking up

Managing expectations of absent fathers. NTA, focus on you
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A ‘death cake’ from dad? NTA for speaking up

A heartfelt NTA comment supporting a teen’s allergic reaction

Parenting mistakes should be apologized for. NTA

Heartbreaking comment about a terrible father figure

Parent forgets child’s severe allergy, NTA for speaking up

Supportive commenter offers to be a new dad with humor

Calling out a dad for giving a cake with allergens
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Father’s negligence leads to allergic reaction, NTA for speaking up

Supportive comment receives no replies.
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Struggling with a distant parent? NTA, it’s not your fault

Dad’s selfishness is a red flag

Father’s mistake leads to anger instead of apology ♂️

Stand up for yourself and set boundaries with family

Validating a child’s feelings is crucial for a healthy relationship

Father forgets son’s deadly allergy, NTA for speaking up
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Father’s intentions questioned in NTA comment.

Speaking up for your health? NTA

Supportive comment from someone who went through a similar situation

Divorced dad forgets son’s lactose intolerance, gets him cake ♂️. Son’s justified reaction.

When a gift is more about the giver than the receiver

Remembering your child’s allergies is basic parenting

Dad’s mistake, not yours. Don’t apologize for his negligence

Father forgets son’s allergy, gets him cake: Son speaks up. #NTA

Dad forgets son’s deadly allergies, gets him cake he’s allergic to

Empathetic reply to teen’s struggle with self-centered father

NTA, being served something you’re allergic to is messed up

Dad got him an allergic cake, but it’s not the first time

Asserting boundaries with family, NTA takes a stand

Don’t be a mini-me: NTA for speaking up

Stand up to your dad and explain why it’s not okay

Empathetic NTA comment acknowledges flawed father, suggests considering apology.
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Father buys son allergic cake, son speaks up. NTA.

Heartbreaking story of abandonment and the importance of being seen.

NTA. The harsh truth about imperfect parents and setting boundaries.

Speaking up about an allergic cake: NTA, dad needs reflection

Heartwarming support for young artist in NTA comment section

Teen speaks up about dad’s careless behavior, receives backlash.

Father misses half child’s life, gets him deadly cake. NTA.

Dad’s selfish act: getting a cake his allergic son can’t eat
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Father neglects son’s allergy for praise, NTA for speaking up

Absentee dad gets son a cake he’s allergic to

Standing up to manipulative parents. Stay strong
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Teen expresses disappointment in dad’s disregard for his allergies and interests.

Struggling to connect with your dad? Here’s how to talk.

Stand up for yourself! NTA. Sell the PS4 game.

Teen speaks up about dad’s allergy mistake, gets support.

Stand up for yourself and exchange the cake for a sketchbook!

Standing up for your health and boundaries is NTA

NTA. Father’s good intentions need clear communication and guidance

Heartfelt support from a fellow mom.
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Encouraging response to father-son relationship with potential for growth

Self-advocacy is key. NTA, stand up for yourself

When gift-giving goes wrong

Lonely commenter finds support after absent father’s insensitive gesture

Dad almost fed his son a deadly food NTA

Supportive reply to bad parenting with NTA judgement.

Toxic dad gets allergic son a cake, NTA for speaking up

Father gets son an allergic cake , commenter says NTA.

Cake allergy leads to attempted murder? NTA speaks up.

It’s not your job to make your dad feel safe . He needs to work on himself.

Standing up to a selfish dad who doesn’t listen

Breaking the perfect image of a narcissistic father.

Father gives son allergic cake, son speaks up. NTA.

Father gets son allergic cake for birthday, NTA calls him out

Validating the OP’s feelings towards their dad’s gift-giving habits
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Empathetic suggestion to help the dad understand the situation

Confusion and lack of context in this comment section.

Last Updated on April 26, 2023 by Diply Social Team