A person, who struggled with their sexuality during school, had a heated confrontation with an old classmate at a coffee shop. The classmate, who had outed the person years ago, approached them to share her own recent coming out as bisexual. The encounter brought back painful memories and led to an emotional outburst.
Struggling with Sexuality in School

A Tipsy Mistake

Kara’s Intrusive Questions

The Yearbook Incident

Humiliation and Whispers

Kara’s Betrayal

The Aftermath

Unexpected Encounter

Kara’s Confession

Losing Temper

Painful Memories

Kara’s Response

Old Friends’ Reactions

Understanding Kara’s Struggle

Edit: Updates and Apologies

A Painful Past Resurfaces
A person confronted their old classmate, Kara, who had outed them years ago, after she approached them to share her own recent coming out as bisexual. The encounter brought back painful memories and led to an emotional outburst. As the story unfolds, it’s clear that both individuals struggled with their sexuality during their school years, but the way they handled it had lasting consequences. What do you think about this confrontation? Share your thoughts and reactions below.
NTA. Forgiveness is earned, not entitled. No apology, no acceptance.
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Closeted friend’s confession leads to confrontation, NTA for feeling hurt.

NTA stands their ground against former bully’s insincere apology ♂️

Standing up against selfishness and bigotry.

Calling out hypocrisy and showing support. NTA wins!

Acknowledging past harm is necessary for true growth and healing.

Privacy violation sparks confrontation at coffee shop

NTA commenter finds humor in classmate’s ‘growing out of homophobia’

Empathetic comment supports NTA verdict for scary outing experience.

Debating homophobia and the LGBT+ community

Justified anger towards internalized homophobia and ruined crucial years.

Bisexual classmate outs person, gets confronted in public. NTA.

Agreeing with the commenter’s NTA verdict and frustration with Kara.

Empathy > Homophobia. NTA calls out old classmate’s behavior.

Standing up to public humiliation and shutting down guilt-tripping

Validating NTA’s response to a classmate’s misguided coming out.

Apologize first! Outing someone is serious

Not the a**hole, but what sparked the confrontation?

Forgiveness is not mandatory, but an apology could have helped.

Betrayed by a friend’s lie, NTA confronts and holds grudge.

Standing up to a classmate’s confession ☕️

Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries is important

Standing up against outing someone’s sexuality.

Forgiveness is earned, not demanded. NTA for not forgiving.
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Bisexual commenter clarifies, receives NTA consensus.

Commenter reacts to shocking story, receives humorous reply.

Bisexual classmate outed OP, NTA for not accepting her in community.

Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries is always NTA

No forgiveness needed. Her apology falls short.

Bullying hurts, especially when it takes away your choices

Curiosity piqued: What’s the story behind Leah?

Commenter calls out two-faced use of LGBTQ card.

Being a minority doesn’t give anyone the right to be an a**hole.

Choosing not to forgive homophobia is valid. NTA

Standing up for oneself against outing and intimidation.
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Former classmate’s pushy behavior deserved a NTA response.

Kara’s sexuality used as a shield for past actions. NTA.
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Reconnecting with a former bully can be healing, but not always.

Confronting a former bully who came out as gay. NTA.

Comment suggests self-exploration and tells off Kara with profanity.
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Standing up against homophobia and insecurity. NTA wins.

Cutting toxic people out of your life

Calling out homophobia with a fiery NTA response

Handling a confrontation with maturity, NTA. Kara continues to be TA.

Publicly shamed then asked to be BFFs? Not cool.
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NTA. She owes you a sincere apology for outing you.

Standing up to a high school bully seeking approval and friendship

No obligation to forgive and forget.

Supportive comment receives well-deserved NTA verdict

Commenter defends themselves against homophobia accusation. NTA.

No a**holes here. Can’t wait to read the confession.
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Not the a**hole, but what sparked the outburst?
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Commenter supports OP and highlights danger of outing someone. Inappropriate question.
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Forgiveness is a choice. NTA comment sparks no replies.

NTA: Short and sweet, you owe her nothing

NTA comment receives agreement from others in the section

Dumping your drink on someone: satisfying or immature?

Overcoming internalized homophobia and supporting OP. ❤️

NTA calls out hypocrisy in coffee shop confrontation.

Never out someone else. Definitely NTA and screw the ppl defending Kara.
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Not the a**hole for confronting old classmate who outed you.

NTA stands up to bully Kara, and it’s about time

Reconnecting with a past bully without apology: NTA calls out

Demanding forgiveness without making amends is not a real apology

Expose bullies and take a stand!

Outing someone is not forgivable, even if you’re LGBT.

Standing up for oneself against unapologetic wrongdoers

Surviving bullying and being outed, commenter supports NTA verdict.

Forgiveness is a choice, and you’re NTA for not forgiving.

Accepting daughter’s sexuality, forgiving old friend’s growth.

Reconnecting with high school bullies? Apologize first

Standing up to bullies, one comment at a time.

Standing up to past bullies is empowering

Commenter calls someone a cruel and selfish monster.

Former classmate’s lack of apology justifies NTA judgement

Forgiveness is key, but confronting her earlier would be better

Last Updated on April 30, 2023 by Diply Social Team