Imagine having a close relationship with your older half-sister, only to find yourself in a situation where she’s asking you to adopt her unborn child. This 25-year-old man was put in a tough spot when his 48-year-old sister, Lisa, found herself pregnant and struggling financially. As her life circumstances changed, she turned to her brother for help. But when he refused to adopt her baby, things took a dramatic turn. Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster of a story.
The Sister’s Struggle for Motherhood
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A Miracle Pregnancy
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Financial Troubles Arise
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Money Wasted on a New Car
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Living with Mom, Rent-Free
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A Desperate Plea for Help
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The Open Adoption Proposal
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A Firm Rejection
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Facing Reality
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Accusations Fly ️
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Caught in a Family Feud: Whose Side Are You On?
This emotional story has us questioning: is the brother heartless for refusing to adopt his sister’s baby, or is he justified in his decision? With Lisa’s financial struggles and questionable spending habits, it’s hard not to sympathize with the brother’s reluctance to take on the responsibility. But at the same time, we can’t help but feel for Lisa, who’s been longing for a child for so long. It’s a tough situation, and opinions are bound to be divided. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. Bringing a child into the world you can’t provide for is cruel. Lisa should consider adoption.
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NTA. Practical advice given but falling on deaf ears.

NTA- Sister’s request is odd and unfair to OP. Replies support OP.

NTA refuses to adopt sister’s baby, sparking debate

NTA. Commenter suggests cutting ties with financially irresponsible sister.
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NTA. Sister wants a living baby doll to play with.

Concerns about baby’s health, but all clear. Pressure on OP?

NTA. Setting boundaries is important for both parties’ well-being.

No guilt in refusing to adopt sister’s baby.

Legal risks make adoption a no-go, but finding other ways to help is kind.

Adoptive parents shouldn’t be half-hearted.

Sister wants all the perks of motherhood with no responsibility
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Sister’s financial irresponsibility, brother’s justified refusal to adopt.
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Choosing not to adopt family member’s baby: justified

Commenter defends man’s decision to not adopt sister’s baby.

Not his kid, not his problem. NTA

Commenter calls out sister’s entitlement in adoption request

48-year-old sister expects too much, NTA for refusing adoption

Sister wants to pawn off baby for personal gain. NTA.

Blunt but true? A divisive NTA comment on parenting.

Sibling refuses to adopt sister’s baby: justified or heartless?

Awkward family dynamics?
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Setting boundaries and standing up for oneself.

Not obligated to raise someone else’s child, bio-mom needs responsibility

Compassionate suggestion for sister’s possible mental illness. NTA.

NTA refuses to adopt sister’s baby. Is it justified?

Adoption and companionship may not always work out. NTA.
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Not the a**hole, but why? Tell us your reasoning!

Choosing not to adopt sister’s baby, NTA. Lisa’s responsibility.
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Commenter suggests running away from sister’s inappropriate behavior.

Sister wants fun, but not responsibility. NTA for refusing.

Age may increase risks, but healthy babies can still be born. NTA

NTA, run away from that toxic situation and protect yourself!

Clear explanation of open adoption and NTA judgement.

Not your kid, not your problem

Refusing to adopt sister’s baby: justified or heartless?

Commenter expresses concern for sister’s parenting abilities.

Maturity matters in parenting. NTA for refusing adoption.
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Doubts on the story, but commenter is NTA.

Don’t take all the responsibility for her fun. #NTA

Respecting personal choices: NTA for not adopting sister’s baby

Man refuses to be financially responsible for sister’s baby. NTA

Woman wants baby for years, gets pregnant, then wants out. NTA.

Sister can consider open adoption, NTA for not adopting.

Woman’s decision to ask brother to adopt baby criticized. NTA.

Adoption is the right answer, but not the only option.

Commenter believes 50 is too late for parenthood, supports OP

NTA for refusing to adopt sister’s child due to her irresponsibility

OP refuses to adopt sister’s baby for the child’s stability

Helping financially is kind, but NTA for not adopting.

Adopting sister’s baby? NTA says it’s justifiable.

NTA for refusing to adopt sister’s baby due to her irresponsibility
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Clear NTA verdict leaves no room for debate.

Not your responsibility. NTA.

Sibling’s financial irresponsibility shouldn’t burden you. NTA

Father’s absence raises questions. Is adoption the only option?

OP receives unanimous NTA judgment from commenters.

Commenter believes sister should take responsibility for her actions.

Setting boundaries is important.

Sibling wants him to adopt baby but he’s NTA for refusing

Choosing not to adopt family member’s baby. NTA.

NTA: Sister wants money, not adoption.

Support for choosing not to adopt on r/childfree
