Imagine attending family dinners twice a week, only to find yourself constantly stuck with babysitting duties while everyone else enjoys adult conversation. That’s the situation one man found himself in, and he’s had enough. Tired of being the designated caregiver for his nieces and nephews, he decided to reduce his attendance at these gatherings. But when his wife confronted him about his absence, he didn’t hold back. Let’s dive into the story and see if he was justified in his actions.
Family Dinner Routine ️

Babysitter Duties

Asking for Help

Reducing Attendance

The Kids Miss Him

Wife Confronts Him

Missing Out on Conversation ️

Wife’s Reaction

Is He Justified in His Actions?
Our protagonist found himself constantly stuck with babysitting duties during family dinners, while his wife and her family enjoyed adult conversation. He tried asking for help, but to no avail. Eventually, he decided to reduce his attendance, causing tension between him and his wife. When confronted, he expressed his frustration about feeling like a babysitter. Was he justified in taking a stand, or should he have continued to play his role without complaint? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA for not wanting to be the default babysitter at family dinners

NTA. Setting boundaries is important for self-care and respect.
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NTA. Family wants free babysitter, not quality time with OP.

NTA. Parenting is tiring, talk to your wife about it

NTA. Babysitting every week is exhausting. Wife upset over what?

Being the “fun uncle” can be a great solution

Being the fun babysitter shouldn’t mean being taken for granted

Don’t let family guilt you into babysitting duties

NTA, but handling it wrong. Get a hobby and hangout.

Don’t let family guilt you into free childcare . Suggest hiring a babysitter.

Fed up with babysitting duties? Stand up for yourself! NTA

Setting boundaries is important, but twice a week is excessive

NTA for not wanting to be the free babysitter

Honesty hurts, but NTA for speaking up about babysitting duties

Don’t let babysitting duties ruin family dinners ️

Kids shouldn’t be separated at family dinners. NTA for uncle.

Don’t be the family babysitter. NTA has spoken

User refuses to be a babysitter for in-laws.

Validating boundaries and suggesting communication for babysitting concerns

Suggests communicating with kids for some adult time

Honesty is the best policy , good on you OP!

Don’t let others take advantage of you. Hire a babysitter!

Spouse tired of in-law dinners and babysitting duties. NTA.

Family reunions shouldn’t be a babysitting job

Fed up with babysitting duties, OP stands their ground.

OP is not alone in babysitting duties at family dinners

Stand your ground, you’re not responsible for someone else’s kids

Don’t be a babysitter, be a guest

Don’t let your family take advantage of you

No more babysitting! NTA takes a stand at family dinners

Stand up for yourself!

Not the a**hole for setting boundaries with family

Offer to have her leave your little one at home when she goes out.

Suggest a round-robin roster for babysitting duties

Don’t be the unpaid babysitter at family dinners. NTA.

Don’t let them take advantage of your kindness . Stand your ground.

Taking a stand for fair family responsibilities

Playing with other people’s kids is a chore NTA

Babysitting family for free? NTA, demand payment

NTA, but are they even worth talking to?
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Man threatens to leave wife if she continues to disrespect him

Don’t be the free babysitter, NTA. Time for compromise.

Set boundaries with your wife and prioritize your own needs

Excluded from adult table? NTA, playpen is your throne

Enjoying kids doesn’t mean we’re free babysitters

Not the a**hole for setting boundaries with family

Set boundaries with family gatherings. NTA for needing space

Frustrated babysitter speaks out against unfair family expectations

Commenter sympathizes with man’s frustration with family dynamics.

No more babysitting! NTA for standing up for yourself

Boundaries needed for overwhelming family dinners. NTA

Mom upset because you won’t babysit? NTA, stand your ground
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User suggests adults should relax while kids play together

No one should be forced into babysitting duties hire a babysitter instead

Feeling resentful for being the only babysitter at family dinners

Stand up for yourself and say ‘no’ to babysitting duties. NTA

Stand up for yourself! You’re not a free babysitter

Commenter questions grandparents’ indifference towards their grandchildren during family gatherings.

Being used as a babysitter during family dinners? NTA.

Parenting responsibilities neglected, NTA for refusing babysitting duties

Man fed up with babysitting duties at family dinners. Wife upset.

Don’t be a doormat! Stand up for yourself!

Don’t be a free babysitter, set boundaries and enjoy dinner

Setting boundaries with family at dinner

Not the a**hole for setting boundaries with family

Family dinners would be more fun if all adults helped

Attend family dinner, refuse to babysit, watch tantrums ensue

Valid reason for skipping family dinners ️
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NTA for feeling like a traveling au pair. What was her response?

Escape babysitting duties at family dinners with a simple trick

Parenting responsibilities and technology – a selfish combination. NTA.

Being taken for granted as a free babysitter? NTA

Being treated like a nanny by family? Not cool #NTA

Hire a babysitter next time and make your point

Tips for avoiding babysitting duties during family dinners
