Picture this: a perfect marriage, but with one major issue. Our protagonist, a 30-year-old woman, has a deep-rooted hang-up about having a neat bed due to her traumatic childhood with a strict, violent stepfather. Her husband, who used to respect her need for order, has recently started to ‘tease’ her by messing up the bed on purpose and even sleep-groping her. The situation has escalated to the point where she’s now sleeping in the guest room, and her best friend thinks she’s being ridiculous. But is she? Let’s dive into this story and find out! ️♀️
The 6-Year Marriage

A Hang-Up I Can’t Shake

My Strict Stepfather

The Bed-Making Nightmare ️

The Lasting Impact

Husband’s Cruel Teasing

The Bed Sabotage

Mocking My Pain

Separate Blankets and Sleep-Groping

Blanket Battles

Anxiety and Anger

Husband’s Reaction

Is It Really Accidental?

Best Friend’s Opinion ️

Therapy and Communication

Talking to Hubby ️

His Stubbornness

Sleep-Groping Isn’t PTSD

Sleeping Apart: A Marriage on the Edge?
Our protagonist has a severe anxiety about messy beds due to her traumatic past. Her husband, once understanding, has taken to ‘teasing’ her by purposely messing up their bed and even sleep-groping her. Despite therapy and communication, the situation has escalated to the point where she’s now sleeping in the guest room. Her best friend thinks she’s overreacting and risking their otherwise perfect marriage. But is she really the one at fault here? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Respectful comment points out husband’s cruel behavior, raises important question.

Destroying property is not harmless. NTA.

Husband’s ‘harmless’ pranks trigger wife’s dark past, NTA suggests communication issues.

Concerned commenter recommends book on abusive behavior

Husband admits to pranking his trauma survivor wife. NTA

Warning: This is abuse. Leave him before he escalates. ⚠️

NTA commenter suggests leaving husband due to harmful pranks

Wife’s husband is mentally torturing her and this is terrifying.

Warning: Run from gaslighting abuser. Seek PTSD therapy for relief

Internet advises husband to stop pranking wife with hidden hostility

Concerned commenter suggests possible medical explanation for husband’s behavior

A concerned commenter warns against trivializing harmful behavior

Spouse’s ‘harmless’ pranks are abusive. Therapy can help PTSD.

Wife’s husband is sexually abusing her while she sleeps

Sleeping in separate rooms is fine, but his pranks aren’t.

Husband’s ‘harmless’ pranks are emotional abuse, gaslighting and assault . Consider leaving.

Powerful comment on sexual assault in marriages

Red flag alert! Is he really in love with you?

Husband’s ‘harmless’ pranks are actually bullying and manipulative

Serious sexual assault is not a joking matter . Consider leaving.

Is there more to these ‘harmless’ pranks?

Husband’s ‘harmless’ pranks turn into dangerous territory. NTA needs to leave.

Stand up against sexual assault. Throw elbows for your safety.

Spouse’s ‘harmless’ pranks trigger trauma. NTA. Show him this.

Protect yourself, he is not teasing, he is torturing you.

Husband’s ‘pranks’ are abusive and triggering, sleep ‘prank’ is rape

Spouse’s ‘harmless’ pranks trigger past trauma. NTA gives ultimatum.

Abusers can put up a front, but true colors show eventually

Husband’s pranks are abusive, get a lock. NTA

A harsh comment questioning the woman’s decision to stay married.

Red flags! Husband’s ‘harmless’ pranks are sexual assault!

NTA suggests therapy to prevent abusive relationship

Spouse’s ‘harmless’ pranks trigger past trauma, divorce may be necessary

A powerful response to a triggering prank by the husband

Strongly-worded comment advises OP to leave disrespectful husband and friend

Stand up against abuse, you deserve a peaceful life. NTA

Educational resource suggested for possible abusive behavior. Stay safe.

Husband’s ‘harmless’ pranks are actually abusive and terrifying.

Disturbing behavior, consider ending abusive marriage. NTA.

Sleeping with separate blankets isn’t odd, but husband’s pranks are cruel. NTA.

Husband’s ‘harmless’ pranks are actually torture. Leave him

Husband’s sadistic pranks trigger wife’s dark past. Empathize with her.
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Medical check is recommended for abusive behavior ⚕️

Couples counseling recommended for husband’s cruel pranks

Red flags in marriage, possible affair or prenup scam?

Red flags raised in comment about husband’s harmful pranks

Protect yourself from triggering behavior

A harsh truth: husband’s pranks may indicate lack of love ♀️

Serious advice and support for a victim of abuse

Husband’s ‘harmless’ pranks trigger wife’s past trauma, NTA for leaving.

Warning signs of marital rape. Seek help and support.

Friend advises OP to leave husband, questions friend’s values

Sleep-fuck not a thing. Abusive behavior. Leave him. NTA

Sleep in a space where you’re comfortable NTA. Consider therapy too

Partner’s pranks triggering trauma and possibly leading to breakup

Partner’s pranks trigger anxiety, gaslighting and abuse. NTA.

Spouse’s pranks trigger past trauma, commenter labels husband as inconsiderate.

Disturbing behavior, she should leave for her own safety

Separate blankets didn’t solve the issue. Is husband being cruel? ♀️

Setting boundaries with husband after triggering past trauma. NTA

Spouse’s ‘pranks’ trigger dark past; commenter calls out cruel behavior

“It’s a sensitive space for you. You need a safe space to have good sleep.”

Serious advice for a serious situation

Seek separate counseling and make an escape plan

Sleep assault joke crosses the line, but NTA overall

Spouse’s ‘teasing’ is actually bullying. NTA. Get couples therapy.

Spouse’s ‘harmless’ pranks trigger anxiety. NTA suggests reevaluating relationship.

Valid point! Husband needs therapy too. Love shouldn’t hurt

Spouse’s cruel pranks trigger trauma, need counseling, and rethinking future

Protect your sanctuary from sociopath behavior. NTA

Cruel husband’s pranks jeopardize marriage

Sleeping in separate beds can be a healthy solution
