Friend Expects Free Babysitting from the Squad : Fair or Unfair?

We’ve all heard of the saying, ‘It takes a village to raise a child,’ but what happens when one friend in a tight-knit group of five decides to have a baby and expects the others to share the responsibility? This is the story of Lilly and her friends, who are now facing a childcare dilemma that’s testing the limits of their friendship. Let’s dive into this emotionally charged situation and find out who’s right and who’s wrong.

The Friend Group’s Dilemma ‍♀️

Meet Lilly, the Expectant Friend

The Friends’ Advice

Reasons for Their Opinion

Lilly’s Decision

The Aftermath

Deadbeat Dad Confirmed

Lilly’s Expectations

The Friends’ Stance ‍♀️

Lilly’s Argument ️

The Big Question ❓

Lilly’s Justification

A Childcare Conundrum: Whose Responsibility?

So, here’s the situation: Lilly, a member of a close group of five friends, decided to have a baby despite her friends’ advice against it. Now, she expects the others to share the responsibility of raising her child, causing tension within the group. Lilly believes that since the father is a deadbeat, her friends should step in and help her out. The friends, on the other hand, argue that they chose not to have children in order to live their lives freely and that it was Lilly’s decision to have the baby, making it her sole responsibility. The question remains: should the friends help Lilly with her child, or is it her responsibility alone? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Parenting is a full-time job ‍ , not a favor. #NTA

Friend expects free babysitting from squad. NTA says comment.

Romanticization of motherhood blamed for unrealistic expectations of friends.

Paid childcare exists. Friends are not responsible for free babysitting.

Friend expects free babysitting, but commenters say NTA.

Friend needs mom friends for babysitting, not childless squad. NTA

Friends not obligated to babysit, NAH for setting boundaries

Single parents need help, but it’s unfair to expect it.

Not the a**hole for not wanting to co-parent her child

Friend with FOMO expects free babysitting, but NTA says no.

NTA stands their ground on babysitting expectations

Friend can’t expect free babysitting from squad. NTA.

Friend expects free babysitting, but commenter suggests setting boundaries.

Politely declining friend’s request for free babysitting. NTA.

Friends not obligated to co-parent due to bad decisions

“It takes a village” doesn’t mean free babysitting

NTA. Friends don’t owe free babysitting for someone else’s kid

Friendship or Free Babysitting? NAH suggests finding new friends

Not your kid, not your problem. NTA

Friend should take responsibility for her own child. NTA.

NTA commenter advises standing ground against entitled friend’s request for free babysitting.

Friend expects free babysitting and gets annoyed when not provided.

Friend expects free babysitting, but commenters say NTA.

NTA stands firm on not babysitting friend’s child.

Friend expects free babysitting, commenter says she’s NTA.

NTA. Friend’s entitlement to free babysitting is unfair and unreasonable.

Taking responsibility for your own child is a must.

User suggests alternative solutions for friend’s babysitting problem.

NTA stands up to entitled friend who expects free babysitting

Asking friends for free babysitting is unfair.

NTA, expecting free babysitting without discussing it is unreasonable ️

No obligation to babysit friend’s kid. Asking for help okay.

Friend expects free babysitting from squad, but commenters disagree.

Choosing not to have kids is valid and should be respected

Friend expects free babysitting from the squad: NTA says commenter

Maintaining friendships while parenting is tough. Communication is key.

Friend expects free babysitting, commenter says NTA and advises speaking up.

NTA- It’s not your responsibility to babysit her child for free

Single mom shares her experience and advises against friend’s expectation.

Having a baby doesn’t entitle free babysitting.

Friend made a choice, but expects free babysitting from friends

Friend expects free babysitting, but commenters say NTA.

Friend expects free babysitting from squad, commenter says NTA

Friend expects free babysitting, but commenter sets boundaries.

Stand up for yourself and don’t let others take advantage. ✊

Growing up with a mom who dumped me at friend’s houses for days, Lily needs to parent her kid. #NTA

Responsibility for a friend’s child shouldn’t fall on friends. NTA

Friend disregarded advice, now expects free babysitting from friends. NTA.

Choosing a child-free lifestyle doesn’t make you a babysitter

Friend expects free babysitting, expects too much from the squad

Not your kid, not your problem. Reality hit her hard

Friend expects free babysitting, commenter says NTA, child HER responsibility.

Friend expects free babysitting from the squad, commenter suggests adoption.

Friend expects free babysitting from friends, but commenters say no.

Friend expects free babysitting, commenter calls her out. NTA.

Father is a deadbeat, not your problem. NTA

Setting boundaries with a friend who expects free babysitting

New mom says friend shouldn’t expect free babysitting from squad

No free babysitting from friends. Responsibility lies with parents.

NTA: It’s not your job to babysit. Lilly chose this responsibility.

Having a child means missing out on things. NTA for refusing.

Setting realistic expectations for friendship and babysitting.

Grateful mom acknowledges friends’ voluntary babysitting, doesn’t expect more

Child-free friends not automatic babysitters. NTA

Friend expects free babysitting but needs to step up as a mom

Friend expects free babysitting from squad, but they’re NTA.

Friends agree that Lilly can’t expect free babysitting from them.

Friend’s entitled expectation of free babysitting gets shut down. NTA.

Friend expects free babysitting from squad: NTA says commenter.

Parenting sacrifices: NTA says Lily needs to accept it

Parenting responsibility lies with Lilly, not her friends. ‍♀️

Offer to chip in for a babysitter, but no obligation.

Friend expects free babysitting, commenter says NTA.