Christmas is a time for family, love, and togetherness… but what happens when your fiancé’s idea of a perfect Christmas doesn’t include you? After 5 years together, this bride-to-be is facing a holiday heartbreak. Her man insists on spending every Christmas with his ex-wife and daughter, leaving his future wife out in the cold. ❄️ Is this a case of putting his child first, or is he just too weak to stand up to his ex? Buckle up, because this festive fiasco is about to get even more complicated!
A Christmas Conundrum: Fiancé’s Festive Family Tradition

Admiring the Amicable Co-Parenting… Until Now

Flying Solo for the Holidays

Engaged… But Still Spending Christmas Apart?

Expecting a Change in Holiday Plans

Questioning the Arrangement Now That We’re Engaged

Contemplating Ending the Relationship

5 Years Together, Still Shipped Away Every Christmas

Feeling Horrible, But Seeing No Future

Update: Fiancé Tries to Include Me, Ex Says I’m Not Family

Ex’s Harsh Response: I’m a Stranger, He’s Weak

Maybe Next Year… After We’re Married? ♀️

Conflicted: Stay Another Year or Cut My Losses?

Thinking of His Daughter, But Feeling Like Nothing

A Christmas Catastrophe: Fiancé’s Ex Says I’m Not Family!
Looks like this Christmas conundrum just got even more tangled than a string of holiday lights! Our conflicted bride-to-be thought she might finally get to spend the holidays with her hubby-to-be, but his ex had other plans. , until there’s a ring on that finger, she’s just a stranger who’s not welcome at their little family celebration. Ouch! Her fiancé says maybe next year, but is that just an empty promise? The internet is divided: should she give him one more chance, or is it time to stuff this stocking full of coal and move on? Let’s see what the masses have to say about this mistletoe mishap!
Discuss the future with him. If he prioritizes ex, leave.

Partner chooses ex over Christmas with you. What’s next?

NTAH suggests setting up a custody agreement for holidays

Christmas with his ex is a deal breaker? ❌

Concerns raised about ex-wife’s impact on new relationships

Prioritizing his daughter is important, but he needs to consider you too. NTA

Choose someone who puts you first
Throw him away

Partner prioritizes ex over Christmas with current girlfriend. Gaslighting suspected.

Insightful comment on a sad situation

Red flag! Will he prioritize his ex even after marriage?

He wants Christmas with his ex & daughter, ignores his partner.

Choosing ex over you on Christmas, potential deal breaker.

Is it time to leave?

Ex-wife controlling Christmas plans, pregnant OP should give ultimatum

Don’t let him prioritize his ex over you and your kid

Future spouse excluded from Christmas plans with partner’s child.

Pregnant and alone for Christmas? Let’s talk about it.

Don’t be his plan B. Move on to a happier Christmas

User questions partner’s prioritization and sleeping arrangements during ex’s visits.

Living in the past? Divorce couples work this out differently.
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Curious about his job and ex’s perception of their relationship?

NTA’s Christmas traditions with partner, but fiance’s commitment to ex is concerning.
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Is he really with his ex-wife for their child?

Engaged but playing house with ex? Time to break up.

Leave him before you’re stuck with a child.

Choose yourself You deserve a partner who chooses you.

Divorced man’s Christmas plans spark suspicion and concern.

Co-parenting during holidays is tricky, but partner should prioritize relationship too. ❤️
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Blended family holidays can be tricky, communication is key

Suggest sending post to spouse for serious discussion

Partner prioritizes co-parenting over relationship, not ready to move on ♀️

Excluding significant others from Christmas with divorced parents is abnormal. NTA.

NTA. A partner who refuses to compromise isn’t worth keeping

Communication is key, but he sounds more devoted to his ex.

Pre-marriage red flag: Choosing ex over partner every Christmas

Ex’s Christmas rule is unfair to new partner and child.

NTA refuses to marry someone who prioritizes ex over holidays

A tough question about Christmas and future children.

Blended family dilemma: be #2 or move on?

Navigating holidays with exes and children is tough, NTA.

Curious about the custody arrangement and ex’s behavior

Co-parenting boundaries crossed during Christmas.

Is he really committed to a future with you?

Partner prioritizing ex on Christmas a deal-breaker.

NTA commenter suggests dumping partner prioritizing ex over holidays.

Being excluded from Christmas plans with stepkids seems sketchy

Husband prioritizes ex’s Christmas over wife’s, OP not the a-hole.

Protect yourself and run ♀️

Fiancé prioritizes his ex and daughter over his future wife

Dump him! Excluding you from Christmas for 5 years is rude

Ex’s manipulation is toxic. Partner deserves better.

Don’t wait for next Christmas, ditch him now ♀️

Choose yourself. It’s time to move on.

Red flags everywhere. Run away from this weak commitment-phobe

Engaged woman seeks advice on partner’s holiday plans with ex-wife

Dump him if he won’t prioritize your relationship

Ex’s behavior raises red flags for future relationship. ⚠️

Choose yourself, you deserve better

Divorced parents’ facade of ‘normal’ Christmas for daughter won’t last

Suggests discussing boundaries with ex and new spouse together

Divorced parents’ child offers holiday advice to conflicted partner

Prioritizing daughter is fine, but fiancée should not be forced. NTA

Dump him and run: Christmas is for family, not exes ❌

Blended family talk needed, expecting everything to stay same is delusional

Partner prioritizes ex over holidays with committed relationship. NTA.

Partner chooses ex over for every Christmas, NTA for reconsidering engagement.

Don’t marry him or have kids with him.

A pointed question about future family plans and Christmas traditions.

Co-parenting at Christmas: A suggestion for blended families

Fiancé prioritizes ex, future uncertain. Red flag or fixable issue?

Leave him ASAP, he doesn’t care.

Engagement gives time to rethink relationship and discuss holiday arrangements.

Warning: Don’t fall into the trap, move on

You deserve better than playing second fiddle every Christmas

Putting his ex before you and future kids is not okay

Suggests joining ex and her partner for Christmas, reasonable or not?

Don’t play second fiddle to the ex during the holidays

OP is being disrespected and needs to leave this toxic relationship.

Prioritizing his ex over you and future kids? NTA, leave.

User questions the logic of ex-husband staying with his ex-wife for Christmas.

Navigating coparenting struggles during the holidays can be tough.
