When you want to come off as attractive , what do you do?
It’s kind of a loaded question , because sometimes it’s hard to pull something off, even if it works for others.
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We can’t promise that reading this will make you more attractive, but it does have some informative cautionary tales. Let’s dig into the r/AskReddit thread, ” What’s not as attractive as people think? “
Reverse psychology doesn’t always work.
“Trying to act stuck up and showing off by flirting with other guys/girls in front of the person you like to try and get them jealous.”
Why you gotta be like that, bro?
“Putting other people down. Some people think that it makes them look better for some reason. Unfortunately, my brother is a part of this. He always brings people down to flatter his ego yet keeps wondering why some of his friends don’t invite him anymore. For those wondering what he says, it goes from blatantly insulting their looks by comparing them to himself to making fun of their home.”
– u/yoyiqi
Rules for thee, not for me.
“Someone who isn’t being direct, but expects anyone and everyone to be direct plus whoever they’re talking to to be a mind reader and gets mad when neither happens.”
Don’t be so quirky, please.
“Being rude in general, but specifically the people who act rude because they think it’s a cute personality quirk. I’ve worked with several women who act completely repulsed by stuff and then act like their behavior is just a funny and goofy little thing they do, and it drives me insane.”
Wait, so pickup artists are cringey?!
“I personally find it unattractive when people are overly confident. I also find videos of people trying to act desirable highly unattractive. Those are things as of recently that have been going around deemed as attractive I think.”
Life is sexier than death.
“Smoking. Sure, it punctuates impactful statements and is cool and seems film noir-y/mysterious to do with your hands during a conversation. But it’s stinky and turns your hands yellow and gives you lung cancer- a slow painful death is not sexy, just tragic.”
How can I be this cool?
“When some guys chew gum in a ‘cool’ way. Not sure how to describe it but certain guys will chew gum differently when talking to women.”
Brutal indeed.
“‘Brutal honesty.’
“There is a certain virtue in being able to analyze things from a position of neutrality, but saying inflammatory things without a filter most likely means that you’re just a generally irritable and contemptuous [jerk].”
You’re cold, then you’re hot.
“Acting hot and cold.
“Like, my self-esteem is already low as it is. I don’t need you to act like you want me one minute, then completely ignore me the next. That’s [expletive] up. If you really like me, go tell me. If you don’t, then don’t waste my time.”
– u/rviejn
When your forehead can’t move anymore.
“Face lifts. Like the kind of face lifts the Real Housewives all have. They don’t look younger, just … weird. Especially when combined with filler in the lips.”
Sounds pretty hot to me.
“Putting two baby carrots up your nose and proclaiming you’re the Walrus King.”
Less Louis V.
“People who wear all designer and flaunt it. It’s your money, wear what you want but all I see is wasted money and financial irresponsibility.”
This is highly specific, but sure.
“All the Utah/Texas Instagrammers with blonde hair, fake tans, Botox and fillers and ultra white veneers. They all look the same. They all alter themselves to look the same!”
Someone give me some epinephrine, stat!
“Giant, obviously fake lips. Just accentuate what you’ve got, instead of always looking like you are having an allergic reaction to a bee sting.”
The worst trend ever.
“Unsolicited d*ck pics. The vast majority of women do not find them charming or attractive. You might find the odd person who’s into it but by and large they are the single worst idea a dude could ever have.”
But I really really want to talk about my car.
“Flaunting wealth. That only works if you’re not flaunting, but it just shows. Like if you pull up in a nice car. There’s no way you couldn’t have pulled up in a nice car. Therefore acceptable and conveys the point. Don’t interject your car into a conversation where it doesn’t belong though. Nobody cares.”
Ah, influencers.
“Those people who take social media way too seriously and post incredibly vain pictures or videos of themselves in really dumb poses.”
We’ve already got a work boss, don’t need a relationship boss as well.
“Being super rude and bossy. No, it’s not cute or hot. I’ve met so many people who think that it makes them look assertive and dominant but in reality, they look like huge [jerk].”
What if you’re dating an actual actor though?
“Acting. Acting like you’re hard to get, that you’re interested, acting like there’s a hierarchy. Acting like there are protocols to going on a date, what needs to be said, where to go, etc..
Just be yourself and be honest.”
It’s a whole mood.
“When guys take pictures of themselves doing that furrowing the brow, biting the lip, rubbing the hands together thing. What is that? Who told them that looks good?”
