Buckle up, folks! We’ve got a juicy story that’s sure to get your blood boiling! Imagine finding out at your husband’s funeral that he had a pregnant mistress on the side. Talk about a shocking revelation! Well, that’s exactly what happened to our 52-year-old protagonist. ♀️ She’s in quite the predicament and needs our help to figure out if she’s being an a****e or not. Get ready for a wild ride filled with drama, betrayal, and some tough decisions!
A Shocking Revelation at the Funeral

Demanding Proof Before Paying a Cent

Rent-Free Living with Conditions

Leaving it to the In-Laws to Handle

⏰ Fast Forward 12 Years Later…

♀️ Sticking to the Original Agreement

Accused of Being a Monster

Using the Trust Fund for Medical Bills

No Replenishing the Trust Fund

♀️ Straight Forward from the Start

Additional Context: American Middle-Class

Financial Situation at the Time of Death

⚖️ Mistress’ Legal Options Were Limited ️

Rental Property Solely in OP’s Name

In-Laws Unaware of Full Details

Additional Funds from Accident Settlement

Internet Weighs In: Is OP an A****e for Not Replenishing Affair Child’s College Fund?
Well, well, well… looks like our protagonist has found herself in quite the pickle! After agreeing to set up a college trust for her late husband’s affair child and letting them live rent-free, she’s now facing backlash for not replenishing the trust after it was used for medical bills. The mistress is calling her a monster, but OP’s standing her ground. She even plans to start charging rent! Her in-laws think it’s unfair to the child, but OP says the mistress had plenty of time to figure something out. ♀️ So, let’s see what the internet has to say about this juicy drama! Is OP being too harsh, or is she justified in her actions? Get ready for some sizzling hot takes!
Family members won’t help but expect you to pay? NTA
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NTA- Widow hoping for a free ride, but you fulfilled agreement

Widow honored husband’s child, but has no obligation to provide now. NTA

Empathetic support for NTA in a terrible situation.

Not her responsibility. Education fund is enough. NTA

NTA. Widow’s generosity taken advantage of by entitled mistress.

Protecting an innocent life, NTA deserves a medal

NTA for not wanting to financially support husband’s affair child

NTA. You’ve handled it well, keep standing your ground

NTA. Sleeping with unavailable people never ends well ♀️. You don’t owe them anything .

NTA. Widow is a martyr for letting husband’s mistress live rent-free.

NTA. MIL and SIL can contribute to the illegitimate child.

Generosity has limits, NTA, not your responsibility

No obligation to pay for secret child after age 18

Calculating the cost of raising a child, NTA stands strong.

Widow not responsible for husband’s secret baby’s college fund. NTA
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Generous widow denies to husband’s secret baby. NTA, MIL and SIL should contribute

NTA. Don’t give them a cent more, they’re entitled enough.
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Widow’s decision to not pay for secret baby questioned
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NTA. Widow not obligated to give more money to secret baby.

Get a lawyer’s advice since the child may inherit property.

Widow’s generosity questioned in husband’s secret baby situation

Generous widow denies financial support to entitled tenant

Living rent-free for 18 years and still ungrateful? ♀️ NTA

NTA commenter slams mistress for wanting tuition reimbursement.

Generous widow in baby secret dispute is NTA, commenters agree.

Stand your ground, you don’t owe his mistress and kid . NTA.

Standing up for herself and refusing to clean up his mess. #NTA
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Honesty is the best policy, NTA
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Stand your ground! You don’t owe them a thing

Widow stands her ground and shuts down husband’s family.

Widow gets support for not paying rent to husband’s mistress

A commenter questions what the widow did with the money

Generous widow denies husband’s secret baby, NTA, in-laws should help.

NTA. Calculate free rent, give rental contract, start eviction proceedings.

Widow gets support for denying to husband’s secret baby

Unfair mistress rights, but widow praised for her strength

Widow praised for setting up college fund despite husband’s infidelity

Widow’s entitlement questioned. NTA verdict.

NTA for denying to pay for child’s emergency expenses.

Widow’s financial generosity taken for granted by husband’s affair child
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Curious commenter questions widow’s financial choices and advises MIL and SIL

Generous gesture or not, NTA for refusing to pay.

Not your responsibility anymore. Let his family help her

Widow’s decision to stop paying for secret baby sparks debate ⚖️

Generous gesture or not, NTA for not supporting secret baby.
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Widow justified in denying husband’s secret family inheritance. NTA

Widow receives support for refusing to pay for secret child’s inheritance

Widow is NTA for denying husband’s secret baby inheritance.

Widow refuses to pay for husband’s secret baby’s education

Stand your ground! MIL and SIL should make up for it

Generous offer rejected, entitled behavior exposed. NTA

Doubts about legitimacy of husband’s secret child, but no obligation.

Widow’s decision to not pay for husband’s secret baby sparks debate

Medical bills and college expenses are insane in America

NTA. Finite money used. No relation to the child. She’ll be fine

Widow went above and beyond for husband’s secret child.

Stand your ground and don’t pay You’re NTA

NTA: Widow denies responsibility for husband’s secret baby
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User questions widow’s financial struggles despite free living arrangements.

NTA. A clean break is the best solution

NTA seeks legal help to stop contact from husband’s secret baby.

Compassionate comment applauds OP for standing up for herself and child

Support denied! Commenter refuses to fund husband’s secret baby.

Don’t pay for husband’s secret baby- family can cover it. #NTA

NTA! Widow denies to pay for husband’s secret baby expenses.

Widow refuses to pay for husband’s secret child, commenters support

Widow praised for standing up to judgmental family members

NTA: Widow criticized for not paying, but had no obligation.

Generous widow receives backlash for not paying husband’s secret baby
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NTA, you owe nothing to your husband’s mistress or her child

Widow’s entitlement questioned, but still NTA for not paying rent

Boundaries should be set early to avoid entitlement issues later

Smart thinking! It’s always better to have a contract

NTA. But seek legal advice. Not your kid, not your responsibility.

NTA: Give her notice to vacate and speak to a lawyer

Last Updated on March 21, 2024 by Diply Social Team