In this emotionally charged post, a mother is torn between helping her daughter’s husband with medical expenses and not feeling obligated to do so. The daughter has been spending more time with her biological family, leaving the mother feeling pushed aside. When the daughter asks to sell a piece of land to help with medical expenses, the mother refuses, causing a rift in their relationship. Read on to find out what happens and who, if anyone, is in the wrong.
Adopted daughter reconnects with bio family, mother supports reunion ❤️
Family dynamics change after daughter’s husband’s medical needs arise
Grandma chooses bio family over in-laws, causing tension
Daughter prioritizes bio family over in-laws, causes rift
Struggling with medical bills, daughter turns to mother for help ❤️
Mother denies daughter’s request for medical device funding
Grandson’s future at stake: Mother denied medical aid from mother-in-law.
Family feud over medical expenses leaves a bitter aftertaste
Grandson’s medical expenses cause tension between in-laws
Financial strain on relationship with daughter, feeling used.
Mother refuses to sell land for son-in-law’s medical expenses ❌
A mother is at odds with her adopted daughter who has been pushing her and her family to the side in order to spend more time with her biological family. However, when the daughter’s husband falls seriously ill and requires a costly LVAD implant, she turns to her mother for help. The mother refuses to sell the family’s land to pay for the procedure, leading to a huge argument and a rift in their relationship. While the daughter accuses her mother of being unsupportive and only caring about the money, the mother feels hurt and unappreciated by her daughter’s actions. Despite her husband’s suggestion to help out now and settle the conflict later, the mother is hesitant, feeling that she is not obligated to give such a large sum of money. The situation is complicated by the daughter’s previous behavior and the mother’s resentment towards her daughter’s biological family. Read on for the comments and reactions to this family drama.
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Daughter only wants money, not relationship. NTA for not selling land.
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Love may be unconditional, but support is conditional. NTA.
Daughter’s demands make judgement difficult, but NTA seems fair
Complicated situation with no clear ‘a**hole’, but American health system sucks ♀️
NTA. Commenters discuss the complicated family dynamics and responsibilities.
Daughter asks for land, mother refuses. Commenters advise support with boundaries.
Mother denies land sale for daughter’s husband’s medical treatment expenses.
Daughter is TA for expecting mother to pay for husband’s expenses
Commenters suggest seeking alternative funding and not giving in to ultimatums
ESH – Daughter’s request for money reveals deeper family issues.
No obligation to help: commenter stands up for herself
Bio parents vs. adoptive parents – ESH comment section drama ♀️
A man’s life hangs in the balance of a family argument. ESH.
Family tensions rise as mother prioritizes bio family over daughter-in-law.
A family torn apart by money and desperation ♂️
Daughter is TA for trying to sell son’s college fund
Daughter wants brother-in-law’s land for medical expenses, commenters support NTA
Commenter supports man’s decision to not help ex-wife with medical expenses
Daughter’s pleas for help met with cruelty and rejection
Compassion wins. YTA called out on lack of empathy.
Daughter can’t treat you like an ATM. NTA.
Mother debates selling land for son-in-law’s medical expenses
Adopted daughter seeks bio family, emotional tensions arise, soft ESH.
Adoption fears and family rejection in medical emergency. NTA.
Conditional love goes both ways. NTA.
Commenter calls out both parties for mixing separate issues. ESH.
Commenter thinks NAH, but one reply calls mother out for guilt-tripping ❤️
Daughter navigating complex family dynamics, mother being petty and demanding ♀️
Resentment on both sides.
Mother’s cruel comment sparks debate over selling land.
Unconditional love seems to be a rare commodity here
ESH but priorities matter! Don’t risk someone’s life over revenge
Commenter defends daughter’s request for medical expenses, calls for empathy.
Mother gets called out for being jealous and unsupportive
Set boundaries with in-laws during tough times
Mother criticized for refusing to sell land for son-in-law’s treatment
Adoptive mother prioritizes daughter over bio family, NTA
Don’t let yourself be manipulated Stand your ground
Adopted kids have it tough. ESH for poor timing and words
Family drama and financial strain
Daughter uses mother for money, mother refuses to help son-in-law. ESH.
Adopted child defends mother’s decision to not give money
The heartbreak of adoption rejection and the hope for reconciliation.
Urgent situation! Let’s put aside differences and save a life!
Daughter’s husband needs medical money, family drama ensues
Daughter only asks for money, husband not family. NTA
Unconditional love has limits. NTA for setting boundaries.
Adopted OP shares her experience and advises against abandoning those who raised you. Daughter’s behavior is selfish and she owes apologies. Possible joint effort to assist. NTA but daughter sure is!
