We’ve all heard of family members helping each other out in times of need, but what happens when that generosity is taken advantage of? One woman (29F) is struggling with this dilemma after housing her brother (23M) and his girlfriend (21F) for eight months. The couple moved in when they were both unemployed and facing disapproval from their parents. The sister thought it would be a temporary arrangement, but now she’s left to work, cook, and clean for them while they show no signs of improvement. To make matters worse, the girlfriend is now pregnant, and they expect the sister to provide for their growing family!
Housing Brother and GF

Expecting Temporary Refuge ️

Working, Cooking, and Cleaning

Spending Money Recklessly

Messy and Irresponsible ️

Eating Her Food ️

Pregnancy Bombshell

Expecting More Support

Confrontation and Accusations

Struggling with Expenses

Considering Eviction

Not Heartless, but…

Hoping for Change

Pushed to the Limit: Sister’s Generosity Tested
This woman’s patience is wearing thin as she continues to house her brother and his pregnant girlfriend. Despite her efforts to encourage them to find jobs and take responsibility, they remain unemployed and expect her to provide for their growing family. The situation has escalated to the point where she’s considering kicking her brother out, hoping it will force him to finally step up. While she understands the potential consequences of her actions, she’s left wondering if she’s being too harsh or if it’s time to put her foot down.
Stop enabling their behavior, give them a deadline to find jobs

Time to kick them out! You don’t want to be their mommy forever.

Set boundaries and give them a deadline to vacate

Stop enabling them! You’re not doing them any favors. YTA.

Don’t light yourself on fire to keep others warm.

Set an ultimatum: Get a job or find elsewhere to stay
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NTA comment advises kicking out brother and girlfriend with ultimatum.


Don’t be a pushover, stand up for yourself!

Pregnant GF and brother taking advantage NTA takes action ❤️

Don’t let them take advantage of you. Kick them out!
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Protect your boundaries and kick them out ASAP!

NTA. Advise to talk to a lawyer and evict them formally. Why give an allowance to two adults who don’t contribute?

Enabling family taking advantage of pregnant GF, seek legal advice

Commenter calls out enabling behavior of brother and pregnant GF.

NTA. Tough love is necessary for them to grow up

Give brother one month to find job, then they must leave

Kindness taken for granted, time to let them go

Enabling takers and users? YTA needs to evict them ASAP!
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Take control of your life, kick them out and move on!

Giving a hard deadline to your brother and pregnant girlfriend? YWNBTA


Don’t be too trusting, they might claim squatters rights

Don’t be a doormat! Kick them out and prioritize yourself.


Don’t be the a**hole, stop the leeches

Take a break and put yourself first. YTA to yourself.

Don’t be a doormat! Stand up for yourself!

User calls out brother and pregnant girlfriend for taking advantage

Setting boundaries with family on financial support for baby

Brother and pregnant GF taking advantage, time to kick them out!

Enabling a toxic living situation is ESH ♀️

You’re not the a**hole for setting boundaries in your home

Stop enabling them, NTA. Let them find work

NTA, kick them out!

Generous sister helps pregnant sister, but brother needs a kick. NTA

Enabling entitled siblings or forcing responsibility? Baby trapped?

Brother and pregnant GF taking advantage of NTA sister

Encouraging comment on setting boundaries with mooching family members

Commenter is not at fault, phew!

Set boundaries and give ultimatum for mooching brother and GF

NTA. Tough love is necessary. Cut them off and kick them out.
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NTA for wanting to kick them out but soft YTA for taking them in in the first place. Give them a warning before evicting them. It’s not your responsibility.

Set boundaries and stand your ground. Don’t budge!

Stand up for yourself and kick them out!

Take back control of your home and life!

NTA commenter suggests kicking out pregnant GF for brother’s behavior.

Set a hard deadline for them to leave. Don’t give in

Brother and pregnant GF taking advantage of sister’s kindness . Kick them out!

Recognizing the signs of an enabler. NTA.

Time to tough love them out. NTA for setting boundaries.

NTA. Kick them out and give them money for a hotel
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Take legal action and don’t tolerate their behavior. Good luck!


Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm . NTA, kick them out now before it’s too late.


Set boundaries and kick them out before it’s too late

Set boundaries and kick them out now. It’s tough but necessary

Stand up for yourself! Kick those leeches out

Evict them now for their own good. You got this sis!

Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries is NTA

Protect yourself and your future. Kick them out now!

Take action and evict them. Don’t enable their behavior!

Standing up to family for financial responsibility

Set boundaries and stick to them. Don’t enable their behavior.

Commenter advises OP to evict brother and girlfriend.

Stand your ground! NTA. Kick them out

Helpful commenter advises setting a deadline for brother and GF.

Setting boundaries with family can be tough, but necessary.

Commenter advises cutting off brother and pregnant GF for taking advantage

Eviction notice! Don’t enable them anymore. NTA!

Set boundaries with mooching brother and pregnant girlfriend. #NTA

Take control of the situation, set boundaries and enforce them.

Set boundaries and kick them out. NTA

Don’t let parasites take advantage of your kindness.

Commenter advises OP to kick out brother and pregnant GF
