Man Leaves House after Girlfriend Calls Him Ableist

Picture this: a loving couple, together for 10 years, and one of them is deaf and mute. They’ve been through thick and thin, but a recent misunderstanding about having children has sparked a heated debate. The boyfriend, who knew sign language before they met, always tried to be sensitive to his girlfriend’s disability. But when the topic of having biological children came up, things took a turn for the worse.

The Misunderstanding

What He Meant

Her Interpretation

The Truth Comes Out

The Question That Started It All

Her Reaction

His Apology

The Conversation Continues

Clarifying His Stance

The Accusation

His Explanation ️

Her Disagreement

The Name-Calling

A Need for Space

A Relationship on the Rocks?

This couple’s 10-year relationship is being tested by a misunderstanding about having biological children. The boyfriend, who has always been sensitive to his girlfriend’s disability, finds himself being called an ableist for not wanting to have children who may inherit her disability. As tensions rise and emotions run high, he leaves the house to clear his head. But will they be able to resolve this conflict and move forward? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Controversy over decision to not have children due to genetics.

OP is accused of eugenics for not wanting kids with disabilities. NAH.

NAH for not wanting kids with potential life impacting disability

NTA for not wanting disabled kids, but communication could be better

Honesty can hurt, but communication is key for a healthy relationship

Valid points from both sides. Consider therapy, research, and adoption

NAH has a valid point but communication is key

NTA for ableist comment, but why is GF the a**hole?

Choosing to have a child with a significant disadvantage – NTA

NTA for not wanting biological child with partner due to genetic risks . Logical and responsible decision, adoption is an option ‍ .

Disabled commenter defends NTA stance on not wanting kids.

Misunderstood statement causes hurt feelings, but no assholes here

Choosing not to have a child with disabilities is justified

Partner wants kids, but NTA for not wanting to father one.

Deafness and parenting, is it really worth the risk?

NAH commenter suggests genetic testing and adoption as options ‍ ‍ and encourages communication to save relationship

Couple discusses potential adoption due to genetic disorders

Choosing not to have a child with a disability. NTA

Controversial opinion on having biological children sparks NTA response

Debate over ableism and having children with disabilities.

Preventing a genetic disability: NTA or YTA?

Hiding ableism in a relationship is not okay. YTA.

Be honest from the start to avoid wasting time. YTA

Adoption may be a better option. NAH for being honest.

Engaging debate on differing perspectives on disability awareness.

Partner lied about wanting kids with disabled girlfriend. YTA.

Parent seeks INFO to make judgement on GF’s deafness.

NTA for not wanting kids, but YTA for how you handled it.

Choosing not to have biological children for genetic reasons.

Commenter questions the purpose of seeking validation from strangers.

Choosing to be childfree due to hereditary diseases. NTA

Understanding the impact of ableist language on the Deaf community

Commenter not at fault

Choosing not to have biological children due to illness. NTA.

YTA for suggesting it’s better to never be born than be Deaf. NAH for not wanting biological children, but cruel to enter a serious relationship without being upfront about it. Deaf is capitalized and not mute.

Navigating a difficult conversation about ableism and genetic counseling.

Commenter explains why OP is ableist and an AH.

Man’s ableist comment causes hurt and betrayal in relationship

Commenter calls out toxic behavior, gets sarcastic reply.

Couple discusses disability and parenthood with empathy ‍

Choosing not to have a child with potential struggles. NTA

Deafness is not a disruptive disability. YTA, reconsider your stance.

Deaf girlfriend accuses boyfriend of ableism, commenters disagree

Disability and parenting, a sensitive topic

Commenter calls out ableist behavior towards raising a deaf child