Imagine being a loving stepmom to twins, treating them like your own, and then one day, they turn on you, saying you’re not their mom and shouldn’t act like it. This woman has been through it all: a rocky marriage, a miscarriage, and now, her stepkids’ cruel words. But she’s not taking it lying down. She’s decided to step back and stop doing all the mom things she used to do for them. But is she being too harsh? Let’s dive into her story and find out.
The Rocky Marriage
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My Love for the Twins ❤️
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The Twins’ Absent Mom
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Taking the Leap of Faith
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The Outfit Conflict
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The Skirt’s Mysterious Origin
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The Harsh Words
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A Slap in the Face
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Toughening Up
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Not Their Mom, Not Their Problem ♀️
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No More Support
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The Cold Shoulder ❄️
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Confrontation Time ⏰
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The Unsupportive Husband
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Feeling Unappreciated
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Stepmom’s Heartbreak: Am I Being Too Harsh?
After years of loving and raising her husband’s twins like her own, this stepmom faced a harsh reality when they told her she wasn’t their mom and shouldn’t act like it. Feeling hurt and unappreciated, she decided to take a step back and stop doing all the mom things she used to do for them. No more waking them up for school, no more attending their basketball games or cheer competitions. But now, her stepdaughter is asking why she didn’t show up to her competition. The stepmom’s response? “I’m not your mom, so why would I?” Her marriage is on the rocks, and she’s considering divorce. But is she being too harsh? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Stepmom rightfully stops being a mother figure after disrespect from stepkids

Stepmom called NTA, advised to seek therapy for disrespectful stepkids. Husband is the real a**hole for not taking action. Being petty may teach kids to appreciate love.

Stepmom gets support for husband’s ungrateful behavior.

User suggests moving on from husband who uses her as mom

Encouraging words for a stepmom dealing with disrespectful stepkids

Stepmom shows tough love to stepkids. NTA parenting advice.

Stepmom deserves to live her life, stepkids need to apologize

A supportive comment for stepmom dealing with unappreciative stepkids.

Stepmom stands up to disrespectful stepkids, receives support.

Compassionate comment offers support and advice for struggling stepmom.

Stepmom gets support for standing up to disrespectful stepkids.

Stepmom deserves better: NTA, husband needs to step up

Husband’s inaction causes stepmom to snap at disrespectful stepkids

Concerned commenter suggests divorce and finding happiness in new marriage.

Stepmom rightfully claps back at disrespectful stepkids.

Divorce may be the solution to dealing with disrespectful stepkids

Stepkids’ continuous disrespect leads to stepparent considering divorce ♀️

Stepmom not the a-hole for setting boundaries with stepkids

Stepmom advised to set boundaries and husband to parent his children.

User empathizes with stepmom and advises exit strategy

Don’t be a doormat! Take out the trash and set boundaries.

Stepmom stands her ground, husband needs to step up parenting

Words have consequences even for parents.

Standing up to disrespectful stepkids- no obligation to take abuse

Stepmom gets no respect from stepkids or husband

Respectful stepchild shares experience, advises OP to divorce husband.

Supportive step parent shares advice on dealing with disrespectful stepkids.

Stepmom stands her ground against disrespectful stepkids

Words have weight even if they don’t mean it

Stepmom not taking disrespect from stepkids, NTA for leaving

Stepmom not at fault, husband should’ve backed her up

Stepmom advised to prioritize self-care and let husband handle kids. NTA

Stepmom called ‘Mom’ when convenient, but ‘not my Mom’ when confronted. NTA ❤️

Husband needs to step up and be a team player.

Expectation shattered! Commenter gets NTA support.

Supportive comment reminds stepmom of her worth and boundaries.

Encouraging reply to a struggling stepparent.

Find support and advice from understanding stepparents in this sub

Stepmom stands up to disrespectful stepkids and leaves.

Stepmom gets disrespected, commenter values their bonus mother role.

Stepkids disrespect stepmom, she claps back. NTA!

NTA suggests divorce after disrespectful stepkids. Tough situation

Stepmom not at fault, husband needs to discipline disrespectful teens

Empathetic comment supports stepparent facing disrespectful stepkids, encourages self-love ❤️

Divorce and live your best life! NTA

Stepmom expertly puts disrespectful stepkids in their place

Stepmom receives support and advice after dealing with disrespectful stepkids

Encouraging words for a stepmom in a tough situation.

Stepmom’s tough love approach to discipline sparks debate.

Stepmom takes a stand against disrespectful stepkids. NTA.

Stepmom sympathizes with NTA and suggests leaving the disrespectful bunch.

Advice for stepmom dealing with disrespectful stepkids and enabling father.

Heartbreaking advice to stepmom who’s not appreciated

NTA advises to bail on the situation and start anew.

Stepchild explains why step parents are easy targets for teens

Stepmom takes stand against disrespectful stepkids, NTA.

Step-parenting is tough, but having a supportive partner is key!

Stepmom not too harsh for consequences after disrespectful stepkids

Divorce or counseling? The fate of this stepfamily.

Stepmom sets boundaries with stepkids, commenters agree she’s NTA

Stepmom gets support from commenter for standing up to stepkids

Natural consequences for disrespectful stepkids? NTA’s struggles

Anne’s stepkids are disrespectful, but she’s not the a**hole

Divorce seems like the best option.

Feeling underappreciated in your home? Family therapy might help

Stepmom gets blamed for miscarriage, stands up to disrespectful stepkids

Set limits with love and address husband problem
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