Losing a child is a pain no parent should ever have to experience. For one heartbroken mother, the loss of her 6-year-old son, Tom, was made even more unbearable when her husband and his family took matters into their own hands. Despite her wishes, they decided to distribute her son’s ashes amongst themselves, leaving her feeling betrayed and devastated.
A Heartbreaking Loss

Family’s Lack of Support

Taking Tom’s Belongings

Mother-in-Law’s Proposal

A Shocking Request

Standing Her Ground

Mother-in-Law’s Outrage

A Family Road Trip

The Shocking Discovery

Betrayal and Heartbreak

A Mother’s Fury

Leaving in Anger

Confronting the Mother-in-Law

Husband’s Apology

A Mother’s Heart Torn Apart
The heartbroken mother is left to pick up the pieces after her husband and his family betray her trust by distributing her son’s ashes without her consent. Despite her husband’s attempts to apologize, she struggles to come to terms with the devastating actions of those she thought she could trust. Let’s see what people have to say about this heart-wrenching situation…
Heartbroken mother loses son’s ashes to MIL, considers legal action. NTA.

Heartbroken mother rightfully upset after husband gives away son’s ashes.

MIL is a graverobber and husband enabled it. Divorce justified?

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NTA. Seek legal action and cut them off completely.

Reclaiming the ashes: A grieving mother’s justified anger.


Mother rightfully upset after husband gives away son’s ashes.
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Demand the urn and ashes back in divorce settlement.

Husband gave away son’s ashes without consent. Commenter sympathizes.


Stealing someone’s remains is a crime! NTA, sue her selfish-a*s.

Heartbroken mother questions whereabouts of son’s ashes.

Commenter and replies express anger over heartbreaking story.

Heartbreaking. The husband should have discussed it with her.

Mother devastated after husband gave away son’s ashes for pendants.

Betrayed trust: Commenter reacts to husband giving away son’s ashes

NTA. MIL is an unhinged demon. Consider telling her pastor.

Heartbreaking betrayal by husband and MIL over son’s ashes. NTA

Questioning the amount of ashes leads to family conflict

Heartbreaking story with an unsympathetic husband. NTA all the way ❤️
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Grieving mother’s ashes stolen, internet supports her nuclear retaliation.
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Heartless husband and mother-in-law steal son’s ashes. OP not the a**hole.

Questioning the process of making cremation jewelry, with informative replies.
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Heartbreaking loss compounded by heartless act. NTA deserves justice.

Husband gives away son’s ashes without telling wife. Is he TA?

Commenter supports OP’s actions and is outraged at husband’s behavior

Consult an attorney for legal options. NTA, time to heal.

Husband gave away son’s ashes without consent. OP plans memorial.

Heartbreaking loss. Empathetic comment offers support to grieving parent.

Agreeing with the commenter’s sentiment with a shocked face emoji.

NTA – Demand the jewelry back, demand apologies, and stand your ground.
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Heartbreaking story of entitled person taking child’s ashes without consent.

Heartbreaking loss compounded by despicable actions. NTA, stay strong.

Mother stands her ground against husband and monster-in-law’s disrespect.

Commenter expresses anger and suggests violent retribution for ashes incident.

Heartbreaking loss. Justified anger. Divorce on the horizon.

Commenter suggests violent retaliation against husband and friend.

Heartbreaking betrayal. Sending love and strength during this difficult time. ❤️

Husband and MIL prioritize themselves over OP’s feelings.

Heartfelt apology for a sensitive situation.

Compassionate reply offers solution to husband’s mistake with ashes.

Biological father’s role in son’s ashes questioned

Stealing a woman’s child’s ashes to make trinkets is criminal
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Partner’s family treated me terribly at my son’s funeral. Leave him.

Heartless husband and MIL disregarded her wishes. NTA.
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Agree, giving away a child’s ashes is unforgivable.

Heartbreaking comment calls for divorce after insensitive act.

Clear communication prevails! NTA wins the day.

Heartbreaking loss, husband’s unforgivable act. NTA.
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A blunt and shocked response to a disturbing situation.

Heartbreaking loss made worse by husband’s disrespectful actions

Both parents’ wishes for their son’s ashes are valid. Communication needed.

Heartless husband disregards wife’s wishes regarding son’s ashes.

Divorce, sue all involved – commenter suggests drastic action.

Husband’s heartless act with son’s ashes sparks outrage.

Reader outraged by husband’s actions and supports OP’s decision. NTA.

Heartbreaking NTA comment about a mother’s stolen ashes

Divorce seems like the only option. This is beyond not-right.

Last Updated on May 4, 2023 by Diply Social Team