Man Tells Girlfriend He Can’t Be a Parent Because She Won’t Let Him

A man has been raising his girlfriend’s child since day one but now she won’t let him parent. She doesn’t let him use common parenting methods and undermines everything he tries to do. The kindergarten teachers have already complained about behavior issues and suggested they have the child evaluated, but the girlfriend is actively preventing him from carrying out the specialist’s advice.

He suggested therapy but she doesn’t see a problem. The man is at his wit’s end and broke when he overheard his girlfriend tell their child that he “still needs to earn the parent title”. Now he’s accused of trying to abandon their child. Who’s in the wrong here ?

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Can he be a parent if she won’t let him?

What happens when a partner who has been raising a child together with his girlfriend realizes he can’t parent the child anymore? This is the dilemma one man is facing after his girlfriend won’t let him use common parenting methods like setting boundaries, natural consequences, and discipline.

Despite attending parenting classes and workshops before having the child, the girlfriend has thrown all that out the window and refuses to listen to a specialist’s advice. The child’s behavior has become an issue, and the man is at his wit’s end. He suggested therapy, but the girlfriend refused, and now he overheard her say he still needs to earn the parent title.

This situation has left the man feeling like he’s let the child down. Is he the a**hole for telling his girlfriend he can’t be the child’s parent because she won’t let him? Read on to find out what people have to say about this.

Leave her and get a lawyer for custody. NTA, take care.

NTA for wanting to raise the child properly despite not being the biological father. GF needs to agree to counselling or it’s over. ‍♂️

Commenter suggests reporting neglectful mother to social services for parenting classes

NTA. Consider legal rights. Let her parent alone.

Partner used donor sperm without consent, NTA for feeling trapped.

NTA. The commenter advises to cut losses and move on.

Believing you can be a parent won’t make it true ‍♀️

GF’s commitment issues are causing a toxic environment for all ✨

NTA, it’s unfair for the girlfriend to undermine the partner’s role.

Commenter frustrated with illogical argument in parenting disagreement

Hilarious comparison to The Office’s Michael and Jan situation

Communication is key! ️ Have an open and honest conversation.

Respect is key . Cut ties and run far away!

Escape that toxic relationship!

NTA communicates respectfully, evaluates boundaries and considers child’s feelings ❤️

GF accused of raising a monster

Clarifying the sperm donor situation for the child’s ownership.

Leave or stay and suffer? Tough love for spineless partner.

NTA: Relationship over, you’re just a roommate.

Parenting is a verb, and GF isn’t doing it either ‍♂️

Commenter calls out YTA for staying with commitment-phobic girlfriend.

User advises to move on and find a new family.

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Commenter judges harshly, but is NTA for calling out behavior.

NTA. Harsh truth. It’s time to move on.

GF accuses man of abandoning child he’s not even considered parent.

Commenter questions the motive behind the scheme with frustration

Find someone who wants you to be a dad

Commenter criticizes man for staying in unhealthy relationship with non-biological child

Support for not being taken advantage of in parenting duties

‍♂️ ‍♀️ Run fast! Undermining parenting skills won’t help the child. NTA

Commenter questions commitment issues and decision-making in relationship.

Seize the loophole and run towards a happier future ‍♀️

Respect is key to a healthy relationship and co-parenting

Escape while you can!

OP is in an emotionally abusive relationship. It’s time to leave.

Leave toxic relationship, go to counseling, find healthy partner ❤️

User believes girlfriend is immature and only wants financial support

Harsh reality check: You’re not her partner, just a housemate

OP’s girlfriend won’t let him be a parent. Is it over?

NTA for wanting to be a good parent and setting boundaries

10-year relationship, but control issues may end it. NTA.

Commenter advises OP to cut their losses and bail ‍♂️

Commenter supports OP’s decision with thumbs up emoji

Using donor sperm to have a child and then denying parenting. YTA for staying in this ridiculous situation.

NTA but this situationship seems unhealthy and neglectful

Beware! Red flags ahead in this shaky relationship

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