Should my daughter-in-law start cooking for my son?

A mother is concerned about her son and daughter-in-law’s eating habits. They’re both doctors who work long hours and have no time to cook. Despite her daughter-in-law’s ability to cook, she refuses to cook for them. The mother believes that cooking at home is healthier and more rewarding. She’s worried about their health and future, especially since they plan to have a baby. She’s tried to convince her daughter-in-law to cook but she’s been met with resistance. The daughter-in-law thinks that eating out is more convenient and that she deserves to enjoy her free time. The mother is questioning if she’s the A-hole for trying to convince her daughter-in-law to start cooking. What do you think?

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Should a daughter-in-law cook for her husband?

A mother is concerned about her son’s eating habits as his girlfriend, who she refers to as her daughter-in-law, doesn’t cook for him. The couple, both doctors, have a busy schedule which involves working long hours, and they prefer to eat at the hospital or order takeout rather than cook. The mother is worried about her son’s health and wants her daughter-in-law to start cooking for him, especially since they plan to start a family. However, her daughter-in-law is not interested in cooking as she doesn’t enjoy it and doesn’t see the need to do it when they can afford to eat out. The mother is seeking advice and wondering if she’s the asshole for trying to convince her daughter-in-law to cook. Read on to find out what people think and whether or not it’s reasonable to expect a daughter-in-law to cook for her husband.

OP’s double standards and misogyny exposed by commenters. YTA ‍♀️

Commenter calls OP out for not asking son to cook.

Respect their choices. Don’t be a controlling mother-in-law

Don’t be a sexist mom and let them figure it out ‍♀️

Don’t mess with a doctor’s free time! YTA.

Why did being shy cause problems?

Mind your own business and help your son with cooking

Defending shy and reserved women against YTA, with sass

Demanding daughter-in-law to cook? YTA and sexist ‍♀️

Don’t be a controlling parent, mind your own business

Gender roles belong in the past ‍

Gender roles in cooking causing tension in family ‍ ‍

Let them live their lives and stop micromanaging. YTA

Don’t be an a**hole, let your son and daughter-in-law cook together

Tell your son to cook. YTA and a sexist one. ‍♀️

Don’t be a controlling mother-in-law. Let them sort it out ‍♀️

Don’t micromanage your DIL! Let them eat out ️

Don’t be a control freak, let them sort it out

OP gets called out for misogyny. YTA ‍♀️

Don’t be a sexist parent, let them live their lives

Gender stereotypes in the kitchen? YTA according to commenters.

Mom, start hounding your son to cook

Daughter-in-law not a chef, leave son and partner alone. YTA.

Don’t assume your daughter-in-law wants to cook for your son

Don’t be sexist. YTA. Daughter-in-law’s free time is none of your business

Commenter calls out OP for harassing son’s girlfriend. YTA

Stay in your lane. Don’t meddle or you’ll regret it.

Commenter shuts down judgmental mother-in-law’s cooking expectations. YTA ‍♀️

Mind your own plate ️. Let your son cook.

Gender roles are outdated. YTA for expecting traditional behavior.

Encourage your son to cook too! YTA for expecting otherwise

Let her express love in her own way! YTA

Don’t be an internalized misogyny a**hole, mind ya business

Don’t push toxic gender roles. YTA owes her an apology. ‍♀️

Gender bias in cooking duties? YTA should try cooking too

Let them live their lives. Don’t push outdated gender roles.

Overbearing MIL criticized for controlling daughter-in-law’s cooking habits

Let them live their lives. YTA needs to back off

Commenter calls out YTA for expecting DIL to cook.

Encourage equality in household chores! YTA needs to adapt!

Daughter-in-law told to stop micro managing, YTA for insisting.

Let them live their life! YTA should back off.

Gender roles in cooking questioned. YTA called out

Expecting daughter-in-law to cook is sexist. YTA

Respect boundaries! Let her make her own choices. YTA

Don’t blame the daughter-in-law for not cooking, YTA ‍ ❌

Respect your daughter-in-law’s choices, YTA.

Commenter calls out gender-role conformity, labels OP as YTA ‍♂️

Toxic and intrusive behavior towards daughter-in-law, apologize and stop prying

Respect her choice. Hassle your son to cook instead

Encourage your son to cook instead!

Commenter calls out sexism and jokes about DIL’s lunch

Don’t let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn’t learn. ‍♀️

Gender equality in the kitchen. YTA called out ‍

Commenter calls out OP for being nosy.

Don’t be a sexist parent, let everyone cook!

Let them manage their own affairs

Mom, you’re the a**hole for not telling your son to cook

Respect her choices. Ask your son why he doesn’t cook ️

Mom wants daughter-in-law to cook for son, gets called out.

Encouraging son to cook instead?

Micromanaging daughter-in-law’s cooking? YTA according to comments.

Lawyer-mother-in-law criticized for expecting daughter-in-law to cook for son.

Don’t be a controlling MIL, let them live happily

Don’t be an a**hole. Let your son and daughter-in-law enjoy cooking together.

Son should cook too if home-cooked meals are important

Mind your own business and teach your son to cook

Outdated gender roles? YTA needs to update their mindset

Commenter shuts down overbearing mother-in-law’s unsolicited cooking advice

Teach a man to cook ‍ and he’ll never starve. YTA.

Let them live. Your son is healthy and happy.

Let them be.

Don’t be a food dictator! Let them eat in peace

Commenter calls out judgmental mother-in-law, advises son to cook.

Commenter calls out OP, sparks potential conflict. ❌

User calls out OP for singling out daughter-in-law. YTA.

Equal cooking responsibility. YTA.