Homeless Friend Kicked Out Twice: Should She Let Him Stay Again?

A 22-year-old woman finds herself in a difficult situation when her 19-year-old homeless friend, Mike, asks to stay at her place again. Previously, Mike was kicked out of his parents’ house for coming out as gay and later from his sibling’s home after eight months. The woman, who has faced similar challenges in her past, allowed Mike to stay with her temporarily. However, Mike’s lack of contribution to household expenses and chores, coupled with his late-night escapades, left her feeling burdened. Now, after a breakup with his boyfriend, Mike is homeless again and everyone expects her to take him in. Should she let him stay?

A Familiar Struggle

Offering a Helping Hand ✋

Breaking Tenancy Rules

Conditions for Staying

Unfulfilled Promises

Financial Strain

Job Loss and Benefits ️

Excuses and Takeaways

Lockdown Sneaking

Temporary Relief

Expectations and Pressure ‍♀️

Her Decision

Pandemic and Guilt

Edit: Group Discussion ️

Finding a Solution

To Help or Not to Help: A Tough Choice ‍♀️

The young woman faces a moral dilemma as her homeless friend seeks shelter at her place once more. Despite her own financial struggles and Mike’s previous lack of contribution, she is pressured by friends to take him in again. After discussing the situation with their friends, they decide to make a plan to help Mike find alternative solutions. Will this be enough to help Mike get back on his feet? Share your thoughts and reactions below.

Don’t let him take advantage of you again. Firm no. NTA

No a-hole here. Friends should step up to help homeless friend

NTA for not taking in homeless friend. Warning signs ignored.

User suggests not taking in homeless friend, receives support.

Hosting overstayed homeless friend? NTA, but don’t repeat mistake.

Helping a mentally ill friend without being taken advantage of.

Roommate or grifter?

Setting boundaries with a homeless friend. NTA

Friend takes advantage of kindness, NTA for not letting stay

No second chances for ungrateful homeless friend

Taking him back may harm your mental and physical health

Questioning the reasons behind a friend’s homelessness.

Commenter calls out entitled roommate, supports original poster.

No obligation to take in disrespectful homeless friend again.

You already helped, he overstepped. Time for others to step up.

Setting boundaries with homeless friend, but need help from others.

Encouraging tough love for friend in need

Charity in the UK offers help for homeless LGBTQ youth

Helpful advice on housing options for homeless friend

Compassionate response to homeless friend’s eviction.

Commenter empathizes with situation, supports decision to help friend.

Don’t let yourself get into financial difficulties for a ‘friend’

You did your part Let someone else take over

Don’t be a doormat , you’ve done enough. Let others help.

Community should step up to help homeless friend.

A good friend offered a homeless friend a place to stay rent-free, but he couldn’t meet simple requests. Now, ‘friends’ are pressuring her to take him in again. NTA.

Don’t feel guilty for prioritizing your own well-being.

Don’t let guilt cloud your judgement. NTA

Don’t be used, set boundaries.

No one wants to help? Don’t blame OP for saying no.

Stand your ground and don’t let them push you around!

Setting boundaries is tough, but necessary. Don’t be a doormat

Don’t feel guilty, it’s your home and your rules!

Don’t let him take advantage of you again

Sarcastic NTA comment receives support from fellow redditors

Setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care.

Local authority should help him, not burden OP.

Setting boundaries is important, even with friends who are homeless.

Don’t let him take advantage of your kindness again.

Great advice for being a good roommate

No obligation to let a lousy ‘tenant’ stay. #NTA

Community should take responsibility for homeless friend, NTA comment agrees.

Don’t let others guilt you into taking in a homeless friend

Politely decline. Your friend was a terrible guest before.

Community suggests others take in homeless friend. NTA confirmed.

NTA stands up for homeless friend, challenges others to help

Young woman refuses to let homeless friend stay, NTA

Supporting a homeless friend: NTA, but enabling an a**hole.

Sorting by controversial: the guilty pleasure of Reddit ‍♂️

Be a good friend, but don’t let others take advantage.

Don’t blame the pandemic for everything, NTA commenter says.

Taking responsibility is key to receiving help from others.

Don’t be a doormat. Stand your ground.

Friend’s homeless ex still jobless after a year. NTA.

Setting boundaries with homeless friend who doesn’t chip in

Harsh judgement on homeless friend, but NTA for setting boundaries.

Don’t be a doormat, suggest a shelter

Don’t be taken advantage of again. Stand your ground!

Don’t let anyone drain your limited resources . You’re doing great!

Being broke doesn’t make you heartless. NTA

Community suggests hypocritical commenters take in homeless friend themselves

Don’t let him take advantage of you again. NTA

Friend’s homeless friend is an a**hole. NTA for kicking out.

Commenter believes OP is not the a**hole.

Friend’s homeless guest overstays welcome, NTA suggests finding alternatives.

Financial strain makes it tough to house homeless friend

Generous rules ignored. NTA. Let him lie in his bed.

Setting boundaries with homeless friend. NTA for saying no.

Don’t risk it again! NTA, keep him out.

Commenter hesitant to trust homeless friend again

Compassionate comment on ungratefulness of homeless friend.

Stand up for yourself and challenge their hypocrisy.

Don’t let him take advantage of you. Stand your ground!

Homeless friend’s gratitude appreciated but can’t afford to raise him.

Friend not at fault for kicking out homeless person.

Setting boundaries with a homeless friend. Just say no