She Tried to Teach Her Boyfriend to Cook, but He Wouldn’t Learn. AITA?

Gender norms can be difficult to overcome, as one woman found out when she tried to teach her boyfriend how to cook. Despite her best efforts, he refused to learn and relied on frozen meals. When she went away for work and realized how expensive they were, she decided to leave him to his own devices with some basic ingredients. However, he struggled and ended up eating fast food for a week. Now, she’s wondering if she was in the wrong. Read on to find out more about this culinary conundrum and decide for yourself: AITA ?

Teaching a boyfriend to cook: the struggle is real

Teaching cooking skills to partners can be tough. How to deal?

Cooking lessons gone wrong, does he need a chef hat? ‍

Teaching a partner to cook or not, what’s your opinion?

Teaching cooking skills to a picky eater boyfriend ‍

Cooking lessons didn’t go as planned, now seeking advice. ‍

Boyfriend refuses to learn to cook, blames girlfriend.

Teaching cooking gone wrong. Boyfriend’s frozen food tantrum.

AITA for not teaching my boyfriend to cook?

Can love overcome outdated gender norms in the kitchen? ❤️

Gender roles in the kitchen can be a sensitive topic, especially when it comes to teaching a partner to cook. But what happens when one partner refuses to learn? In this Reddit post, one woman is struggling to teach her boyfriend basic cooking skills due to his upbringing valuing traditional gender norms. Despite her efforts, he still can’t grasp even the simplest concepts and only eats frozen meals. After buying him ingredients and giving him a lesson before leaving on a work trip, she comes back to find he’s only eaten sandwiches and canned goods. Now he’s angry and she’s questioning if she’s the a**hole. Let’s dive into the comments and see what Reddit has to say about this culinary conundrum.

Commenters question why OP is with a cooking-challenged partner

Partner’s refusal to learn cooking is weaponized incompetence. NTA.

Her boyfriend’s weaponized incompetence is a major red flag

Partner’s lack of basic cooking skills causing relationship issues.

Teaching your partner to cook is one thing, but fending for him? NTA ‍♀️

NTA. Teaching someone who thinks a toaster is too complicated

Commenter asks for toaster model to understand why someone can’t use it

Don’t be a second mom to your boyfriend ‍♀️

Commenter questions why boyfriend can’t buy his own food

Partner’s weaponized incompetence for cooking. Toxic manipulation alert!

Weaponized incompetency in the kitchen. NTA, reconsider relationship.

Boyfriend’s ‘weaponized incompetence’ in the kitchen. NTA.

Partner expects OP to cook all meals, needs to grow up

Microwaving frozen meals but won’t eat leftovers?!

NTA. Boyfriend’s cooking incompetence and entitlement is mind-boggling.

Age and living situation clarified. Let’s judge accordingly!

Partner’s refusal to learn basic skills may escalate to abuse.

Partner’s refusal to learn basic self-care tasks is a red flag

Boyfriend’s lack of basic cooking skills raises red flags

Commenter calls out OP’s boyfriend for weaponized incompetence. Replies add humor.

Empowering response to a partner’s refusal to learn cooking ‍

Boyfriend can’t cook and blames girlfriend? ‍♂️

Don’t settle for less! ‍♀️ Stand up for yourself.

Stop enabling this leech. Take back your self respect.

Partner’s incompetence weaponized. ‍♀️ You’re not his mother.

Supportive reply with humorous visual.

Boyfriend fakes inability to cook. NTA for calling him out

Commenter calls out lazy boyfriend for not learning to cook

Commenter sympathizes with OP’s frustration towards helpless boyfriend.

Comment calls out OP’s boyfriend for helplessness.

NTA. Weaponized incompetence? Tell me more

Teaching cooking basics isn’t that hard, right? NTA

Sassy commenter calls out OP’s boyfriend’s cooking skills.

Don’t fall for ‘Weaponized Incompetence’, NTA!

When it comes to cooking, some people just won’t try ‍♂️

Breaking gender roles in the kitchen! ‍ ‍

Engage your boyfriend with a little kitchen creativity

Learning basic tasks is key to being independent.

Boyfriend’s weaponized incompetence in the kitchen.

Grown a** man throws tantrum, OP not the a-hole

You’re NTA for wanting your grown a** man to learn to cook ‍

Partner won’t learn to cook. NTA suggests he buys food.

Don’t be the pseudo-mother. Teach him temperature control ‍

Don’t be a replacement mom! ‍ ‍ NTA

Is it worth being with someone who chooses not to learn?

Don’t let anyone drag you down for their unwillingness to learn. NTA.

No excuses for a grown man to not learn to cook ‍

Teaching cooking skills to a partner can prevent future struggles. ‍

Teach him to cook or dump him.

Don’t let him play dumb, you’re NTA ‍♀️

Partner’s weaponized incompetence in household chores. ‍♂️

Commenter questions boyfriend’s basic cooking skills and independence.

Don’t waste your youth on a helpless partner. YTA.

Don’t be his mom! ‍ Move on.

Teaching cooking is one thing, basic grocery shopping is another. NTA.

Cooking skills are not gender-dependent. You’re NTA ‍

Boyfriend uses weaponized incompetence in the kitchen. ‍♂️

Partner’s ‘weaponized incompetence’ is a red flag for future responsibilities

NTA. Boyfriend can’t cook or shop. Red flag

Don’t settle for a man-child ‍♀️ . Chore audit chart FTW!

Teaching your partner to cook can be frustrating.

️ Don’t settle for a partner who won’t put in effort. #selflove

Boyfriend refusing to learn to cook, NTA suggests he buys his own food

Partner refuses to learn to cook and expects me to take care of him. NTA

NTA. Reconsider relationship with him. Can’t cook, do laundry, etc.

Let him starve ‍♀️

Boyfriend can’t use a toaster, commenter in disbelief. NTA.

Commenter sympathizes with OP’s frustration with boyfriend’s lack of cooking skills

Encouraging parent brags about kids’ cooking skills, inspires boyfriend to learn ‍

Commenter suggests breaking up with boyfriend over cooking skills.