Marriage isn’t something that you should ever enter into lightly . It’s a lifelong commitment that requires daily renewal and dedication to your partner and the lifestyle you’ve chosen together.
Sometimes, the smartest person in the room is the one who isn’t afraid to admit what they don’t know . With that being said, have a look below as people share some of the best (and most important) marriage advice they’ve ever received .
All arguments should be had sans-clothes.
“At my wedding my wife’s Grandmother offered so funny, weird, solid advice. She said, ” If you get angery[sic] with each other, go to bed naked and see if you can resolve it before you go to sleep ” So far, so good. Anniversary on Monday!” – Reddit u/drizzyjdracco
It’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it.
According to Redditor Traditional_Bell7883, there are certain words and even a certain tone of voice that you use around your children, co-workers, friends, etc. that you should never use around your spouse.
Don’t be afraid to discover what works for you.
It might sound counterintuitive, but according to Redditor itspabbs87 — separate bedrooms saved his marriage. He suffers from insomnia and has a hard time falling asleep, while his wife, on the other hand, is a very light sleeper.
Don’t lose your individual identity.
Reddit user chef_simpson understands that time together is important, but time spent apart is just as essential to maintaining a healthy relationship. It makes the moments that you’re together all the more meaningful and important.
Never turn down an opportunity for a good conversation.
“My grandfather told me ” Never go to bed with dirty dishes in the sink “. What I learned is that he would always help my grandma and that is when they did their most talking.” – Reddit u/t480
Buy her/him flowers for no reason at all.
Reddit user agaribay1010 believes that the best reason to buy someone flowers is just that it’s a Wednesday. Keep in mind also that the only time men receive flowers, 90% of the time, is when they’re already dead at their funeral.
Say “I love you” every single chance you get.
Reddit user Dwarven_Archer97 advises all married couples to treat time with their partner as if it was the last time they’d ever see them. Because one day, sadly, that day will become a reality.
Never turn down an opportunity to show gratitude.
Reddit user BVoLatte believes that one of the most important things that married couples can do is show their gratitude at every opportunity. Sometimes, it’s as simple as saying “thank you” for your partner taking out the trash.
Don’t be afraid to seek help.
Reddit user my_uname firmly believes that the reason why the vast majority of marriages fall apart is due to the fact that couples refuse to seek help. Pre-marital counseling isn’t just a good idea, it’s a must-do.
Try and remember that you’re on the same team.
“My FIL said something similar on our wedding day: ” always remember it’s you two against the problem not you two against each other .” It’s great advice, especially when we disagree.” – Reddit u/XANDERtheSHEEPDOG
Don’t be afraid to get a little physical.
Reddit user jollyrogerninja believes that a healthy level of flirtation helps to keep the romance and the relationship at large alive. Whenever your partner walks past you, squeeze their butt as often as you can.
Love is like a cup of coffee…
“Grandma said “love is like coffee. Sometimes it’s hot, sometimes it’s cold, sometimes it’s sweet, sometimes it’s bitter. No matter how you like it, it is good. But it’s only great when you get it ‘the way you like it’ . Make sure you get what you want.'” – Reddit u/Pathfinder91606
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Be like Elsa from ‘Frozen’.
Reddit user KryssCom wants to clear up some confusion when it comes to relationships. The three most important words to understand aren’t “I love you.” The three most important words you must come to embrace are “Let it go.”
Treat arguments as if they were ‘Gremlins’.
Reddit user TwoTwoJohn has the same approach to arguments as they do Gremlins — don’t feed them after midnight. You should never go to sleep angry with one another, no matter what.
Don’t make mountains out of molehills.
When Redditor mgoblue702 was in the Armed Services, one of their Colonels gave them a piece of advice that they never forgot. He said, just buy two damn pizzas instead of arguing over the toppings.
