Friends DEMAND Woman Pay for New Girlfriend’s $60 Gift – She Says NO WAY!

Birthdays are a time for celebration, but what happens when a new addition to the friend group shakes up a long-standing tradition? I’ve been part of a tight-knit crew for over a decade, and we’ve always had a simple $20 budget for each other’s birthday gifts. But when my friend Alice’s new girlfriend Leah entered the picture, things got a bit… complicated. Buckle up, because this birthday drama is about to get wild!

Birthday Gift Tradition: 12 Years Strong!

New Girlfriend on the Scene: Meet Leah!

Keeping the Peace: I’ll Chip in $3

Pricey Book Request: $60 Shocker!

Suspicious Stinginess: Alice’s True Colors?

️‍♀️ Uncovering the Scheme: Tricking Us into Buying?

Fairness First: $20 Each or $40 from Alice

Sudden Change of Heart: Back to $20 Gifts

Pity Party: Alice Plays the Sympathy Card

‍♀️ Friends Fall for It: Sharing the Expenses

‍♀️ Standing My Ground: I’m Out!

Accused of Being Insensitive: It’s True, I Don’t Like Leah

Birthday Gift Blowup: Am I the A-hole for Refusing to Overspend? ‍♀️

So here’s the tea: Alice wants us to splurge on a $60 book for her girlfriend Leah’s birthday, even though our group’s gift budget has always been $20. I smell a scheme brewing, and I’m not about to let Alice trick us into footing the bill for her pricey present. ️‍♀️ I tried to be fair, suggesting we stick to our usual budget or have Alice cover the extra cost. But my friends fell for her pity party and decided to split the expenses. ‍♀️ I put my foot down and bowed out of the gift-giving extravaganza, only to be called insensitive and accused of disliking Leah. Sure, I’m not her biggest fan, but I was just trying to keep things fair! Let’s see what the internet has to say about this birthday brouhaha…

Standing firm on her word, NTA shuts down rude demand.

Stand your ground and don’t subsidize her personal gift

Respecting rules and questioning partner classification in friend group.

Setting a bad precedent by demanding payment for gift

Friend demands payment for girlfriend’s gift, commenter says NTA.

NTA sets a good boundary, questions if group gets credit.

Friend wants free gift for girlfriend, NTA says no

NTA puts friends in their place for demanding payment, calls out Alice’s inappropriate behavior

Being accommodating has limits. NTA for saying no

NTA! Friend wants her to pay for girlfriend’s $60 gift

Alice’s girlfriend vs the group dynamic

NTA: Friends demanding gift for new girlfriend is unreasonable

New girlfriend, old friends, and a gift-giving dilemma. NTA wins.

Navigating changing friend group dynamics and gift-giving expectations

NTA stands firm on not contributing to girlfriend’s gift. Raises valid points.

Friend group’s stingy gift budget criticized, OP NTA for refusing.

Gift budget of $3 for 26-year-olds? ESH for being cheap.

NTA: 26 y/o can afford gift if she likes gf enough

NTA gets called cheap for not buying girlfriend a book

Suggestion to include new girlfriend as a core member

NTA shuts down friend ‘crowdfunding’ expensive gift, gets ignored.

Is it worth the drama over $10? NTA stands firm. ‍♀️

Budget boundaries respected, but could have handled it better

Saying no to an unreasonable gift demand. Is $7 worth it?

NTA stands for Not The A-hole. This commenter thinks the woman’s friends are being stingy and that she should pay for her girlfriend’s gift herself.

Handling pressure like a boss!

Gift drama avoided with logical NTA response

Standing up for your budget and boundaries

Stop group gift giving, pay $10, ask for expensive item later

Don’t let anyone guilt you into buying an expensive gift #NTA

Setting boundaries on gift-giving, NTA stands firm.

Suggests buying a used book and questions why SO wasn’t included. #NTA

Gift-giving boundary. No present for friend’s SO, even if liked.

Girlfriend should pay for her own gift. NTA

Don’t let your ‘friends’ bully or manipulate you into spending money

Avoid group gift buying and stand your ground. NTA

Gifts are optional, adding unliked person not okay

NTA sticks to $20 budget, GF’s entitlement causes drama

Don’t let anyone bully you into giving a specific gift

Gift-giving drama: NTA declines ex-friend’s unreasonable demand

User questions why woman ‘deserves’ expensive gift from friends

Friend group demands $60 for new girlfriend’s gift – NTA refuses.

No gift for the rest of us? Not our problem. ‍♀️

Don’t let Alice manipulate you into paying for gifts

Pitch in $3 and be done with it. NTA

Being called petty for not chipping in an extra $7

Set boundaries and say no to over-budget gifts. ESH.

Group pressures woman to pay for expensive gift for girlfriend

NTA for not paying for GF’s gift. Friend is being cheap

Explaining your side to friends might help, NTA

Skipping out on a $60 gift? NTA, but drama ensues.

Is joint gift-giving normal? Commenter finds it bizarre.

NTA for not wanting to pay extra for friend’s girlfriend’s gift

Spending money on someone you don’t like? NTA

Group-splitting bills? Don’t be like Alice!

Unfair $60 gift demand for new GF, justified NTA response

User expects group to buy expensive gift for her SO

Generous gift-giving expectations just got more expensive

Friend demands gift payment, commenter calls out money grab.

NTA refuses to pay for friend’s SO’s gift, sets boundaries

Setting gift limits is important, going over and expecting others to pay is unfair.

Standing up against manipulation and unfair gift-sharing.

Compromise to remain in good standing with the group

NTA. Encouraging Alice to build credit is a responsible suggestion.

Standing up for fairness and budgeting, to OP

Fairness in gift-giving, NTA says no to unequal treatment

Friend asks if gender dynamic affects moral conundrum in group.

Standing up for boundaries and principles when gifting

Friend tries to make others pay $60 for gift, NTA.

NTA stands up for herself after being called insensitive

Don’t let your friend guilt trip you into paying!

Friend can’t buy $60 gift for SO? Insane! You’re NTA

No other partners got presents, why should hers?

The commenter sympathizes with the OP but advises to soften the delivery