Three years ago, a woman’s ex-boyfriend proposed to her during her sister’s wedding, causing a scene and leaving a lasting impact. Now, as the woman plans her own wedding, her sister has been ‘joking’ about getting payback by ruining the big day. Despite multiple apologies, the grudge seems to persist, and the bride-to-be is left wondering whether to invite her sister or risk a potential disaster.
The Unwanted Proposal
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Apologies and Grudges
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A New Engagement
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Confronting the ‘Jokes’
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Unending Grudge
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A Mother’s Advice
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The Big Dilemma
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Mum’s Stance ✊
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An Ultimatum
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To Invite or Not to Invite?
Caught between her sister’s grudge and her mother’s ultimatum, this bride-to-be faces a difficult decision. Should she risk inviting her sister, who may or may not be joking about ruining the wedding, or stand her ground and potentially lose her mother’s support? Share your thoughts and reactions below.
NTA – Sister blames wrong person for ex’s behavior at wedding

Consider eloping to avoid sister’s potential wedding day drama



NTA, but invite the sister and include her in planning with backup security.

Prevent wedding drama with a family tradition of sharing news
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Elope and blame COVID! Don’t let your sister ruin it

Rejected public proposal leads to sister’s wedding threat

Cutting ties with toxic family for a drama-free wedding

Sister’s ‘joke’ threats to ruin wedding, BIL’s reaction questioned

Don’t let her ruin your day, embrace the chaos

Sister threatens to ruin wedding, but OP’s not the A-hole ♀️
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Bride-to-be hesitant to invite vengeful sister to wedding

Sister threatens to ruin wedding over ex’s proposal. NTA.

Sister won’t let go of past mistake. Suggest therapy. NTA

Petty sister threatens wedding, innocent parties beware

Avoiding wedding drama with elopement

Commenter sympathizes with OP’s family struggles

NTA. Revenge is heinous. Consider serious talk with venue manager.

Bride-to-be stands up to sister’s wedding day threats

Invite her or not? YTA if you don’t, but can she be trusted?
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Invite sister to altar to prevent wedding sabotage

Wedding drama with sister, but NTA and two years ahead.

Sister seeks revenge on wedding day, but not her ex’s?
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Don’t let her ruin your day! NTA, trust your gut.

Sister wants revenge on her sister’s wedding day

Sister threatens to ruin wedding as payback. NTA stands firm.

Sister threatens to ruin wedding as payback. NTA, don’t invite her.
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Mom threatens not to attend if sis not invited, NTA.

Don’t risk it! WNBTA and may ruin your special day

Elope for a stress-free wedding day

Supportive comment advises talking to sister and uninviting if necessary

Confrontation may be necessary to clear the air

Take control of your wedding toast and beat your sister!

Sister threatens to ruin wedding, but OP is NTA. Elopement?

Did the sister plan the proposal at her wedding?

Sister’s grudge threatens wedding, but OP not at fault. NTA.
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Sister threatens to ruin wedding over past incident, NTA needs security

Don’t let petty revenge ruin your big day Focus on love and ignore the sprinkles
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Turn the tables and make her antics a memorable moment
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Be the bigger person, invite her, and don’t stoop down.

Sister blames bride for ruining wedding like blaming victim of shooting

Sibling drama at weddings Who’s really to blame?

Eloping seems like the best course of action

Take control of your wedding day, NTA.

Eloping may be the best plan. Don’t let your sister ruin it

Elope for a special, private and drama-free wedding day

Commenter defends OP’s actions with a witty analogy

Commenter sympathizes with OP and slams their mom

Sister threatens to ruin wedding over one bad proposal

Elope and renew vows later to avoid sister’s potential sabotage
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Sister’s revenge plan backfires. Commenters side with bride. NTA

