Picture this: you’re 19 years old and living with your boyfriend, Jake, in a cozy 3-bedroom rental. Life is good, right? But wait, there’s a twist! Jake’s mom, Vicky, has 8 other kids and one more on the way. With their 4-bedroom house already bursting at the seams, Vicky has a request for you and Jake: babysit the younger kids for a few weeks after the new baby is born. But you’ve already had a taste of babysitting and it wasn’t exactly a walk in the park. So, what do you do? Let’s dive into this story and find out!
Living Together with Jake
Moving In Together
Meet the Big Family
Cramped Living Space ️
Vicky’s Request
Not Up for Babysitting ♀️
Previous Babysitting Experience
Vicky’s Persistence
The Real Reason?
Alternative Proposal ️
Jake’s Guilt
Enabling or Not? ♀️
Feeling Like the A**hole
Babysitting Dilemma: A Big Family’s Big Request
Our protagonist finds herself in a tricky situation. She and her boyfriend, Jake, live in a 3-bedroom rental, while Jake’s mom, Vicky, has a house full of kids and another one on the way. Vicky asks the couple to babysit the younger kids for a few weeks after the new baby is born. However, our protagonist isn’t too keen on the idea, especially after a previous babysitting experience that left them spending their own money on the kids. Vicky persists, even suggesting they come stay on the family’s sofa to help out. Jake feels guilty, knowing his parents are overwhelmed, but our protagonist can’t help but feel like it’s immoral to enable them. So, what does the internet think of this situation? Let’s check out some top responses!
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NTA suggests birth control for struggling parents of 8 siblings.
NTA. Babysitting 4 kids under 10 is a full-time job
NTA refuses to babysit BF’s 8 siblings after new baby
“Waiting” for the baby? More like expecting free babysitting.
NTA stands up to unreasonable request to babysit eight siblings.
NTA. Plans to guilt you into babysitting multiple children. Say no.
NTA. Refusing to babysit 8 siblings for weeks at 19
User suggests sending Jake to take care of siblings. NTA.
Don’t let them guilt you into enabling their poor choices.
Supportive comment, advises against giving in to family pressure. ❤
Stand your ground against irresponsible behavior. You’re NTA.
NTA. Conversation needed. Parents should not force kids on others.
NTA and being parentified at 19? Hell no!
Setting boundaries with overwhelming family. Offer alternative help. NTA.
You’re NTA for not babysitting BF’s siblings. But how are you managing 4 kids for weeks?
NTA. It’s not your responsibility to babysit, but consider compromising
NTA, siblings shouldn’t be solely responsible for childcare.
NTA stands firm in refusing to babysit boyfriend’s siblings.
NTA. Jake’s girlfriend is not responsible for his siblings.
NTA. It’s not your responsibility to babysit eight siblings.
User rolls eyes at planned 10th child and predicts girlfriend as default babysitter, calls NTA sound “fun”
Choosing to have more kids, not your responsibility. Stand firm.
No way am I babysitting 8 siblings, not even one.
NTA, NTA and NTA again. No need to enable irresponsible parents.
Supportive comment suggests moving away from overwhelming family situation.
User finds it sad that the couple has 10 kids and won’t look after 4. Asks valid questions about birth control. NTA.
User calls out irresponsible parenting and warns against babysitting.
NTA suggests contraceptive for irresponsible mother.
User refuses to babysit BF’s 8 siblings after new baby!
Setting boundaries is healthy and necessary. Stick to your guns!
Birth control suggestion sparks agreement. NTA wins the thread!
Setting boundaries is important! NTA
Setting boundaries with family planning
Not responsible for BF’s siblings. Don’t fall for Vicky’s manipulation.
NTA suggests calling CPS and setting firm boundaries with BF.
Don’t let anyone guilt you into babysitting!
User suggests girlfriend not responsible for BF’s siblings, sparks debate.
NTA stands up against irresponsible parent with too many kids
NTA. Having 8 children isn’t an excuse for entitlement.
User refuses to babysit BF’s eight siblings after new baby
Don’t let them manipulate you into becoming a permanent babysitter.
Taking care of 10 kids is a lot, NTA suggests paid sitters.
Don’t let guilt control you, lay down the law
Strongly opinionated comment against babysitting sparks no replies.
NTA stands up for respecting boundaries and responsibility.
Setting boundaries and calling CPS if necessary.
NTA – Parents shouldn’t expect adult children to be babysitters
Taking care of 8 siblings is not babysitting, NTA.
Nope nope and nope Consequences of their choices.
Don’t be a babysitter, be a boss
Girlfriend not obligated to babysit BF’s 8 siblings after new baby
Set boundaries now to avoid a lifetime of guilt trips
No babysitting for irresponsible breeders. NTA!
NTA for not babysitting BF’s siblings after new baby
NTA. Responsibility and age are important factors.
NTA! His parents’ entitlement is insane. Stand your ground!
User refuses to babysit BF’s siblings, predicts permanent burden.
User advises to run from girlfriend’s family planning obsession.
Opinion on large families and attention for newborns.
Think twice before getting involved with a huge dumpster fire
Moving in together doesn’t make you a free babysitter!
Don’t let them pressure you into babysitting!
Supportive comment suggests therapy for boyfriend’s parentification trauma and setting boundaries
Don’t become her babysitter and ATM. Suggest social services help
Don’t let them dump their kids on you. Call CPS
Kind advice for a helpful but cautious NTA.
Being helpful without being taken for granted.
Responsibility for siblings’ kids isn’t yours. Stand your ground!
NTA, BF needs to set boundaries and Vicky needs birth control
NTA stands firm against babysitting BF’s siblings after new baby
Boundaries are important. NTA for standing up for yourself.
Savage comment shuts down irresponsible parents.
Don’t be guilt-tripped into babysitting your BF’s 8 siblings!
NTA, boyfriends’ parents need to stop having kids
NTA stands their ground on babysitting for irresponsible parents.
Taking care of 8 siblings after new baby? NTA.
NTA for not babysitting BF’s siblings. Where is their Dad?
Don’t sacrifice your dreams for others. NTA
Questioning the family planning decisions, NTA takes a stand
Responsibility of boyfriend’s siblings isn’t yours. NTA
