Friendship can be a rollercoaster, especially when you feel left out. This guy has been friends with his group of four buddies since elementary school. They’ve stayed close through thick and thin, but now, one of them is getting married and he’s the only one not chosen as a groomsman. To make matters worse, their annual friends’ trip is about to become a groomsman getaway, and he’s not sure he can handle being the odd one out. ♂️ Read on to find out how he deals with this dilemma and whether he’s in the wrong for backing out of the trip.
A Tight-Knit Group of Friends
The Wedding Situation
Groomsman Selection
Feeling Upset
Parents’ Advice ️
Moving On
Annual Friends’ Trip
A Surprise for Brandon
Hesitation
Decision Time ⏳
Backing Out ♂️
Friends’ Reaction
Accusations and Resentment
Caught in a Dilemma ♂️
To Go or Not to Go?
Our left-out friend is stuck in a dilemma. He’s been friends with these guys for 19 years, but now he’s the only one not chosen as a groomsman. Their annual friends’ trip is about to become a groomsman getaway, and he’s not sure he can handle being the odd one out. He decides to back out, but his friends aren’t happy about it. They accuse him of not being a good friend and resenting not being a groomsman. Now, he’s caught between a rock and a hard place. Let’s see what the internet has to say about this situation…
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Not the a**hole for backing out of ruined tradition
Skipping the wedding-trip, not the friendship
Rejection hurts, time to reevaluate ‘friendships’ ♂️
NTA. Exclusion hurts, but keep a low profile for wedding.
Exclusion from groomsmen squad leads to awkward trip cancellation. NTA.
Legit excuse to skip trip, NTA. Prioritizing wedding expenses
Feeling left out of the groomsmen squad? NTA, skip it
NTA. Suggest attending, then cancel last-minute due to ‘issue’
Excluded from groomsmen squad, backs out of friends’ trip. NTA
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NTA for backing out of groomsmen trip, let them be mad
Communication is key in any friendship
NTA for backing out of the trip due to wedding exclusion
Excluded from the wedding party, he’s justified in backing out
Excluded from groomsmen squad, ends 19-year friendship. Confrontation needed.
Honesty is key. NTA for feeling left out of trip.
Maturely explained discomfort, offered to skip trip. NTA
Excluded friend questions purpose of annual trip revolving around wedding.
Being left out of the groomsmen squad, NTA decides to back out of friends’ trip. It’s time to find new friends who value and include you.
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Being excluded from the groomsmen squad is a nasty move NTA
Excluded from wedding and trip, friendship irrevocably changed. NTA.
Excluded from groomsmen events, backs out of friends’ trip. #NTA
NTA, excluded from groomsmen squad, but friends handled it poorly
Choosing between friendship and hurt feelings is tough ♂️
Friendship dynamics change over time, NTA for backing out.
Being excluded from a friend group hurts, but it’s time to move on.
Friend backs out of trip after being left out of groomsmen.
NTA. Friends’ insensitivity and exclusion is hurtful and unacceptable.
Advice to move on and keep busy after being excluded.
Feeling left out of wedding party, backs out of trip ♂️
Excluded from groomsmen squad, backed out of friends’ trip. NTA.
Wedding party snubbed him, he ditched the tacky trip. #NTA
Excluded from trip, NTA bows out for financial reasons
Exclusionary behavior from friends. Low blow to not be told.
Breaking tradition, the groomsmen ruined the annual trip. NTA.
Take yourself out of the equation and move on.
Excluding someone while forcing them on a trip? Not cool. NTA
Friend suggests OP talk to others about being left out.
Possible reasons for exclusion from groomsmen, set boundaries for self
Excluded from groomsmen squad, comment defends feeling left out.
Feeling left out of the groomsmen squad, but NTA. Any backstory?
Choose your own adventure: NTA backs out of friends’ trip
Respectful NTA declines wedding outings, sets boundaries with friends
Excluded from groomsman squad, friends mad he won’t go on trip
Excluded from groomsmen squad, but not the a**hole. Concerns raised.
Excluded from groomsmen squad, friends try to rub it in face
Cutting ties with disrespectful ‘friends’ who don’t value you
Excluded from groomsmen squad, friend backs out of trip
Friends are double a**holes for excluding OP from events.
Being excluded from a friend group is a**hole behavior ♂️
Op excluded from groomsman squad, but handled it with class
Rejected from a program, felt left out, NTA.
Standing up for yourself is never crap
NTA. The commenter advises the OP to confront the friend who called them unfair/resentful and reminds them that friends should be more understanding.
Feeling left out of the groomsmen squad, NTA backs out
Feeling left out of the groomsmen squad, but handled it well
Being left out of the groomsman squad is a valid reason
Being left out of a friend group is tough, but backing out gracefully is key.
Excluded from groomsmen squad, friend backs out of trip. NTA.
Excluded from events, friend backs out of trip. NTA.
Respectful friend excluded from wedding trip, backs out. NTA
Groom’s silence on exclusion is weird as F, say commenters
Friend excluded from groomsmen activities, not TA for opting out.
Advice for excluded groomsman to skip wedding and save money
NTA for wanting to spend time with core friends. Have an open conversation.
Exclusion changed group dynamic forever. Time to develop new friendships. NTA.
Being left out hurts, but he handled it gracefully.
Feeling left out of the wedding party? Reevaluate that friendship
Being left out of the groomsmen squad is tough, but NTA.
Being left out of the groomsmen squad hurts friendships
Respect your boundaries and reevaluate friendships after the wedding. NTA
Friend feels left out of groomsman squad, speaks up. NTA.
Groom’s mistake, not yours. He can’t blame you or friends.
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OP’s friend is an a**hole for not addressing the issue ♂️. No good way to feel about it .
Being honest with your friends is key to saving relationships
Choosing to opt out of an uncomfortable situation. NTA
Growing apart from childhood friends is okay
Putting your own comfort aside for a friend’s wedding
Friend supports OP, calls out Brandon for being a jerk
Stand your ground and don’t let them guilt trip you
Trip hijacked by friends, NTA for backing out
Excluded from groomsman squad, friend backs out of trip
Friendship fallout over groomsmanship, NTA gets blamed. ♂️
Honesty is the best policy. NTA for backing out.
Excluded from groomsmen squad, ‘friends’ show true colors. Move on.
