As a senior editor at a publishing house, one would think that the job comes with a certain level of respect and privacy. However, for one editor, this is not the case. Their mother keeps giving their contact information to aspiring writers, causing them to be constantly bothered and annoyed. Despite asking their mother to stop multiple times, they continue to receive unsolicited manuscripts and requests for special treatment. The editor has even gone as far as to be rude to these aspiring writers, causing tension between their mother and her social circles. Should the editor apologize for their behavior, or is their mother in the wrong for not respecting their wishes?
Navigating the perils of revealing your profession to acquaintances
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Mom’s over-enthusiasm leads to tension and unwanted contacts
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Mum’s loose lips sink editor’s ship with unwanted contacts
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Journalist shares hilarious encounters with persistent sources
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Editorial process exists for a reason, don’t waste my time
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Strained relationships: Senior editor’s rudeness causing tension in social circles.
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When mum plays matchmaker with your contact info
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When mum’s oversharing causes tension, who’s in the wrong?
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Protecting my privacy from my mum’s contacts
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Dealing with mom’s contact sharing drama, need advice.
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Trust our process, no shortcuts for potential valuable authors.
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No special treatment allowed, skip the line and lose respect.
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Senior editor’s mum causing chaos with her ‘helpful’ recommendations
Working in publishing has its perks, but also its downsides, such as having to deal with unsolicited manuscripts. This senior editor’s mother, however, seems to think this is a selling point and has been giving out her daughter’s contact information to anyone who will listen. Despite repeated requests to stop, these aspiring authors keep coming. The editor has even created a template response and is not afraid to put pushy individuals in their place. However, this has caused tension with her mother and potentially damaged her reputation. Is the editor in the wrong for being rude to these people or is her mother to blame for putting her in this position? Let’s take a closer look at the situation and the potential consequences of such actions. In the next section, we’ll see what people have to say about the editor’s behavior and whether or not she’s in the wrong.
Aspiring authors can be pushy, NTA for setting boundaries

Charge people for your mother’s mistake? Not a good idea

Protect your privacy, NTA. Mom needs to stop giving out info

Politely standing firm on work policy despite pushback from writers.

Editorial professionalism requires calm responses, not rude ones.

Professionalism is key, even when dealing with rude people.

Former literary agent shares harsh truths about entitled aspiring authors.

OP’s frustration with their mother’s actions is causing unnecessary rudeness. ESH.
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Don’t let family take advantage of your professional skills

Mum’s info sharing: ESH. Be firm, not rude

Set boundaries with your mom’s contacts without being rude

Savage yet practical solution to mom’s contact-sharing tendencies.

Commenter empathizes but suggests deleting messages instead of being rude.

Savage suggestion sparks approval

Setting boundaries with mom causes tension, but NTA.

Delete unwanted emails and move on

Sending a template response and ignoring follow-ups can help ♀️

Polite response template to prevent unwanted correspondence.

Don’t be a jerk just because someone’s pushy.

Ignoring or blocking pushy emails from family? ESH on this.

Commenter calls out senior editor’s behavior as entitled and rude

Setting boundaries: NTA comment reminds us not to overstep.

Be professional and kind even when frustrated with your mother’s actions

Dealing with unsolicited submissions: being kind but firm

NTA receives unexpected book offer.

Respect for privacy should be mutual. NTA. ♀️

Commenter suggests giving the benefit of doubt to aspiring authors

Commenter admits fault in a blunt way

Following traditional channels is key to a fair selection process. ✍️
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Struggling to set boundaries with pushy writers at 1am

Dealing with unwanted contacts: Respond civilly to extinguish their desire

Freelance designer empathizes with editor’s frustration of time-wasting clients

Mom gave out contact info, but don’t justify being rude.

Good writing not always recognized

Dealing with an over-sharing parent: Engage or ignore?

Setting boundaries with family can be tough

Consider changing your contact info to avoid your mom’s interference.

NTA for setting boundaries with those who breach your privacy.

Honesty is the best policy

Protect your professional reputation, don’t let mom ruin it

Commenter calls out rudeness in handling unwanted contact from editor’s mother.

OP’s unprofessional behavior towards customers is hurting their reputation

Navigating family boundaries can be tricky.

Template response suggested but kindness important. Don’t blame mother.

Avoid being the free advice dispenser. ♀️
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Setting boundaries with family is tough, but necessary

Dealing with parental bragging without being rude – a lesson.

Mom’s actions cause tension and rudeness, both are at fault
