A man has sparked controversy after admitting to feeling relief at his brother’s funeral. He blames his parents for forcing him to be his brother’s caregiver from a young age, which caused him to act out and ultimately be removed from the family home by CPS. The man’s confession was secretly recorded by his 15-year-old cousin and shown to his parents, leading to a confrontation. While some have sympathized with the man’s difficult upbringing, others have criticized him for his lack of empathy towards his deceased brother and the timing of his confession. What do you think? Is he the a**hole or not?
Reunited with family at brother’s funeral after years. Emotional goodbye.

Man admits relief at brother’s funeral, AITA? Childhood memories resurface.

Teen cousin records drunk confession, family drama ensues

Sharing the burden of a mentally ill sibling.

Teen’s disturbing confession about brother’s funeral and parents.

Teen recounts confrontational encounter with parents and aunt.

Admitting relief at brother’s death, blaming parents. AITA?

Breaking free from oppressive family culture, but at what cost?

Admission of disturbing thoughts at brother’s funeral. AITA?

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Redditor finds peace after family tragedy, seeks anonymity for post.

Man admits relief at brother’s funeral, blames parents.
A man shares his experience at his brother’s funeral and admits feeling relieved rather than sad. He blames his parents for forcing him to be his brother’s caregiver and confesses that he hated his brother. The situation became worse when his cousin secretly recorded him admitting to feeling relieved about his brother’s passing. The man wonders if he is in the wrong, but also acknowledges the oppressive nature of his family and his difficult upbringing. Read on for the comments and reactions to this heartbreaking story.
NTA. The parents’ abusive behavior forced OP to be a caregiver.

A heartbreaking story of parental neglect and misplaced responsibility.

NTA expresses resentment towards parents for taking away childhood.
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CPS rescued OP from abusive parents, NTA for feeling relieved.

Book recommendation validates NTA’s experience

Blaming parents for caregiver role, NTA commenter faces meddling cousin

Caring for a severely disabled loved one is taxing, feeling relief is normal

Validating the commenter’s feelings about their abusive parents.

Respect privacy. NTA for feeling relieved at brother’s funeral.

Compassionate response to funeral comment.

NTA. Parents parentified OP for brother, confronting him about grieving.

Acknowledging relief after a death is complicated but not wrong.

Breaking free from toxic family expectations.

Moving on from a toxic family. NTA

Parents’ neglect caused family separation and grief. NTA. ❌

10-year-old forced to be caretaker for brother, NTA for feeling relieved.

Cutting toxic family ties: NTA and justified

A parent’s personal story highlights OP’s parents’ neglect. NTA

Breaking free from parental pressure.

Speaking the truth can be uncomfortable but necessary.

Heartless reply to empathetic comment. ♀️

Seek professional help to work through your emotions.

Be careful when speaking, your words might be recorded!

Blaming parents for brother’s death, commenter judged NTA by peers.

Disturbing comment and replies about child abuse.

Supportive comment, offering condolences and empathy.

Commenter empathizes with person’s parental struggles.

Changing diapers on a teenager? NTA for feeling resentment.

Parents forced child to be caretaker. NTA for feeling relief.

Parenting a special needs child doesn’t mean neglecting other children. ❤️

Toxic family dynamic? NTA for feeling relief about brother’s death.

Supportive reply to grieving man. ❤️

Childhood trauma & toxic family dynamics.

Finding relief at a funeral? NTA, but so many AHs here

Exploring the nuances of mental health.

10yo forced to change 15yo’s diapers, NTA for feeling wronged

Venting about deceased brother leads to outing. NTA.

Caring for a mentally ill sibling is tough. NTA. ❤

Defending oneself against gaslighting. ️

Sibling denied relationship due to parents’ negligence.

Cousin secretly recorded NTA’s venting about parents.

Caring for someone should be voluntary, NTA for feeling relieved

Sibling shares pain of toxic childhood, condemns 14yo’s actions

Commenter shows support for OP and condemns cousin’s behavior
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Commenter vents frustration towards family, declares NTA.

Taking on parental responsibilities robbed OP of innocence.

Sympathetic comment from someone with similar experience.

Empathetic response to someone blaming parents at brother’s funeral

User sympathizes with commenter’s situation and agrees with their stance.
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Relief at a loved one’s death. NTA, but complicated family.

Family trauma and invasion of privacy. NTA.

Validating the experience of growing up with developmental disabilities

Tragic situation, but NTA. Blame falls on parents.

Parenting a significantly handicapped child is a heavy weight.

Strongly condemn violent behavior towards family members

Blaming cousin for parents’ grief after private conversation.

Relatable experience with special needs sibling, disappointing parents.

Commenter sympathizes with OP’s past, defends reaction to cousin’s actions

NTA for feeling relief at brother’s funeral due to lack of familial love and being raised as a caregiver. Importance of properly raising siblings for caregiving responsibilities emphasized.

Blaming parents for brother’s issues: NTA uncovers family dysfunction

Sibling responsibility turned into caregiver role. NTA.

Cutting toxic family ties. ♂️

Cutting toxic family ties: NTA’s emancipation from trash relatives

Victim of abusive parents finds closure at brother’s funeral

User shares experience of leaving toxic family.

Commenter finds support after mistreatment from parents.

Childhood stolen by parents, NTA for cutting toxic family out

Breaking unrealistic expectations caused family rift. NTA.

Commenter consoles man who feels blameless for brother’s death. ❤
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Insensitive comment about deceased.
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