We all know friendships can be complicated, but what happens when a friend refuses to help another during their darkest hour? One woman found herself in this exact situation after her friend’s husband passed away, leaving her with four kids and a dwindling bank account. The twist? This same friend had refused to help her years before, blaming her for her own partner’s infidelity. Now, it’s time to dive into this tale of friendship, betrayal, and the ultimate question: is it ever okay to refuse help to a friend in need?
A Trio of Friends

Infidelity Strikes

Friends to the Rescue…or Not?

Moving On and Moving Up

Amy’s World Comes Crashing Down

Friends Rally Around Amy

Babysitting Dilemma

The Big Refusal

Amy’s Angry Response

A Bitter Retort

Helping Hand Clarification

Babysitting Limits

No Revenge Here ♀️

Friendship Over?

To Help or Not to Help: The Ultimate Dilemma
This story of friendship and betrayal has us all questioning where we draw the line when it comes to helping friends in need. While the woman had been there for Amy in numerous ways, she couldn’t bring herself to babysit her kids, especially after Amy had once blamed her for her own partner’s infidelity. The two friends exchanged bitter words, leading to a potential end of their friendship. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Karma’s a b*tch! NTA comment section celebrates poetic justice

NTA for standing up to a rude friend, but maybe time to move on?

Cutting ties with a toxic friend – NTA
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Don’t stoop to her level, respectfully disengage from toxic friendship.

ESH comment and replies: OP’s revenge on a grieving friend is low

ESH. OP and Amy both made hurtful choices during grief.

A no-win situation: both friends acted poorly. ♀️ ♂️

Both parties are in the wrong, everyone sucks here.

Friend calls OP an a**hole, but OP is NTA. End friendship.

Friendship drama: NTA stands up for grieving friend
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Navigating the complexities of grief and friendship.

Holding onto resentment? YTA for using it to hurt friend.

Commenter defends denying help to grieving friend.

When friendship ends: a heartless but justified verdict
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Friend’s past comment not the only reason for denial of help.

Cutting ties with toxic friends: or ♀️?

Friend’s past words scarred friendship, but petty revenge unjustified. ♀️

Eye for an eye mentality makes the world a shithole

Friendship turned sour after husband’s death. Both equally at fault.
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OP and friend both suck, but OP should apologize

Unexpected post outcome, but commenter is NTA
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Commenters show lack of empathy towards grieving woman

Cutting off toxic friends is hard but necessary

Is it time to cut ties with this toxic friend? ♀️

Navigating complicated friendships after divorce

Two wrongs don’t make a right. ESH in a tough situation.

Commenter calls out OP and Amy for their behavior. ESH.

Friend refuses to help after husband’s death. NTA stands firm.
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Both parties need to be mature and move past the past

Commenter calls out both parties for wrong behavior.

Commenter calls out OP for lack of empathy and vindictiveness

Setting boundaries doesn’t mean being an a**hole too ♀️

Setting boundaries and standing up for yourself: NTA wins!

When karma serves a feast, is it okay to shove it?

Commenter believes friend is not the a**hole for denying help

Commenter advocates for not helping friend, with aggressive language

Harsh but fair judgment of friend’s behavior. Cut ties.

Curiosity strikes: Why maintain friendship with unsympathetic person?

Both parties acted poorly, but holding onto grudges is toxic.

Karma strikes back! NTA’s ex-friend gets a taste of her medicine

Commenter calls out hypocrisy in a heated exchange

NTA for being rude to someone who was unbelievably awful.

Amy’s not the a**hole for not helping, but why no daycare?

Commenter believes friend deserved to be denied help.

Commenter says ‘NTA’, advises woman to grow up

Rise above the negativity and be the hero she needs

Friends prioritize wealth over supporting each other in tragedy. ESH

Choosing to teach a lesson made you an ESH ❌

Both friends were bad to each other. Move on

Commenter calls out OP for insensitive comment. ESH.

Harsh comment and lack of empathy towards grieving friend.

Amy’s lack of apology raises questions about her sincerity.

Friend refuses to help after husband’s death. NTA, but harsh.

Commenter refuses to help friend in need, cites karma.

Short and not so sweet: commenter says NTA, no sympathy here

Cutting off toxic friends is sometimes necessary. #NoRegrets

Commenter defends person judged unfairly, karma strikes back

Harsh words come back to bite. NTA, Amy’s the AH.

Ending a friendship could have prevented this heartless situation ♀️

Friend denied help after husband’s death. Commenter calls out entitlement.

Savage reply to a justified NTA comment

True friends support each other, NTA for cutting ties

Commenter approves with a tasty twist

Friend refuses to help after husband’s death, but justified.

Ouch! Harsh response to a difficult situation.
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Rising above bad behavior: ESH comment section.
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