We all have that one friend who seems to only show up when it’s convenient for them. But what happens when that friend finally gets their long-awaited happiness and expects you to throw them a baby shower after years of ignoring your milestones? This story involves a group of five friends who have been close for two decades, but one friend, B, has been distant since struggling with infertility. Now that she’s pregnant, she’s suddenly back and expecting a full-blown baby shower.
Meet the Friend Group

B’s Infertility Struggles

The Group Honors B’s Request

B’s Absence During Tough Times

More Examples of B’s Disappearance

E’s Success Without B’s Support

Attempts to Keep B Involved

B’s IVF Success

B Assumes A Will Throw Baby Shower

A’s Reluctance to Plan the Shower

A’s Reasoning

A’s Feelings About B

A’s Decision

A Tough Decision for A
A is torn between her love for throwing parties and her resentment towards B, who has been absent from the group’s lives for years. B’s sudden return and expectation for a baby shower has left A questioning whether she should plan the event for someone who hasn’t been there for her and their friends. Will A put aside her feelings and throw the shower, or will she stand her ground and let B know she’s not entitled to a celebration after years of ignoring her friends? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. Friend pushed others away for years, now expects baby shower.

Politely decline hosting the baby shower and set clear boundaries.

Friend’s entitlement to a baby shower questioned by commenter.
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Former friend expects baby shower after ignoring milestones. NTA but conflicted.

NTA. Friend’s self-centered behavior hurt others. Direct communication needed.

Struggling with infertility, NTA threw her own shower. Etiquette explained.

Validating support for friend struggling with one-sided friendship.

Infertile friend demands support for baby shower after years of absence.
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No one is owed a baby shower. B hasn’t been a friend. NTA.
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Friend expects baby shower after ignoring others’ milestones. NTA!

NTA declines hosting baby shower, suggests sending invitation instead.

Formerly close friend reemerges after years of ignoring milestones

True friends don’t only show up for their own milestones #NTA

Friend expects baby shower after ignoring milestones of others.

Setting boundaries with unsupportive friends

Friend assumes baby shower, Redditor seeks advice before confronting.

Choosing to end a friendship over fertility is not healthy. NTA.

Friend neglects friends during important life events, doesn’t deserve shower

Don’t let others’ milestones define your happiness.

Honesty is the best policy when declining a baby shower ♀️

Don’t let her treat you like side characters in her life

Stand your ground! You’re definitely NTA in this situation

Politely decline and move on.

Cutting off toxic friends is hard but worth it. NTA.

Friend’s lack of empathy during friend’s crisis makes her NTA.

Stand your ground and don’t let her guilt-trip you

Not the a**hole for not wanting to throw a baby shower ♀️

Navigating infertility struggles and friendships after a baby shower request

Friend expects baby shower after ignoring others’ milestones – NTA

NTA! Will a self-centered person make a good parent?

Being pregnant doesn’t make up for being a bad friend

Friend ignores major life events of others, not a good friend.

Friend expects baby shower after ignoring friends for years. NTA.

Toxic ‘friend’ refuses to support others, NTA for not hosting.

Friend expects baby shower after ignoring milestones. NTA, be honest.

Heartbreaking miscarriage, still attended baby shower. Friend is self-centered.

Handling infertility doesn’t mean shutting out others’ milestones.

Friend’s past behavior doesn’t excuse selfish baby shower demands. NTA

Throwing a baby shower for a friend who ignored you? NTA

Formerly absent friend demands baby shower after ignoring others’ milestones. NTA.

Friend abandoned OP during tough times, but now expects baby shower.

Friend ignores milestones, demands baby shower. NTA says comment.

Being honest with her about why is important. NTA

Concerns raised about friend’s mental health and readiness for motherhood.

Friend expects baby shower after ignoring friends’ milestones for years. NTA.

Former friend expects a free party after ignoring everyone’s milestones

Friend demands baby shower despite ignoring others’ milestones. NTA.

No obligation to throw a baby shower for an entitled friend

Friend expects support during hard times but fails to reciprocate.

Friend ignores milestones, expects baby shower. NTA says comment.

Friend expects a baby shower without asking, NTA.
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Infertility is tough, but you can’t ghost friends and expect support.

Cut ties with fake friends to avoid resentment and drama

Friend expects baby shower after ignoring others’ milestones. NTA.

Not the a**hole. Short and sweet judgement.

Polite response shuts down entitled ‘friend’ demanding baby shower ♀️
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NTA for not wanting to throw a baby shower for B.

Supporting a friend through infertility without sacrificing milestones.

Friend expects baby shower after being a terrible friend

Friend ignores milestones, can’t opt back in for baby shower

Fairness matters! NTA for not celebrating after ignoring others’ milestones

Friend ignores others’ milestones, expects baby shower. NTA response.

Friend expects baby shower after ignoring milestones. NTA stands firm.

Commenter calls out friend’s selfish behavior with NTA verdict.
