A 23-year-old pregnant woman, engaged to a 24-year-old military man, finds herself in a whirlwind of drama after her actions lead to her fiancé missing his deployment. With a baby on the way and her fiancé’s career on the line, the couple’s relationship is pushed to the brink. As she seeks advice from military spouses, her actions spark conflict, leaving their future uncertain.
Military Fiancé’s Deployment
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Pregnancy and Deployment
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Seeking Answers
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Military Spouse Page
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Taking Matters into Her Own Hands
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Unexpected Consequences
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Relationship on the Rocks
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Friends Take Sides ️
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Lack of Knowledge
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Baby Changes Everything
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Relationship Beyond Repair?
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A Couple’s Future Hangs in the Balance
In a desperate attempt to ensure her military fiancé’s presence during their baby’s birth, a pregnant woman takes matters into her own hands. Her actions lead to unexpected consequences, jeopardizing her fiancé’s career and their relationship. As friends take sides and the couple faces an uncertain future, the question remains: Can their relationship survive this ordeal? Share your thoughts and reactions.
Pregnant woman calls fiancé’s employer without his consent, gets called out. YTA.

Calling SO’s employer about paternity leave? YTA according to replies

Girlfriend’s phone calls lead to fiancé missing deployment. YTA

Pregnant woman’s overstepping leads to relationship extinction event

Commenter calls out pregnant woman for potentially ruining fiancé’s career

Military wife calls out OP for jeopardizing fiancé’s career

Commenter sympathizes with pregnant woman, but receives harsh judgement.

Fiancé misses deployment due to pregnant partner’s actions

OP’s actions lead to fiancé missing deployment. Commenters call her entitled.

Pregnant woman jeopardizes fiancé’s career, AITA?

Military friend defends OP, calls fiancé a f***ing a**hole

Dual military commenter calls out OP and other military spouses. ESH.

Military spouse calls out pregnant woman for going over chain of command

Commenter calls out OP for sabotaging fiancé’s deployment plans
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Pregnant woman’s actions jeopardize fiancé’s career, randos on Facebook blamed

Military spouse defends pregnant woman seeking support, but advises better communication.

Curious about the protocol for calling resources during deployment

Pregnant woman faces judgement for sabotaging fiancé’s deployment ♀️

Commenter calls out OP’s controlling behavior, warns of consequences.

Poster called out for trying to manipulate deployment with pregnancy

Commenter calls out pregnant woman for breach of trust, suggests abortion.

Pregnant woman’s what-ifs lead to fiancé missing deployment. YTA
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Military family member calls out selfish behavior, receives sarcastic reply.

Partner’s attempt to contact COs leads to judgement and conflict

Pregnancy can be tough on relationships. Communication is key

Pregnant woman interferes with fiancé’s military deployment, called out YTA.

Insensitive comment with no constructive criticism

Trust broken by talking to work behind their back

Pregnant woman risks fiancé’s career, called out for betrayal. YTA

Military child reminds pregnant woman of military commitment priorities

Trust issues and privacy violation lead to missing deployment

Pregnant woman’s actions lead to fiancé missing deployment

Pregnant woman’s actions cause fiancé to miss deployment. Commenter calls her out for being the a**hole.

Pregnant woman sabotages military fiancé’s career. Commenter calls her out.

Pregnant woman’s actions affect fiancé’s deployment. Commenter questions motives.

User calls out pregnant woman for sabotaging fiancé’s deployment

Army wives group advice misinterpreted, but OP still TA

Commenter’s strong anti-military sentiment dominates the discussion.

Communication is key in any relationship . Don’t damage your partner’s career.

Commenter calls out pregnant woman for jeopardizing fiancé’s career.

Military member calls out pregnant woman for missing fiancé’s deployment

Military spouse offers advice and empathy to pregnant woman.

Commenter calls out woman for blaming others, suggests taking responsibility

Commenter deems someone an a**hole with high certainty

Pregnant woman’s decision to keep fiancé from deployment criticized

Pregnant woman risks fiancé’s career, gets called out as YTA

Avoid being a ‘dependa’ before marriage to prevent issues

Don’t let your emotions ruin your partner’s career goals
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Commenter calls out pregnant woman for missing fiancé’s deployment

Pregnant woman’s actions lead to fiancé missing deployment

Commenter advises ending relationship due to unhinged behavior.
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Commenter suggests leaving military, sparks no replies.

Commenter calls out OP for selfish actions. Ouch
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Commenter calls out pregnant woman for ruining fiancé’s deployment

Commenter calls out entitled behavior of pregnant woman in military relationship

Pregnant woman’s actions jeopardize fiancé’s military career. YTA.

User suggests name change after fiancé misses deployment.

Dating someone in the military requires a certain mindset

Commenter calls out pregnant woman for ruining fiancé’s deployment
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Commenter suggests drastic action, calls OP ‘YTA’
