Imagine finding out you have a 20-year-old son you never knew about! That’s exactly what happened to one man who had a short-lived fling with a married woman when he was 18. Now, he’s trying to make up for lost time by bonding with his son, but it’s causing a rift in the family. The son’s stepfather is feeling the heat, and the mother is begging for the newfound father to back off. Is he in the wrong for wanting to be a part of his son’s life? Let’s dive into this rollercoaster of a story!
The Fling That Started It All
A Shocking Discovery
Son Reaches Out
Father-Son Bonding Time
A Strained Relationship with Stepdad
Growing Closer
Regular Visits and Bonding
Ex Reaches Out with Concerns
Blaming the Newfound Bond
An Emotional Confrontation
Son’s Side of the Story ️
Fighting Over Time Spent with Dad
Feeling Guilty
Questioning His Role
Trying to Encourage Communication
A Father’s Dilemma: To Bond or Not to Bond?
So, we’ve got a man who just found out he has a 20-year-old son from a fling with a married woman. He’s been bonding with his son, but it’s causing some serious family drama. The son’s stepfather is feeling left out, and the mother is begging for the newfound father to back off. But is he really in the wrong for wanting to be a part of his son’s life? The son is distancing himself from his stepdad, and the father feels guilty. Should he limit his involvement or continue to build a relationship with his son? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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NTA. Redditors support OP bonding with secret son despite family drama.
NTA, the son is free to choose who he wants to spend time with. Drama is on them
Encouraging response to a father reconnecting with his secret son
A heartwarming reunion that deserves a happy ending!
Don’t blame the father for bonding with his secret son
Father and son bonding is important. NTA for spending time together.
NTA for bonding with secret son, great morals and maturity
NTA. Your ex took advantage of you and hid your son.
Accepting adult son’s choice sparks family drama. NTA wins.
Engaging with a secret son? NTA, but paternity test first!
Support for dad bonding with secret son at 20.
Man steps up to be a dad to secret son , ex-fling oblivious to husband’s resentment
Father reconnects with secret son, commenters support decision.
Woman sleeps with 18-year-old, blames secret son for family drama
Providing a safe and loving place for his secret son
Supportive comment defends man’s loyalty to newfound son.
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Father reunites with secret son, but family drama ensues. ♂️
Stand by your son, don’t let them control his relationships
Positive vibes! Keep bonding with your son, NTA
NTA. Father bonds with secret son after years of lies
Ex is the ultimate AH for depriving you of knowing your kid. NTA for bonding with J now and giving him a loving father-son relationship.
Support for father-son bond despite family drama
Bonding with secret son causes family drama. NTA.
NTA, but appreciate your ex’s husband for raising another man’s son
Father supports adult son’s choices. NTA
Father rightfully bonds with secret son after years of absence.
NTA for bonding with secret son, but concerns about power dynamic.
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Commenter sympathizes with OP and criticizes wife’s behavior.
Father’s bond with secret son is not a**hole move
Supportive comment defends man’s right to bond with secret son
Father and secret son have every right to bond. NTA
Clear judgement, but why is there drama?
Ex’s choices caused drama, NTA for bonding with son
Father discovers secret son and bonds with him, NTA
Biological father reconnects with son despite stepmom’s disapproval
Reunited and it feels so good! Bonding with a secret son.
A heartwarming NTA comment about a secret son seeking love ❤️
Age is just a number, NTA!
Man bonds with secret son, ex and husband upset. NTA
Biological father bonds with secret son, comment supports NTA stance.
Don’t let others dictate your relationship with your son
Father reconnects with secret son, not responsible for strained relationship.
Support for dad bonding with secret son, NTA
Father bonds with secret son, stepdad’s poor treatment backfires. NTA
NTA bonds with secret son despite family drama
Father reconnects with secret son, chooses him over mother’s deceit.
Bonding with secret son: NTA, but tread carefully
Stepdad had 20 years to be a father, but wasted it. You’re doing just fine with J. NTA
Debating between ESH and NAH, but ultimately it’s J’s decision.
Family drama ensues as commenters agree everyone’s an a**hole
Engaging comment on absent parenting and family drama.
Doubting paternity? DNA test or trust the cheater’s word?
Supportive comment section celebrates father-son bond despite past trauma
Man bonds with secret son, mom’s an A H for hiding it. NTA.
Adult son chooses to bond with biological father, ex-wife unhappy
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Father reunites with secret son; NTA for wanting relationship
Secret son bonds with biological dad – NTA wins!
Unexpected father-son bond sparks family drama. NTA prevails.
Adult son reunites with biological father, ex-wife and husband unhappy
Let J make his own decisions. Don’t control him.
Encouraging independence and reconciliation. You’re not the a**hole
Not the cause of family rift, just an accelerant
Engage with your son, but don’t promise more than you can offer. Avoid resenting him for the past and don’t cross boundaries.
Supportive comment for man bonding with secret son
Encouraging response to man bonding with secret son
Connecting with a secret son amidst family drama
Supportive comment defends man bonding with secret son.
NTA man, good on you for being open to meeting him
