Imagine offering to temporarily care for your sister’s baby while she gets her life back on track, only for her to accuse you of ‘stealing’ her child when you decide to make it permanent. That’s the situation one woman found herself in after taking guardianship of her sister’s 14-month-old baby girl. The sister, who we’ll call Jane, was going through a divorce, jobless, and homeless. But after months of no contact and no effort to see her daughter, the protagonist and her wife decided to look into adoption. Now, Jane is livid and accusing her sister of trying to steal her baby.
Taking Temporary Guardianship

Jane’s Struggles

Agreeing to Guardianship

Jane Disappears ♀️

No Financial Responsibility

Jane’s Excuses

Money and Transportation Issues

Calling Out Jane’s Ridiculousness

Looking into Adoption

Jane’s Furious Reaction

IVF and Accusations

Concerns for Sara’s Well-being

Why Not Take in Jane Too?

Jane’s Questionable Lifestyle

The Struggle for Sara’s Future
As Jane continues to make no effort to be a part of her daughter’s life, the protagonist and her wife are left with the difficult decision of whether to pursue adoption. They worry about Sara’s safety and well-being if she were to return to Jane’s care. Despite Jane’s hurtful accusations and threats, they remain committed to doing what’s best for Sara. But with the emotional rollercoaster this situation has become, it’s hard to predict what the future holds for this family. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this complicated situation…
Advice from adoptees and guardians on legally adopting a child.

NTA. Taking guardianship was best for Sara. Don’t worry about Jane.

NTA. Jane had every opportunity to be present in Sara’s life.

Keeping receipts to prove innocence in custody battle

Choosing the right thing can be heartbreaking

Protecting the baby is top priority

Rescuing a baby from a bad situation

Taking guardianship was the right thing to do

Putting a child in limbo is damaging, NTA for adopting

Guardianship vs adoption: A cautionary tale

Sister neglects involvement in Sara’s life, adoption is best option

Commenter shares personal experience and advises to prioritize child’s safety.

Debate over legality and ethics of adoption after guardianship.

Putting the baby’s needs first, NTA takes guardianship

Putting the child’s well-being first

Protecting the child from Jane: the right thing to do!

Choosing the best for your niece

NTA, you’re a rockstar for giving the baby a loving home . Consider low contact with lazy sister

Choosing the child’s well-being over family drama

Adopt the baby and go NC with Jane. NTA

Putting the child’s interest first , but should the mother be given a chance?

Protecting the young is top priority , NTA has the responsibility.

Choosing safety over blood ties. NTA for taking guardianship

Providing a stable home for abandoned niece. NTA

Being a good Samaritan: NTA for taking guardianship

Choosing the right guardian for a child is crucial

Legal actions taken to provide a good home for baby. NTA

Saving the kiddo – NTA wins legal custody

Protect yourself legally and prioritize the baby.

NTA. Former addict and adopted child shares perspective on guardianship.

Debating the cost of texting and calling with NTA commenter

Taking guardianship doesn’t make you a thief . Jane needs help

Taking guardianship to provide a safe home for a child. NTA

Offering a safe home, definitely NTA

Protecting the child is top priority

Seek advice from adoption sub with adoptee insights

Sister’s alleged drug use raises questions about baby’s guardianship.

Sister accuses woman of ‘stealing’ her baby, but is she really the NTA?

Taking guardianship was the right choice for your family.

NTA for wanting to adopt your niece, intervene for sister’s rehab
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Taking guardianship doesn’t equal stealing, NTA prioritized child’s welfare

Sister accuses woman of ‘stealing’ her baby, but commenters support her decision to take guardianship. NTA

Commenter defends woman’s actions, but judges her past choices.

NTA for fighting for Sara, but prepare for family fallout

NTA, but slightly leaning towards ESH. OP’s approach seems aggressive.

Misunderstanding leads to defensive reply

Abandoned child, rightful guardianship. NTA for taking responsibility.

Protecting your child from family? Here’s what to do

Commenter suggests sister has bigger problems than baby custody

Grandparents did the same, NTA. Keep the baby safe

Adopted child should be top priority. NTA wins this round

Choosing the child’s safety over adult’s convenience is reasonable

NTA. Commenter advises documenting interactions with Jane for legal protection

Relinquished possession, can’t steal. You’re NTA

Supportive comment applauding the OP for being a great parent

Mom accused of stealing baby, but commenter says NTA for prioritizing stability.
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Standing up for a child, sister wants to play victim

Taking guardianship of a baby is a tough decision. But providing a life of promise and opportunity is worth it.

Advice on confronting sister about drugs and getting custody of niece.

Defending the guardianship with empathy and logic.

Empathetic comment from someone with a similar situation.

Sister gave up daughter, now complains about guardianship. NTA

Document everything! NTA for taking guardianship of the baby

Protect yourself: document and record everything
