Man Returns Wife’s Over-the-Top Gifts for Friend’s Kids

Picture this: you give your wife a budget for buying gifts for her friend’s kids, but she goes way overboard, spending almost triple the amount you agreed upon. What would you do? One man found himself in this exact situation, and his response has the internet divided. He decided to return the gifts himself, causing tension between him and his wife. Let’s dive into this dramatic story and see if you think he made the right call.

The Financial Arrangement

Helping a Friend in Need

Setting a Budget

A Special Gift for His Daughter

Budget Blown

Refusing to Return the Gifts ‍♀️

Daughter vs. Friend’s Kids ‍♂️

Taking Matters into His Own Hands ‍♂️

Wife’s Reaction

Daughter Comes First ‍

Clarifications

Financial Setup

Friend’s Situation

Wife and Stepdaughter’s Relationship

Car Conversation

Wife’s Work Situation

The Great Gift Return Debacle

So, here’s the deal: this man works full-time, while his wife works part-time. He covers their living expenses, and they have an agreement about how their finances work. When his wife went way over budget buying gifts for her friend’s kids, he took matters into his own hands and returned them himself. Now, his wife is calling him controlling and unwilling to compromise. But he feels he’s doing what’s best for his daughter, who comes first in his eyes. What do you think? Was he right to return the gifts, or should he have found another solution? Let’s see what the internet has to say…

NTA. Commenters agree that $850 for someone else’s family is excessive.

NTA. Remove wife from account and explain daughter comes first

Wife overspends on friend’s kids, husband takes back money. NTA.

Step-parenting and financial priorities cause tension.

Suggesting a payback plan for wife’s over-the-top gifts.

NTA for returning over-the-top gifts for friend’s kids

Generous $300 limit for gifts, wife overstepped boundaries. NTA

Setting boundaries with over-spending spouse, NTA

NTA. Wife’s laziness shouldn’t burden you with extra expenses

Cancel her access , NTA for returning gifts

A husband questions if he’s the a**hole for reclaiming money.

Wife’s gift-giving crosses a line, commenter says. NTA.

NTA for returning over-the-top gifts to wife’s friend’s daughter. Possible premeditation.

Setting boundaries in a marriage is important. NTA

Spending $850 of someone else’s money

Settling gift-giving boundaries in marriage

NTA. Wife’s generosity shouldn’t come at expense of family’s needs.

NTA for setting gift limit, wife needs budgeting course

Commenter questions wife’s ability to handle full-time work and chores.

Dad spoils nieces and nephews, but no WiFi for own kids

Generous husband stands up to wife’s over-the-top gifts

NTA. Strongly confront the situation and reevaluate the relationship

Spreading the cost of Christmas over 12 months

NTA returns over-the-top gifts for friend’s kids

NTA. Spouse overspends on gifts, but OP is budgeting responsibly

Husband returns gifts, wife goes overboard

Commenter questions financial arrangement with spouse’s gift-giving habits

Returning overpriced gifts? NTA, it’s not her money

Commenter suggests wife get a job to fund extravagant gifts ‍

Wife spends $850 on gifts, husband returns them. NTA.

Protecting my own kid’s gift. NTA

Friend’s kids receive extravagant gifts, commenter questions spending

Harsh but true, ‍♀️

Suggests alternative ways to help kids during Christmas

Spouse overspends, but OP is NTA for setting boundaries

Is the wife being used by her friend?

NTA. Short and sweet, no explanation needed.

Wild accusation in comment section sparks no response

Personal accounts in a relationship should be respected. NTA.

NTA husband sets boundaries with wife’s gift-giving addiction

Husband returns wife’s over-the-top gifts for friend’s kids. NTA.

NTA shuts down entitled wife’s disrespect for daughter and money

Removing wife from account after excessive spending. NTA.

NTA for returning over-the-top gifts for friend’s kids

Commenter questions wife’s motives for extravagant gift-giving.

Prioritizing your daughter over friend’s kids? NTA, but beware

Commenter suggests punishing wife for overspending on gifts

NTA. Commenter advises on financial management and family bonds.

Setting gift limits is important for financial responsibility

Reasonable system broken by over-the-top gift. NTA.

NTA, wife broke agreement and prioritized saving face over child’s gift.

Don’t let her guilt-trip you. NTA for returning gifts

NTA comment wins the border control with a hotel bath

Setting boundaries on gift-giving.

NTA. Thoughtful comment on financial responsibility during the holidays.

NTA husband suggests financial planning to wife who overspends on gifts

Redditor claims everyone on Reddit is crazy, NTA

Wife’s excessive gifting leads to stealing from family. NTA.

Setting boundaries and prioritizing family over others.

Setting limits and sticking to them. NTA

Spicy response defending husband’s financial priorities.

Generous but reasonable gift-giving sparks debate among commenters

Spouse prioritizes friends’ desires over partner’s, NTA for returning gifts